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coolbluewater is refering to the book called Men Are from Mars, Women Are from VenusOriginally posted by Cenarious:what book? if u meant A New Earth then why? have you read the book?
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oOriginally posted by neutral_onliner:coolbluewater is refering to the book called Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus -
he hasn't read that book yet.Originally posted by coolbluewater:One advice, never ever show the book to your husband..
You will hardly come across the type of MCPs that you've read, as most couples will be working to earn dual salaries for the family, hence you will never know who will go home first, who will cook, or will there ever be someone doing the cooking in the first place. Not talking back? most divorce case is not about one party talking back to the other, but both party not talking totally to each other.
With Women Charters, Girl power etc, I would say the 3 follow 4 virtues that you've mentioned is probably those older generations, and going to be extinct soon in Singapore. You could still find those in the 3rd world countries, or in countries like Japan and Korea where MCP is a norm.
yeah you are right that mcp-ing being a norm in japan korea & some 3rd world countries. i do have a couple of friends' hubbies are still one of those rare mcp type, they are the modern generation type - professionals educated liberal. behind those doors at home, you'll never know. my hubby maybe quite mcp at times, but i still get his attention & gentleness. men's ego are weird..... hahaaa
the point that i'm getting thru is that men & women have a different way of expressing themselves. women needs to talk it out while men prefer to get a hide away in silence to sort things out & when they come out of their cave, its like nothing happens & start afresh.
though i would prefer at times to be silent instead of talking things (if talk too much may also lead to more confusion), i would also like to talk things over if it could help improve better in terms of getting things straight & clear in relationship. i do find silence, tolerance & give/take beneficial in relationship.
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Originally posted by An Eternal Now:Wise Company gives good Advantage:
The blessed Buddha on Noble Friendship:
I am a friend and helper to all,
I am sympathetic to all living beings.
I develop a mind full of love & one
who always delight in harmlessness.
I gladden my mind, fill it with joy,
and make it immovable and unshakable.
I develop these divine states of mind
not cultivated by simple men.
Theragatha 648-9
I am a friend of the footless,
I am a friend of the bipeds;
I am a friend of those with four feet,
I am a friend of the many-footed.
May not the footless harm me,
may not the bipeds harm me,
may not those with four feet harm me,
and may not those with many feet harm me.
AN II 72
A friend who always lends a hand,
a friend both in sorrow and joy,
a friend who offers good counsel,
a friend who sympathizes too.
These are the four kinds of true friends:
one who is wise, having understood,
will always cherish and serve such friends
just as a mother tends her only child.
DN III, 188
Among tigers, lions, leopards & bears I lived on the wood.
No one was frightened of me, nor did I fear anyone.
Uplifted by such universal friendliness, I enjoyed the forest.
Finding great solace in such silent solitude.
Suvanna-sama Jataka 540
And how does a bhikkhu abide with his mind imbued with friendliness
extending over one direction? Just as he would feel friendliness on
seeing a dearly favourite person, so he extends loving-kindness
to all beings in all directions, as above so below.
Abhidhamma Pitaka: Appamanna-vibhanga
Bhikkhus, whatever kinds of worldly merit there are, all are not worth
one sixteenth part of the release of mind by universal friendliness;
in shining, glowing and beaming radiance such release of mind by
universal friendliness far excels & surpasses them all...
Itivuttaka 27
May this Metta (loving kindness) radiate throughout the world! It is most needed today. -
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If the tigers smells blood...the outcome would be differentOriginally posted by An Eternal Now:
May this Metta (loving kindness) radiate throughout the world! It is most needed today.
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It depends on how strong his metta is. If his metta is strong, he becomes like this:Originally posted by maggot:If the tigers smells blood...the outcome would be different http://www.buddhanet.net/e-learning/buddhism/lifebuddha/2_5lbud.htm
(Part Two) 5. Devadatta, the Buddha's Enemy
Devadatta was the son of King Suppabuddha and his wife Pamita, who was an aunt of the Buddha. Devadatta's sister was Yasodhara, making him both a cousin and brother-in-law of the Buddha. Together with Ananda and other Sakyan princes, he entered the order of monks in the early part of the Buddha's ministry, but was unable to attain any stage of sainthood and so worked hard for the worldly psychic powers.
In his early days, he was a good monk known for his grace and psychic powers. Later he became conceited with worldly gain and fame. As his ill-will and jealousy towards the Buddha increased, he became the greatest personal enemy of the Buddha.
One day in a large assembly, which included kings and princes, Devadatta approached the Buddha and asked him to make him the leader of the Sangha. Since he was not capable and worthy enough, the Buddha turned down this request. Devadatta became very angry as a result and vowed to take revenge on the Buddha.
Although Devadatta was an evil monk, he had many admirers and followers. One of his chief supporters was King Ajatasattu, with whom he discussed his anger and plots for revenge. Together they planned to kill King Ajatasattu's father and rival, King Bimbisara and Devadatta's enemy, the Buddha. Ajatasattu succeeded in killing his father, but Devadatta failed to kill the Buddha.
His first attempt to kill the Buddha was to hire a man to kill the Blessed One. The plan was that the man be killed by two other men who would in turn be killed by four other men. Finally the four men would be killed by eight other men. But when the first man came close to the Buddha, he became frightened. He put aside his weapons and took refuge in the Buddha. Eventually all the men who were hired to kill one another became disciples of the Buddha and the cunning plan failed.
Then Devadatta himself tried to kill the Buddha. When the Buddha was walking on the Vultures' Rock, Devadatta climbed to the peak and hurled a huge stone at the Buddha. On its way down, the rock struck another rock and a splinter flew and wounded the Buddha's foot, causing blood to flow. The Buddha looked up and seeing Devadatta, he remarked with pity, "Foolish man, you have done many unwholesome deeds for harming the Buddha."
Devadatta's third attempt to kill the Blessed One was to make the fierce man-killer elephant, Nalagiri, drunk with liquor. When Nalagiri saw the Buddha coming at a distance, it raised its ears, tail and trunk and charged at him. As the elephant came close, the Buddha radiated his loving-kindness (metta) towards the elephant. So vast and deep was the Buddha's love that as the elephant reached the Buddha, it stopped, became quiet and stood before the Master. The Buddha then stroked Nalagiri on the trunk and spoke softly. Respectfully, the elephant removed the dust at the master's feet with its trunk, and scattered the dust over its own head. Then it retreated, with its head facing the Buddha, as far as the stable, and remained fully tamed. Usually elephants are tamed with whips and weapons, but the Blessed One tamed the elephant with the power of his loving-kindness.
Still trying to be the leader of the Sangha, Devadatta tried yet another plan — a deceitful one. With the help of five hundred misled monks, he planned to split the Sangha community.
He requested the Buddha to make it compulsory for monks to follow five extra rules:
(i) Dwell all their lives in the forest
(ii) Live only on alms obtained by begging
(iii) Wear robes made from rags collected from the dust heaps and cemeteries
(iv) Live at the foot of trees
(v) Refrain from eating fish or meat throughout their lives.
Devadatta made this request, knowing full well that the Buddha would refuse it. Devadatta was happy that the Buddha did not approve of the five rules, and he used these issues to gain supporters and followers. Newly ordained monks who did not know the Dharma well left the Buddha and accepted Devadatta as their leader. Eventually, after Venerable Sariputta and Venerable Moggallana had explained the Dharma to them, they went back to the Buddha.
After this, evil days fell on Devadatta. He fell very ill at the failure of his plans, and before his death he sincerely regretted his actions, and wanted to see the Buddha before he died. But the fruits of his evil karma had begun to ripen and prevented him from doing so. He grew desperately ill on the way to see the Buddha, near the gate of Jetavana monastery. But before he died he took refuge in the Buddha.
Although he has to suffer in a woeful state because of his crimes, the holy life he led in the early part of his career ensured that Devadatta would become a Pacceka Buddha named Atthissara in the distant future. As a Pacceka Buddha he would be able to achieve Enlightenment by his own efforts. -
Posted this post more than one month ago... before that time I dreamt of Thaksin... thought something would happen to him.... hahaha... now something really happenedOriginally posted by An Eternal Now:An interesting article I came upon when looking into some of the newspaper articles I kept over the years for reference in the future.
This one written in October 2005, before Prime Minister Thaksin of Thailand stepped down. It is about Phra Luangta, also known as Ajahn Maha Boowa, criticising Prime Minister Thaksin for his ways. I have seen Ajahn Maha Boowa's book, he is truly an enlightened master. Known to be an arhant He does comment on the political situations, and he is quite a psychically powerful person so I believe he could foresee certain things coming... in fact this is not the first time he was featured on the Straits Times if I remember.
I scanned and uploaded the article: http://share.ws/links/luangtaarticle/
Maybe if Thaksin have listened to Ajahn Maha Boowa, (and that article was even before Shin Corp issue) thaksin wld not reach this state. -
wow... forum becomes so quiet when i'm not around?
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Everyone else is busy with their own lives...Originally posted by An Eternal Now:wow... forum becomes so quiet when i'm not around? -
I don't really know if Thaksin really involved in corruption, but one thing I am quite sure is he help thailand to recover from 1997 currency crisis. Under his rule, thailand is free from military rule for 15 years, the longest in modern thailand history. The constitution that he created is also widely regarded as the most democratic consitution so far. He has won majority support from the people in the recent election.Originally posted by An Eternal Now:Posted this post more than one month ago... before that time I dreamt of Thaksin... thought something would happen to him.... hahaha... now something really happened
Maybe if Thaksin have listened to Ajahn Maha Boowa, (and that article was even before Shin Corp issue) thaksin wld not reach this state.
While his personal moral may be in doubt, but to judge a leader of a country, we have to focus on his contribution to the entire nation instead of his personal conduct. -
welcome backOriginally posted by An Eternal Now:wow... forum becomes so quiet when i'm not around? 
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Will not be around so often anymore cos will be preparing for exams. So, take care of the forumOriginally posted by neutral_onliner:welcome back 
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Originally posted by justdoit77:
You mean 5 years?
I don't really know if Thaksin really involved in corruption, but one thing I am quite sure is he help thailand to recover from 1997 currency crisis. Under his rule, thailand is free from military rule for 15 years, the longest in modern thailand history. The constitution that he created is also widely regarded as the most democratic consitution so far. He has won majority support from the people in the recent election.
While his personal moral may be in doubt, but to judge a leader of a country, we have to focus on his contribution to the entire nation instead of his personal conduct.
Yes true... undoubtedly ex-Prime Minister Thaksin is the strongest Prime Minister and is the Prime Minister that has contributed the most to the Nation (economically and otherwise) in Thai History.. and no other Prime Minister has survived for so many years "un-couped" So that is already a great achievement. Anyway Ajahn Maha Boowa knew about this, in fact he helped promoted Prime Minister Thaksin to become Thailand's Prime Minister at the very beginning, because he knew that Thaksin would be a very powerful and strong leader and Thailand needs that.
But then... Prime Minister Thaksin seems to become power-hungry these years and people are becoming more aware of that.. he didn't seem like that in the past. If he didn't become "too much" such that even the Thai King is becoming somewhat wary and afraid of him, I'm sure he wouldn't have come to such conclusions. -
Remember to return my A New Earth this Saturday hor... thanksOriginally posted by Cenarious:what book? if u meant A New Earth then why? have you read the book?
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This month's shares drop to 52.082Originally posted by An Eternal Now:Activity Rating: 61.832
You guys must do a better job this month .... i wont be posting much -
impermanenceOriginally posted by An Eternal Now:This month's shares drop to 52.082
You guys must do a better job this month .... i wont be posting much -
Let's make it an upward impermanence.Originally posted by neutral_onliner:impermanence -
It is 15 years since the last coup happened in thailand.
Thaksin has plan to change thailand politicial system from Constitutional Monarchy to republic after the end of the current thai king. He may be one of the many thailand people who don't like the crown prince.
May be the thai king feel unease and he want to maintain power balance among government, military and king and hence make the supporting statement to military coup.
Thaksin has made it clear to the public that he will step down as soon as the king say a word that he is not suitable to be PM.
What other way is better than election to bring down a power hungry leader or party.
Anyway, let's hope this to be the last coup, and military to be out of politics forever.Originally posted by An Eternal Now:You mean 5 years?
Yes true... undoubtedly ex-Prime Minister Thaksin is the strongest Prime Minister and is the Prime Minister that has contributed the most to the Nation (economically and otherwise) in Thai History.. and no other Prime Minister has survived for so many years "un-couped" So that is already a great achievement. Anyway Ajahn Maha Boowa knew about this, in fact he helped promoted Prime Minister Thaksin to become Thailand's Prime Minister at the very beginning, because he knew that Thaksin would be a very powerful and strong leader and Thailand needs that.
But then... Prime Minister Thaksin seems to become power-hungry these years and people are becoming more aware of that.. he didn't seem like that in the past. If he didn't become "too much" such that even the Thai King is becoming somewhat wary and afraid of him, I'm sure he wouldn't have come to such conclusions. -
It is said in the Ksitigarbha sutra that those that burn down forests will die mentally unbalanced. Brahma net sutra also warned against forest burning, among other sutras if I am not wrong. We should chant for them.
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