What spiritual techniques do you use in controlling lust?
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Originally posted by Fire Star:
lust is a form of likes. the opposite of like is dislike. like see-saw. hence dislike is the remedy. can even go to the extend of generating aversion toward this object of attachment.
What are the methods you would employ to eliminate lust?
but i sometime use equanimity, see them as younger/elder 'sister'/siblings. thinking one of their past life, they use to be man....
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dat is free thinker. atheist is one who dun believe in god.Originally posted by PointBlue:My technique when I see a hot babe is to imagine her without the long hair and feminine body, and treat her as a guy.
It may sound offensive, but it works great for me. I view lust as an insatiable err of human nature, and must be purged from the heart and mind.
I ain't Buddhist though, but I'm an atheist who believes in the good of all religion. -
Take a cold shower every time you feel the heat lor........!
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I have no lust as I have no feelings for anything.Originally posted by Cenarious:i dont know how to describe and i dont wish to think it out for u.
in the past i thought people had fair skin (like no pimples ect) because they had good genes but later i found out facials and moisturisers can make your skin smoother than anyone else's so there is nothing special about fair skins and that helped me greatly.
i think everything is due to habits (so i try to break all habits, those as subtle as i can find), thats why i felt like i discovered a "theory of everything" when i read eckhart tolle's books
oh ya, you have to look at your own mind and find for yourself why your lust arise. -
Eunuch? Asexual?Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:I have no lust as I have no feelings for anything.
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Ai yo .... Simple "Don't think"
Example 1: Do you think to breath? You don't need to think to breath, but you breath normally.
Example 2: Do you "Think" to walk? Nope, you just walk.
Example 3: Do you have to "Think" to digest your food? Nope, body digest naturally.
So, many things in life we don't have to "Think Into It". Lust is one which when a person see something sexual. Not necessary to be a pretty women. The persons let it's mind relate this sexual stuff & further relate it. Developing a "Moving Thoughts" (Habit). This "Moving Thougths" = Lust.
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people with deep habits will find this hard.Originally posted by surfer188:Ai yo .... Simple "Don't think"
Example 1: Do you think to breath? You don't need to think to breath, but you breath normally.
Example 2: Do you "Think" to walk? Nope, you just walk.
Example 3: Do you have to "Think" to digest your food? Nope, body digest naturally.
So, many things in life we don't have to "Think Into It". Lust is one which when a person see something sexual. Not necessary to be a pretty women. The persons let it's mind relate this sexual stuff & further relate it. Developing a "Moving Thoughts" (Habit). This "Moving Thougths" = Lust.
Hope it helps. -
Asexual...Originally posted by An Eternal Now:Eunuch? Asexual? -
Could be your biological configuration then. Old people or young children do not have much lust too.Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:Asexual... -
If "people" like to really stop Lust, I think first "People" need to have understandings of how "Mind Works".Originally posted by Cenarious:people with deep habits will find this hard.
Like: from a object, mind always try to "Relate" it to something of Habits. So breaking the cycle of this "Relating" effectively stops "Thinking". Most of the time, will see something more really.
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It could also be my psychological configuration too. I just don't feel.Originally posted by An Eternal Now:Could be your biological configuration then. Old people or young children do not have much lust too.
You can always try reconditioning your mind by ice-pick lobotomy, it's a viable but dangerous method to stop lust, to stop falling into sleep, etc... -
What??? Nothing else to disagree with my method?Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:It could also be my psychological configuration too. I just don't feel.
You can always try reconditioning your mind by ice-pick lobotomy, it's a viable but dangerous method to stop lust, to stop falling into sleep, etc... -
As a lay-person, i think it is okay to have lust..
btw what kind of lust are u refering to? Lust for a crush or for all woman u see on street?
If mind is too preoccupied with lust 24/7 then of course it becomes very unhealthy...
People who can't control themselves and commit crime of passion..
can meditate on the problem or apply AEN's posted method... or ask venerable who might give the right medicine to the appropriate/customized problem... The more u learn more about buddhism, the more it will helps in the practice.. so continue to practise and preserve
It helps if stop things that will help increase lust's appetite... for a start, could decrease and ( hopefully ) ... stop surfing porn and ahem. other u-knw-what-activites.
Focus energy on other meaningful activites to occupy your mind.. and u will find urself less thinking about lust.. if still can't stop it.. then use the meditative method..
Personally, when im too busy.. i don't even have the time or energy to think about it... and i feel that the meditative method is the best approach as it apprehend the problem at its source.. -
I don't think 'reconditioning' is the right word to use..Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:It could also be my psychological configuration too. I just don't feel.
You can always try reconditioning your mind by ice-pick lobotomy, it's a viable but dangerous method to stop lust, to stop falling into sleep, etc...
ice-pick lobotomy has been a discredited procedure.
A lobotomy is an irreversible procedure -- damage to neural tissues almost never heals. 60% of the patients ( who are forced to be performed on ) become vegetable, paralysed, died and suffering other effects in the 1940s. -
I just want to add for those who are really serious about controlling and practise transcending it.. pls refer to AEN and other forumer's posting...
There are tremendous benefits in practising it..
May all be well and happy =) -
As I said, it's a risky procedure but not a discredited procedure. What you do in a lobotomy is the destruction of brain cells which affect human behavioural controls. Side effects are expected.Originally posted by Isis:I don't think 'reconditioning' is the right word to use..
ice-pick lobotomy has been a discredited procedure.
A lobotomy is an irreversible procedure -- damage to neural tissues almost never heals. 60% of the patients ( who are forced to be performed on ) become vegetable, paralysed, died and suffering other effects in the 1940s. -
A better method is using drugs. It can suppress certain fields.Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:What??? Nothing else to disagree with my method?
Then again... if you know the dharma you don't need to depend on them for such matters. -
But it's not permanent and not as cheap as a simple operation...Originally posted by An Eternal Now:A better method is using drugs. It can suppress certain fields.
Then again... if you know the dharma you don't need to depend on them for such matters. -
it is a discredited procedure.. that why it is now replaced by chemical lobotomy of tranquilizers and other disabling psychiatric medications.Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:As I said, it's a risky procedure but not a discredited procedure. What you do in a lobotomy is the destruction of brain cells which affect human behavioural controls. Side effects are expected. -
Easy , juz ask yourself , real deep , what is lust and why you have the feel of lust
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Simi lan jiao? Lobotomy of tranquilizers? Tranqs are "downers" and tend to cause a person to be sleepy, what happens when you want the patient to be wide awake? What happens when your other psychiatrical drugs start fooling around with serotonin re-uptake?Originally posted by Isis:it is a discredited procedure.. that why it is now replaced by chemical lobotomy of tranquilizers and other disabling psychiatric medications. -
Majority of the people become insane, suffer from a serious change of personality and suffering from some sort of permanent veggie state.. and the damage CANNOT be reversible.Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:Simi lan jiao? Lobotomy of tranquilizers? Tranqs are "downers" and tend to cause a person to be sleepy, what happens when you want the patient to be wide awake? What happens when your other psychiatrical drugs start fooling around with serotonin re-uptake?
yea there are tranquilizers for lobotomy AND drugs.. better than ur ice-lobo method