How to deal with Difficult People in Office?
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I am sure everywhere, not necessary in office, where you have to come face to face with difficult and unpleasant people, like relatives, customers, colleagues and bosses as well.
Any strategies to deal with these people? -
Simple , one ear in , the other ear out . Pretend to be stupid to piss them off back .
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Yeah and if you do not fulfill your workscope, you will be fired.
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Compromise... just simply be like them...
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Use your wisdom to deal with things and practise the Patience paramita. It's a great opportunity.Originally posted by marcteng:I am sure everywhere, not necessary in office, where you have to come face to face with difficult and unpleasant people, like relatives, customers, colleagues and bosses as well.
Any strategies to deal with these people? -
do your own work and have less ego, meaning your reaction towards their actions
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Yes it's a great opportunity to cultivate.. and being aware so as not to become attached to mental stories.Originally posted by Eric Cartman:do your own work and have less ego, meaning your reaction towards their actions
The Diamond Sutra states: "There is no ego form, no human form, no sentient being form, and no age form."[2] The 'age form' refers to the 'time form', that is the characteristic of time. If there is no 'age form', then there is no 'time form'. If there is no 'time form', then we depart from the four forms altogether. To achieve the no 'age form' we must abide by what the Diamond Sutra states: "The mind of the past cannot be grasped, the mind of the present cannot be grasped, the mind of the future cannot be grasped."[3] If we can detach from these Three Minds, eradicate the four forms, then we immediately attain liberation, peace and happiness. -
a good natured spiritual advisor once said :" the company/boss/ppl dont own u , and u just bcos ur working in the company doesnt mean u have to bow to these pple " >>>
which is true as she further added that which adds a smile to my face that that uu
they will get something in return for their "labour / gossips / bad intention "" ...not to themselves but to their loved ones /childrenn whom will b "rewarded"..
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Simplest way, a sure work strategy : act blur, act stupid, always let them win, let them feel that they are the king of the world. Don't overtake them. If you could do that, they'll feel that you are absolutely harmless, and useless at the same time.Originally posted by marcteng:I am sure everywhere, not necessary in office, where you have to come face to face with difficult and unpleasant people, like relatives, customers, colleagues and bosses as well.
Any strategies to deal with these people?
But at the same time, do not cultivate hatred within yourself, always think of it as what they do to you is for your own good. You may not appreciate then, but when you will eventually. -
Yes that is what my dharma teacher often say... ever since she start working she is always very 'blur', 'stupid', very honest and innocent... then in the end everyone treat her very nicely and never take advantage of her, and always help her.Originally posted by coolbluewater:Simplest way, a sure work strategy : act blur, act stupid, always let them win, let them feel that they are the king of the world. Don't overtake them. If you could do that, they'll feel that you are absolutely harmless, and useless at the same time.
But at the same time, do not cultivate hatred within yourself, always think of it as what they do to you is for your own good. You may not appreciate then, but when you will eventually. -
Hello, I'm new here. Just thought I'd chip in my 2 cents' worth.
Forgive them. No one is perfect. Use your encounters with them as opportunities to refine your thoughts and actions. Take it easy. -
I think firstly, you have to work with yourself. Reflect on your past wrong intention, actions and speech and seek repentance to the Buddha.
Secondly, when you are feeling hurt and anger.
Mayb u are attached more to the feeling of "me"
"why they hurt me so?"
"Why they like that one?"
"why i cant let go?"
when u put I n Me n enlarge it..u will feel the pain.
which is not induced by others but urself -
For me, ignore, ignore, ignore.......
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Kill them!!! Just kidding....... where can let them die so easily, we must torture them, skin them alive!!!!!!!!
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1. Read situation positively
2. Mix around more. There's the people aspect to work
3. Constantly seek to improve one's communication skills
Above all, have a heightened sense of awareness. -
Act only when your are absolutely sure.Originally posted by :For me, ignore, ignore, ignore.......
Then tell the person, what you think or feel. Nicely.
When you are not sure, suspect only, then ignore, ignore, ignore.
But to difficult customers, be cautious. -
A passage from "Words of wisdom" from venerable Shi Fazhao:
"According to a sutra, in the previous life of the Buddha, he was scolded by 500 "scolding experts" who followed him and scolded him whenever he went. The Buddha did not have the slightest anger, only compassionate observation. His practice of patience finally won him supreme enlightenment. This show that patience is an important quality in attaining Buddhahood."
I know it is not easy for people like us to have such kind of patience, but see it this way: if even Buddha can ecountered such aggressive stalkers, then it is natural that we will meet with difficult people once a while. So relax, who knows? Maybe we are one of the 500 "scolding experts" so now got "toasted".