How to be a kind and gentle?

• Isis

  29 Apr 07, 21:31

  Eh the topic might sound abit bo liao...
  
  but i could like to hear tips about developing to be a kind and gentle buddhist?
  Kind and gentle in words, actions and thought... i think not easy wor..
  
  From what i know, Morality helps to develop one to develop to be kind and gentle.
  
  Personally, im quite a firm person so being gentle isn't my forte.. could like to hear tips on how to develop into one?
• Isis

  29 Apr 07, 21:45

  Eh.. just to share my friend who is actually quite a kind and gentle person.. i feel.... her tactics are...
  
  Practise to be kind and gentle with yourself, then towards your parents and sibilings and then to close friends who treat you well. Further extend to the people outside your social circle.. Not to judge too much and accept people as whom they are.
  
  Practise compassionate and patience with people.
• Advent_Surge

  29 Apr 07, 22:06

  i think it depends on the mood sometimes...
• An Eternal Now

  29 Apr 07, 22:45

  I think you answered your question very well... hehe
  
  I think our words should be gentle, loving words... that can only come from loving-kindness, compassion, concern for other people.. in this case our words will never hurt them though we still have to be mindful not to use the wrong words unintentionally.
• Isis

  30 Apr 07, 13:16

  mmm i think not easy... im still quite agressive by nature... i want to tone it down..
  
  erm anymore tips?
• neutral_onliner

  30 Apr 07, 16:07

  Originally posted by Isis:

  mmm i think not easy... im still quite agressive by nature... i want to tone it down..
  
  erm anymore tips?

  Hi Isis & all,
  
  Maybe u might find this helpful
  
  Loving-Kindness meditation
  
  metta