How to abstain from sexual desires.

• Forrest_Gump

  2 May 08, 16:07

  Hi guys.

  Is there anyway through Buddhism where I can abstain from all sexual desires?

  Is there any mantra, ways or methods to solve this problem?

  Please give me your advise.

  Thanks

• sofital

  2 May 08, 16:47

  To abstain from sexual desires, you have to see every sexual object or every matters as in state of putrefaction or being rotten.Be aware and observe the feeling of mind coming from six sense doors.

• An Eternal Now

  2 May 08, 19:38

  From a post last year by me:

  Very sorry for taking so long to post. Here is a summary.
  
  The Chinese text was talking about the king who is concerned with the progress of youngsters and the distraction of sexual lust on the youth's academic and work perfomance. He requested the give instructions on how to be free from sexual lust.
  
  The Buddha gave 3 suggestions:
  
  1) The female that is more elder in age should be looked upon as one's Mother or aunt. For the female that is younger in age one should look upon her as one's own sister and for one that is very young in age, one should look upon her as one's.. uh, (sorry I don't know what's that someone can tell me ). In this way, one's mind will be in stillness, and ones three poisons, Greed, Hatred and Ignorance will be transformed and dissolved by one's Wisdom naturally.
  
  2) One should review this very frame of body upwards from the soles of the
  feet, & downwards from the tips of the hairs, enclosed in skin, as
  full of many kinds of impurities: There are in this body head-hairs,
  body-hairs, nails, teeth, skin, flesh, sinews, bones, bone-marrow,
  kidneys, heart, liver, pleura, spleen, lungs, intestines, mesentery,
  vomit in the stomach, excrement, bile, lymph, pus, blood, sweat, fat,
  tears, mucus, saliva, snot, fluid of the joints, urine and the various impurities, this way one can be freed from sexual lust and the mind will naturally be still.
  
  3) One should guard one's six sense doors: Eyes, ears, nose, tongue, body, mind.. if one's eyes sees sights, one should not grasp on the appearances, do not give rise to discriminative mind and naturally our attachment will be dissolved. After one guards his eye-sense faculty one should then guard the other senses (ears, nose, tongue, body and mind), do not give rise to discriminative mind and naturally craving will not arise.

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  Therefore to summarise, there is 1) To change perception of females as 'mothers' or 'sisters', 2) To contemplate the impurities and impermanence of the body from head to toe 3) To guard and close our six sense doors, do not give rise to attachment to appearances and discriminative mind/consciousness (which is why mindful awareness is very important)

• lemuelkoh

  3 May 08, 00:48

  Nil

• An Eternal Now

  3 May 08, 13:57

  Originally posted by lemuelkoh:

  Free your mind of laws and norms. Get out there and wank till you drop

  If anyone does that I will call the IMH.

• eagle

  3 May 08, 13:59

  chop off

  jkjk

• lemuelkoh

  4 May 08, 02:32

  Originally posted by An Eternal Now:

  If anyone does that I will call the IMH.

  LOL!

   

• An Eternal Now

  4 May 08, 02:35

  Originally posted by eagle:

  chop off

  jkjk

  Here is what Buddha said about such people.

  Now at that time a certain monk, tormented by dissatisfaction, cut off his own male organ. They told this matter to the Lord. He said: "This foolish man, monks, cut off one thing when another should have been cut off. Monks, one should not cut off one's own male organ. Whoever should cut it off, there is a grave offence."
  (Vinaya Piṭaka, Mah�vagga 110. Horner trans.)

  note: "Another" means afflictions and defilements due to ignorance.

• rokkie

  6 May 08, 16:04

  Originally posted by An Eternal Now:

  Here is what Buddha said about such people.

   

  Now at that time a certain monk, tormented by dissatisfaction, cut off his own male organ. They told this matter to the Lord. He said: "This foolish man, monks, cut off one thing when another should have been cut off. Monks, one should not cut off one's own male organ. Whoever should cut it off, there is a grave offence."
  (Vinaya Piṭaka, Mah�vagga 110. Horner trans.)

  note: "Another" means afflictions and defilements due to ignorance.

  yes buddha said that,buddha said ppl should cut heart addiction to sex.

• JitKiat

  6 May 08, 17:02

  Being a vegetarian may help. Take five precepts may help too. Practise reciting Amitabha immediately when your thought of sex arise.

• rokkie

  7 May 08, 13:32

  read more about the emptiness,then u will relieved

• Bodhi hut

  7 May 08, 15:06

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