Ven. Dhammika posted an interesting post today:
http://sdhammika.blogspot.com/2008/05/gay-tragedy.html
A Gay Tragedy
Occasionally someone, usually a young man but sometimes a young women
or an older man or women, will approach me and after a few minutes of
hesitation or beating around the bush, ask me what the Buddhist
position on homosexuality is. When they do, I tell then that
intentional actions (kamma) modify consciousness and that our kamma
conditions our future.
Positive intentional acts have positive effects (vipaka) and negative
intentional acts have a negative effect. Sexual acts motivated by the
usual intentions, feelings and emotions which exist between two people
who love each other, would have a positive effect and would not
infringe the third Precept, whether they be homosexual or
heterosexual. I underline this point by saying that Buddhist ethics
about sex are primarily concerned with the motives behind out sexual
behavior, rather than the gender of our partner. This being so, if two
people of the same gender express their love for each other physically
there is no good reason why the kamma this creates should be any
different from when two people of the opposite gender do the same.
Having said this I then try to change the subject, not because I am
embarrassed talking about homosexuality, but because I do not like the
`single issue' approach to Dhamma. However, a few years ago I had an
encounter which made me realize that inquiries about homosexuality,
whether from gays themselves or their families, should be given my
whole attention. However theoretical or marginal this issue may be to
me it is likely to be of considerable import to the people who ask
such questions.
A young man named Julian rung me asking if he could come and talk to
me about Buddhism. I said he could and on the appointed day and time
he came. Julian turned out to be about 20 old, of slight build and
with pleasant features. He was well groomed and neatly dressed. He
started by asking me a few questions about some aspects of Buddhism
but I sensed that these were not really what he was interested in.
Finally the question came, "Venerable, can a gay person be a good
Buddhist?" I gave my usual reply but it soon became clear that this
did not please him. He kept interjecting and expressing doubts about
what I said. I answered all his objections but he remained unconvinced.
Arriving at a deadlock and not knowing what more I could say I asked
him if he was gay. He blushed, cleared his throat and said that he
was. Then he told me his story. Since his early teens he noticed that
he was attracted to other boys and had a particular interest in
woman's clothes. Horrified by these feelings he kept them well under
control. A year ago while doing his national service he had met
another soldier who was gay and since that time they had been having a
relationship, although a guilt-filled and fugitive one. Once or twice
a month they would pool their recourses and book a hotel for the
night. He would dress in woman's clothes, put on makeup and they would
spend the night together. For Julian at least, this would be followed
by days of self-loathing and resolutions never to do it again. After
he had finished telling me this he hung his head and said, "This must
be wrong." "Well," I said, "some people would find it a bit strange.
But from a Buddhist perspective I really can't see that it is
particularly harmful. Satisfying sexual urges is a perfectly natural
thing to do and it is acceptable where it does not involve adultery or
harming others.
The conflict you create within yourself by hating what are completely
harmless feelings hurts you much more than being gay ever could. There
is no reason why you can't practice the Precepts – respecting the
life, the prosperity and the sexual feelings of others, their right to
know the truth and keeping your mind free from intoxicants – while
being gay." He was silent but I could see that I had not been able to
still his doubts. Julian visited me two more time over the next two
month and our conversations were about the Dhamma in general although
we also went over the same territory concerning homosexuality with
very much the same results.
Then, after not having seen or heard from Julian for nearly six month
I got a call from him. He told me that a famous Taiwanese monk was in
town giving a series of talks and that he had managed to get a few
minuets with him. He had asked the monk the same question he had asked
me and the monk had told him that homosexuality was a filthy, evil
thing and that homosexuals get reborn in the lowest hell where they
are boiled in excrement for eons. Julian said this with in an almost
triumphant tone, seemingly glad that he had proved me wrong or that he
had found someone who agreed with him. I asked him what else this
venerable monk had said. "Nothing," he replied. "He was going
somewhere and only had a few minuets to talk."
How often has this happened to me? I have told an inquirer something
about Buddhism which I know to be sound, sensible and in accordance
with the Tipitaka, they go to another monk who tells them the exact
opposite and then they come back to me asking me to explain the
anomaly. Then I am stuck with the problem of either saying that the
other monk doesn't know what he is talking about (which is often the
case) and appearing to be an arrogant upstart, or biting my lip,
saying nothing and letting the person go away with yet another
half-baked notion or superstition thinking that it is Dhamma. How
often? Very often! In most cases this is just frustrating. In this
case it had tragic consequences.
"Look Julian" I said, "You asked me what Buddhism would say about
homosexuality and I told you based on my 20 years of studying the
Buddhist scriptures and thinking about various issues in the light of
the Buddha's Dhamma. I don't know what else I can say." I told him
that if he wanted to talk with me at any time he was welcome to do so
and then we hung up.
Four days later I was browsing through the paper and a small article
tucked away on the eighth page caught my eye. The heading read `Man's
Body Found in Park.' I scanned the article briefly and was about to
turn to something else when the name Julian sprung out at me. In an
instant my attention was riveted. I read the part where this name
appeared and sure enough it was about the Julian who had come to see
me. I returned to the top of the article and read it all the way
through. Four days earlier, perhaps only a few hours after ringing me,
Julian had gone to a park in the centre of Singapore late at night,
taken an overdose of sleeping tablets and been found dead the next
morning. A suicide note had been found in his pocket but the article
did mention what it said. I was overwhelmed by sorrow. The thought of
him lying there utterly alone, hating himself and in such despair that
he would kill himself almost made me cry.
But soon anger was welling up through the sadness and diluting it
until it had completely replaced the sadness. I pictured the Taiwanese
monk blithely dispensing his ignorant and ultimately toxic opinion
before rushing off to give a sermon about compassion or receive the
accolade of the crowd. I became so angry that I resolved to write him
a letter and tell him what he had been responsible for. Then I thought
it would probably be a waste of time. He probably wouldn't even
remember talking to Julian.
It seems to me that most thoughtful people would agree that sex
without love is a pretty unattractive thing. Physically, it is little
more than `exchanging fluids' as the AIDS awareness literature so
delicately puts it. What lifts sex above the fluids exchange level is
the motives and emotions behind it – affection, tenderness, the desire
to give and receive, the bonds of companionship, fun even. This fits
well into the Buddha's famous statement, "I say that intention is
kamma." Is sticking a knife into someone a positive or a negative
action? It depends! If the knife was held by an enraged violent person
it would probably be negative. If it is held by a surgeon performing
an operation to save someone's life it would certainly be positive.
From the Buddhist perspective, sexual behavior is not judged primarily
by the gender of the people involved, by the dictates of a code of
behavior drawn up in the Bronze Age or by whether a legal document has
been signed, but by its psychological components.
Homosexuals are as capable of wanting and of feeling love and
affection towards their partners as heterosexuals are and where such
states are present homosexual sex is as acceptable as heterosexual sex.
This is a simple and logical truth and it is in accordance with
Buddhist teachings but circumstances were such that I was unable to
help Julian see it. All his experience had told him that being
attracted to people of the same gender is wrong. Those around him had
always expressed disapproval towards homosexuality and sniggered at
gays. The law (in Singapore) told him that homosexuality is so heinous
that it must be punished by 10 years imprisonment, more than for
manslaughter. He knew that religious teachers, Christian, Muslim and
even some Buddhists, consider it so evil that it will have dreadful
consequences in the life hereafter. All this denigration and ignorance
prevented him from hearing the gentle, reasonable and kindly words of
the Buddha. It caused him inestimable suffering and finally drove him
to suicide.
I am reminded of Julian because three weeks ago I represented Buddhism
in a seminar on religion and homosexuality at Catholic Junior Collage
(Boy! Haven't Catholic collages changed!). Of the 800 students in the
audience I assumed that a certain number would probably be homosexual
and may be struggling to understand their feelings. Knowing that what
I said may well have something to do with them growing up either happy
and well-adjusted or tortured and self-loathing, I did took great care
to explain the Buddhist position on homosexuality
I am posting this because its worthwhile to share .As Buddha Sakyamuni usually meditated on the level of his Assembly ,and He always know when to stop when the Dharma seeker will feel uncomfortable.It doesnt matter if it is Mahayana or Theravada master ,We just shouldnt say harsh word to the Dharma-seeker .
Homosexuality are seems as a unacceptable social behaviour ,but I really feel one should empathise as many of them come from broken families and family in dispute.
Many of my friends have left the "gay" circle ,and as creative people in the Arts circle and soon setting up families
Thats the reason why I always use Twisted Emotion as the thread on Homosexuality
Its nothing to be condemned as long as they do not commit more grave offense like matricide , patricide ,destroying the sangha ,homicide or stealing of the Sangha property
any comments ?
thanks for the interesting article, i always felt that buddhism doesnt condemn homosexuality.this had clear my tots. thanks
Originally posted by RiG&GO:thanks for the interesting article, i always felt that buddhism doesnt condemn homosexuality.this had clear my tots. thanks
Not say that we see homosexuality as acceptable behavior. But we do not condemn, discriminate, or hold prejudices against them. We do not promote gay-phobia.
As Ven. Dhammika wrote somewhere,
...Theravada Buddhist countries like Sri Lanka and Burma had no legal statutes against homosexuality between consenting adults until the colonial era when they were introduced by the British. Thailand, which had no colonial experience, still has no such laws. This had led some Western homosexuals to believe that homosexuality is quite accepted in Buddhist countries of South and South-east Asia. This is certainly not true. In such countries, when homosexuals are thought of at all, it is more likely to be in a good-humored way or with a degree of pity. Certainly the loathing, fear and hatred that the Western homosexual has so often had to endure is absent and this is due, to a very large degree, to Buddhism's humane and tolerant influence.
There is nothing wrong being Gay, Bisexual or hetrosexual...it voice down to the behvaiour of the individual....but in such issue political and moral ethics play a great part in the perception of the soecity and there are too some religion does not hold this disorientation as accepatable. Thats why there are countries fighting to hold an equality among gay groups. In Canada it is already legalise to have gay marriage.
They too can be enlightened....generally, we are all sentinent being...so there is no difference at all..
Originally posted by An Eternal Now:Not say that we see homosexuality as acceptable behavior. But we do not condemn, discriminate, or hold prejudices against them. We do not promote gay-phobia.
As Ven. Dhammika wrote somewhere,
...Theravada Buddhist countries like Sri Lanka and Burma had no legal statutes against homosexuality between consenting adults until the colonial era when they were introduced by the British. Thailand, which had no colonial experience, still has no such laws. This had led some Western homosexuals to believe that homosexuality is quite accepted in Buddhist countries of South and South-east Asia. This is certainly not true. In such countries, when homosexuals are thought of at all, it is more likely to be in a good-humored way or with a degree of pity. Certainly the loathing, fear and hatred that the Western homosexual has so often had to endure is absent and this is due, to a very large degree, to Buddhism's humane and tolerant influence.
True.
I have a CD with me right now where in one of the topics my Taiwanese teacher spoke about homosexuality.
I may be posting after listening to it.
My opinion is that regardless of a heterosexual or homosexual relatonships, the same longings for love, tenderness, emotions from a partner/partners expressed physically or mentally are all forms of attachment, which if left untamed, would leads to various kinds of sufferings to oneself as well as to others.
So, yes, we do not condemn homosexuality, but same as heterosexuality, we must be mindful of the attachment to sensual gratifications derived from both the above types of relationships(情执).
By understanding and practising the Dharma, one would be able to see the ultimate truth of life, and would be able to get out of the delusions that are blinding us all this while, the delusions that we wrongly chased after, be it the temporary enjoyments of materialism or matters of the heart( gay or otherwise).
Originally posted by An Eternal Now:I have a CD with me right now where in one of the topics my Taiwanese teacher spoke about homosexuality.
I may be posting after listening to it.
Looking forward to it.![]()
hi..rgd the issue on homosexuality, is it not an abnormal course of nature? while true that men may love men on an emotional level (also for women-women). but are not humans meant to procreate? homosexuality on a very grand scale can wipe out humanity is it not?
as the posted article, the inquirer x dresses as a woman while meeting up with his gay partner. just from the context, it looks like the gay partner actually reacts to a woman outline.
i also read an article in malaysia from a monk on homosexuality and how he condemn it.
Originally posted by cycle:
Looking forward to it.
Typed out :) Sorry if there's typos.
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Originally posted by domonkassyu:hi..rgd the issue on homosexuality, is it not an abnormal course of nature? while true that men may love men on an emotional level (also for women-women). but are not humans meant to procreate? homosexuality on a very grand scale can wipe out humanity is it not?
as the posted article, the inquirer x dresses as a woman while meeting up with his gay partner. just from the context, it looks like the gay partner actually reacts to a woman outline.
i also read an article in malaysia from a monk on homosexuality and how he condemn it.
erm ...condemn is too strong a word .. i think as Many mahayana shifu has said
we shouldnt condemn people as we are still in the shared karmic existence .
If we dont have compassion for others ,how do we have perfect our Compassion just like Avalokiteshvara ?
Tks, AEN. ![]()
I would also like to post some extracts from Master Shen Yan's article[ 圣严法师谈天下事-‘å�®å’›’] on homosexuality. Hope it helps.
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Originally posted by cycle:Tks, AEN.
I would also like to post some extracts from Master Shen Yan's article[ 圣严法师谈天下事-‘å�®å’›’] on homosexuality. Hope it helps.
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I certainly doubt that Homosexuality will be banished to hell and so on, and i seriously do not believe this idea. If a homosexual has not harm anyone and himself, what bad karma does he receive to be going to hell? We must remember that we are not theological. God condemns homosexual, but we do not believe in God in the first place. What then must we follow his words that homosexuals will go to hell?
I dont mean to offend anyone of some dharma but i've read some sutras like the cause and effect and i really dont agree on some. I give you an example; If one blows a candle infront of a buddha statue, one will be bird beaked in the next life. Now, if we were to look here, is it of so significant that one will have such a humilating punishment if we just blow a candle away? I seriously dont know. More like to sentence to instill fear on us so that we wont blow candle away next time. Is buddhism about instilling fear? Certainly not for what i know.
Also, if blowing a candle we receive this kind of karma, then i think all of us can prepare to go hell already. All sentient beings have made countless mistakes and wrongdoings. And i have even heard some ridiculous things(not from buddhism i suppose) , and it goes like this; If you eat meat, you will go to hell.
To me, it doesn't matter my friend is homosexual or not. They can also bring their partner for outing.
It is their freedom, just like some people like to brush teeth before going toilet some the other way. As long as they don't come and influence me that will be fine.
Originally posted by MinisterMentor:"Cycling - Moving in the Green Way"
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[Photo]16 June 2008
Was notified by my Brother that I appeared in the newspapers. That notification kept me excited till the evening when I finally saw the article... It's really a very small appearance.
[Photo]In the afternoon, went with Baohui to Rivervale Plaza to purchase a bicycle. I reckoned that a bicycle would really be beneficial for me to meet up with her. Firstly, it would be a great exercise. Secondly, it would really save cost. Thirdly, I could contribute to a Greener world.
Was upsold by the shopowner to purchase a mountain bike instead. Installed in a basket for my bag, a bell and a comfortable cushion backseat for Baohui. All for about S$160. The decision factor arrived after a simple Maths breakdown of how this bike could save more than I spent on it.
It was challenging to carry one person at the back, since I had never in my life done that. Often we had to alight from the bicycle when I gave up conquering the upward slopes. Still remembered how Jian Hao and I used to learn bicycle riding from Wayne and Zhi Yong after our PSLE.
Singapore is really a good location for cycling. Especially where I stay since Aljunied GRC has committed to a barrier free zone. Following the new regulations allowing foldable bicycles on board trains and buses, there would surely be a renewed interest in cycling. I could envision a scenario where I could cycle to the train station, travel to Clementi, and then cycle to NUS. This has a potential saving of more than hundreds of dollars per month! And talk about how much benefits that is to the environment.
However, more has to be done in order to get everyone to cycle in a small island. Already, there are much discontent between walking pedestrians and cyclists as well as between drivers and cyclists.
At night, found out that my Brother also had a bicycle (secretly). Haha...posted by Yoong Kheong at 2:20 PM on Jun 17, 2008
Anonymous said...
Aljunied GRC?
Right, I'd better keep an extra eye out for one new rider on the pedestrian walkway.
Pedestrians must never hesitate to insist on their right of way whenever and if ever such conflicts occur.
After all, humans came first, before the wheel was invented.
And if ever you feel threatened as a two-legged walking human being, raise the alarm - fight back, reclaim your right of way.
This is a totally deranged public policy, two-leggeds and uneducated two-wheelers sharing narrowest of pavements - ABSOLUTE MADNESS!
And I hope you are reading this, dear Madam Member of Tampines GRC.
Erm.. wrong topic?