Seek fellowship to help stop/educate internet pornography
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Dear all,
I am seeking fellowship in Singapore who has personally been harm by internet pornogrphy and deeply believe in helping others too.
I want to use my IT skills, experience in internet pornography to help youths or parents free/prevent their children from internet pornography.
1) References
Testimony by many people who have been harm (health and life) by pornography addiction.
http://www.jiexieyin.org/ShowSpecial.asp?SpecialID=11
Many people do not understand(or believe) the harm brought by Internet Poronography.
2) Statistics
http://www1.k9webprotection.com/resources/index.php
According to statistics:
"Pornography is a $57 billion a year industry. In comparison, the combined revenues of all teams in the NBA, NHL, MLB, and NFL is $12 billion, and the combined revenues of ABC, CBS, and NBC is a mere $6.2 billion."
Search via google abortion statistics
http://www.abortionno.org/Resources/fastfacts.html
Look at the amount of molest charges (people misleaded by pronography)
http://www.google.com.sg/search?hl=en&q=molest+charged+singapore&meta=cr%3DcountrySG&aq=f&oq=
3) Technology trends
a) Microsoft, Apple, Watchguard, Bluecoat, Symantec, McAfee,
All the big players are integrating content filtering and parental control in their softwares.
4) Myths and truths
a) Truth
- Parents are loosing control due to children being more technically savy than them.
- A lot of parents do not know what their children are surfing.
b) Myth
Q: Stopping people from watching doesn't help, education helps.
A: Why do people still lock their home door and car door all these years despite increase eduction on moral values and more people with higher education?
c) Myth
Q: The more you stop people from watching, the more they want to watch.
A: Have we often heard an addict saying "one last time?", "give me and I will stop."
d) Myth
Q: What are the fuss and hype about content filtering?
A: If you really do not watch, do you LOOSE anything?
If you do watch, you will have a lot more to worry.
Face it, men (or even women) are visual creatures, the more we see/listen, they more we are inclinded to learn. Children learn even FASTER from what they see/do!
PM me for more info.
Best regards
Colinkgl
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https://mdaonline.mda.gov.sg/onlineservices/Feedback/FBSubmission.aspx to report sg hosted porn websites, use above link to submit
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I don't think content filtering will ultimately work since there are always very simple ways to get around it.
I think education is most important.
That said content filtering can still have some (limited) effects. I would be very interested if there is a solution that really prevents any backdoor ways to enter these sites.
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I think removing the one part of the human body that defines you as a human helps in stopping pornography permanently---the human brain.
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Now at that time a certain monk, tormented by dissatisfaction, cut off his own male organ. They told this matter to the Lord. He said: "This foolish man, monks, cut off one thing when another should have been cut off. Monks, one should not cut off one's own male organ. Whoever should cut it off, there is a grave offence."
(Vinaya Piá¹aka, MahÄ�vagga 110. Horner trans.) -
Originally posted by An Eternal Now:
Now at that time a certain monk, tormented by dissatisfaction, cut off his own male organ. They told this matter to the Lord. He said: "This foolish man, monks, cut off one thing when another should have been cut off. Monks, one should not cut off one's own male organ. Whoever should cut it off, there is a grave offence."
(Vinaya Piá¹aka, MahÄ�vagga 110. Horner trans.)
Oei, I say remove brain, you say remove penis.... -
The author of this website (Richard) is truly experienced and has deep insights on Anatta.
http://actualfreedom.com.au/introduction/actualfreedom1.htm
A new, non-spiritual, down-to-earth method of freeing oneself
from the genetically-encoded animal instinctual passions, enabling one
to become actually free from the Human Condition of malice and sorrow …
to be both happy and harmless.
The search for freedom has been a search for freedom from the rigid shackles of one’s instilled social identity and the search for peace and happiness has been a search for a means of finally bringing an end to both personal and global malice and sorrow.
The shamans and priests have commandeered this innate search with the promise of an ultimate peace and happiness in a mythical ‘life-after-death’ should one bow down to and worship a particular God or follow a particular teaching. This seductive promise of immortality for one’s ‘self’ or soul is a powerful lure that is passionately fuelled by the basic fear that underlies the innate survival instinct – the fear of death.
The Eastern religions further add the possibility of becoming a God-man whilst on earth – a position of ultimate power and authority over others that is irresistibly appealing for many – and the resulting enslavery inherent in the master-disciple system is the antithesis of freedom. The search for a ‘spiritual’ freedom, peace and happiness, based on ancient superstition and metaphysical ‘other-worldly’ beliefs has been on-going for thousands of years and has now had its day.
It’s time for a pragmatic and practical approach to finding a genuine and actual freedom from the Human Condition in total. A freedom from ancient belief and spiritual superstition. A freedom from the necessity of forever attempting to obey pious morals and follow unliveable ethics in order to keep one’s instinctual passions under control. And, finally, a freedom from the instinctual animal instinctual passions themselves – a freedom from the instinctual passions of fear, aggression, nurture and desire.
It’s now time to get to the very root of the real problem on earth –
the ancient, hoary and persistent belief that ‘you can’t change human nature’.
The modern scientific empirical discoveries of neuro-biology and genetics, with regard to the human brain and how it functions, have revealed two very fascinating aspects –
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That the brain is programmable in the same way a computer is programmable. The program is formed by physical connections or pathways between neurons, and this program is mostly formed after birth. These pathways (synapse) are also capable of being changed at any time. The old connection simply ‘dies’ for lack of use and a new one is formed.
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That the human brain is also pre-programmed, via a genetic code, with a set of base or instinctual operating functions, located in the primitive brain system which causes automatic thoughtless passionate reactions, primarily those of fear, aggression, nurture and desire, to be transmitted via chemical messages to various parts of the body including the neo-cortex. Physiological alterations that could eliminate this crude programming, as a biological adaptation to changed circumstances, are well documented within the animal species.
The first discovery accords with the practical experience of being able to radically change one’s social identity – the program instilled since birth that consists of the morals, ethics, values and psittacisms that make up our social identity. It stands to reason that a psychological identity that is malleable to radical change is also susceptible to total elimination.
The second discovery accords with the practical possibility of eliminating one’s very ‘being’ – the emotive source of the instinctual survival passions of fear, aggression, nurture and desire. This blind and senseless survival program is now well and truly redundant for many human beings and can now be safely deleted, for the human species has not only survived … it is now beginning to flourish.
to recap …
© OECD.org
© OECD.org
Human beings are unique amongst the animal species in that we have a large ‘modern’ brain, the neo-cortex, capable of thinking, planning and reflecting overlaying the primitive reptilian brain – the source of the instinctual passions of fear, aggression, nurture and desire.
Recent studies by LeDoux and others empirically confirm that the ‘quick and dirty’ instinctual passionate responses of the primitive brain are primary in that any instinctual response is so quick and so strong that it invariably negates the possibility of thoughtful, considered responses of the neo-cortex.
We are in fact genetically programmed to be driven, consumed or overwhelmed by the animal instinctual survival passions. Thus, in spite of all our best and well-meaning efforts to keep our malice and sorrow under control, to be ‘civilized beings’, we are but ‘brute animal’, at our very core.
LeDoux’s studies concern the relationship between the thalamus (relay centre), the amygdala (primitive brain) and the neo-cortex (modern brain). The most significant observation of LeDoux’s experimentation is that the sensory input to the brain is split at the thalamus into two streams – one to the amygdala and one to the neo-cortex.
The input stream to the amygdala is significantly quicker – 12 milliseconds as opposed to 25 milliseconds to the neo-cortex. Also, less information goes to the amygdala – it operates as a quick primal scan to check for danger, or opportunity, which is why it is described as the ‘quick and dirty’ processing pathway.
This quick-scan pathway not only results in automatic thoughtless instinctual-emotional responses but the amygdala also has a direct connection to the neo-cortex – thereby setting off a secondary thoughtful instinctual-emotional selfish response.
The resultant cocktail of chemicals set off by these responses serves to make the emotions of fear, aggression, nurture and desire so palpable as to be compulsive and, very often, addictive.
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All humans are instilled with an instinctual animal ‘self’ that is the very core of the self-survival program. Although the instinctual survival program is genetically-encoded in animals so as to ensure the survival of the species and not the individual, in humans the survival program is also ‘self’-centred.
Our instinctual-rudimentary ‘self’ is both palpable and potent due to the surge of chemicals arising from the primitive brain. This ‘self’ is our instinctual ‘being’ at our very animal core – instinctual, thoughtless and emotional.
Further, this primitive ‘self’ is made more complex in human beings by our ability to think and reflect and, as such, we have a more elaborated ‘self’ consisting of ‘who’ we think ourselves to be as well as ‘who’ we feel ourselves to be. ‘Who’ we think and feel ourselves to be is both a psychological ‘self’ and an instinctual ‘self’ – both mental and emotional – manifest as a discordant and alien identity that appears to be located as a thinker in the head and as a feeler in the heart and gut.
Given that the instinctual animal ‘self’ in humans has morphed into a sophisticated and cunning psychological and psychic identity that appears to live within the flesh and blood body, it is obvious that the instinctual animal passions can only be eradicated by eliminating both the psychological ‘self’ and the instinctual ‘self’.
The elimination of one’s ‘self’ needs to be total – both ‘who’ you think you are as a social identity and ‘who’ blind nature has programmed you to instinctively feel you are … in spiritual terms, both the ‘ego’ and the ‘soul’.
The good news is that with the extinction of who you think and feel you are what you are will emerge – a flesh and blood human being, free of malice and sorrow and free of any metaphysical delusions whatsoever.
To deliberately set out on a course of ‘self’-immolation seems madness in the extreme, but one only needs to take a clear-eyed look at the Human Condition with the mayhem of malice and sorrow and the frantic and futile attempts to rein it in, to see what is fondly regarded as ‘sanity’ in operation.
Whilst the elimination of the instinctual passions may appear a worthwhile and sensible thing to do, the real lure to do so is to be found in the glimpses of the innate purity and perfection of the physical universe itself that is evident in temporary experiences of ‘self’-lessness known as a Pure Consciousness Experience (PCE).
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Today I found a passage by Richard which I believe is what Thusness has been saying:
http://actualfreedom.com.au/richard/selectedcorrespondence/sc-real.htm
RESPONDENT: To use the word ‘perfect’ in the sense of ‘complete-in-itself’ then absolutely everything in the universe is perfect, with or without emotions.
RICHARD: As no affective identity has any existence whatsoever in actuality it makes no sense to include same in [quote] ‘everything’ [endquote].
RESPONDENT: In this sense, murders, wars, malice and sorrow are all perfect manifestations of the universe, as is the desire to be rid of these things.
RICHARD: As neither malice nor sorrow have any existence whatsoever in actuality (only their effects, such as the murders and wars you mention, do) – nor any desire at all for that matter – it makes no sense to say they are manifestations (let alone perfect ones) of the universe.
RESPONDENT: Emotions exist, do they not?
RICHARD: Neither emotions nor passions have any existence in this actual world.
RESPONDENT: Why not include emotions when saying ‘everything’?
RICHARD: Because emotions have no existence whatsoever in actuality (only their physical effects do).
RESPONDENT: Where and how do emotions and identities exist, if not within the universe?
RICHARD: They exist affectively, psychically, in the real-world (the world of the affections, the psyche).
RESPONDENT: The universe is not split into two realms of ‘actuality’ and ‘reality’ is it?
RICHARD: No ... the reality of the real-world, being but a veneer pasted over actuality by the identity within, has no actual existence.
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Oh I forgot to add Thusness's conversation. He has also told me quite some time ago that (in his experience) after realising/experiencing the auto arising and passing (I believe he is refering to self-liberation) of sensations, which he then agreed to be around Anagami territory, one will overcome sexual compulsions.
Anyway this is the conversation I had with Thusness yesterday:
(6:24 PM) AEN: can one have negative emotions and be aware at the same time?
as in
(6:25 PM) AEN: will being aware itself dissolve negative emotions arising?
(10:17 PM) Thusness: this is a good question.
(10:17 PM) Thusness: though anatta is a seal, it also requires one to arise the insight to feel liberated.
(10:18 PM) Thusness: when a practitioner realizes the anatta nature of manifestation, at that moment without the sense of observer, there is no negative emotions.
(10:19 PM) Thusness: there is only vivd sensation of the all arising as presence
(10:19 PM) AEN: oic..
(10:25 PM) AEN: hmm
(10:25 PM) AEN: but then some ppl say those emotions still arise... like mandi solk wrote
"In response to this, many passionate feelings arose, such as: shock; anger; disappointment; sorrow; yet those feelings were so ALIVE and even exciting. For instance when there was shock, the ‘shock-ness’ totally filled all space – and that’s all there was – there wasn’t a millimetre of the room where there wasn’t any shock – shock was all there was – shock was IT!
Next, emerged the red heat of anger arising, like a Volcano erupting taking up all space. Anger was all there was – anger was IT!
So these raw, fully alive, electric feelings were EVERYTHING - all that was going on, yet there was no-one ‘in’ to feel them –nobody home - feelings without a ‘feeler’. Nothing was suppressed – not anger, sorrow, tears, etc. – because there was no-one to suppress them – no-one to deny them. The feelings were allowed, (by no-one) – un-tampered with - un-interfered with, uninterrupted . In this natural unfoldment, the feelings combust and then burn out within minutes – often, seconds – just like ‘spontaneous combustion’ – a sudden eruption with absolutely nothing remaining. A burst bubble.’"
(10:26 PM) AEN:
Had there been an ‘I’ - the situation would’ve been taken very personally. When there’s still someone ‘in’, when the mind is playing the game of detachment, there is an unnatural suppression of the feelings. The game is: ‘I’m detached – nothing bothers me’. But this is just a ‘mind-made’ state – a ‘pretender to the throne’ – an impostor. There is still someone who believes they are a person who can choose to be detached and who therefore lives in a dead, joyless world created by thought. People who act detached are in fact the biggest seekers of all because they still believe there is something to be detached from!
This - just whatsoEVER is happening right now is IT: eating spaghetti; working on the computer; sitting on the toilet or washing -up. You've heard it may times, I know, but eventually, the mind may beocme so utterly sick of this message being consistantly banged home, that it may just give up, and then all that remains is the blessed refreshment of glorious, shining,thirst-quenching, crystal-clear, divine Presence."
(10:26 PM) Thusness: yes
but that is not the experience of anatta at that moment. It is only a recalling
(10:27 PM) Thusness: when u r angry, it is a split (between subject and object, me and others, inside and outside, etc)
(10:28 PM) Thusness: when u realized its anatta nature, there is just vivid clarity of all the bodily sensations
even when there is an arising thought of something bad, it dissolves with no involvement in the content
(10:29 PM) Thusness: to be angry, a
a 'someone' must come into the content
(10:29 PM) Thusness: when there is no involvement of the extra agent, there is only recoiling and self liberations
(10:30 PM) AEN: oic..
(10:33 PM) Thusness: one shoud differentiate arising thought from the active involvement of the content
(10:34 PM) Thusness: a pratitioner that realizes anatta is only involved fully in the vivid presence of the action, phenomena but not getting lost in content -
you talking about china ah? the site are like from there one leh...
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Originally posted by caleb_chiang:
you talking about china ah? the site are like from there one leh...
The first site might be. But does it really matter? Good stuff can come from anywhere :)
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Originally posted by An Eternal Now:
Today I found a passage by Richard which I believe is what Thusness has been saying:
http://actualfreedom.com.au/richard/selectedcorrespondence/sc-real.htm
RESPONDENT: To use the word ‘perfect’ in the sense of ‘complete-in-itself’ then absolutely everything in the universe is perfect, with or without emotions.
RICHARD: As no affective identity has any existence whatsoever in actuality it makes no sense to include same in [quote] ‘everything’ [endquote].
RESPONDENT: In this sense, murders, wars, malice and sorrow are all perfect manifestations of the universe, as is the desire to be rid of these things.
RICHARD: As neither malice nor sorrow have any existence whatsoever in actuality (only their effects, such as the murders and wars you mention, do) – nor any desire at all for that matter – it makes no sense to say they are manifestations (let alone perfect ones) of the universe.
RESPONDENT: Emotions exist, do they not?
RICHARD: Neither emotions nor passions have any existence in this actual world.
RESPONDENT: Why not include emotions when saying ‘everything’?
RICHARD: Because emotions have no existence whatsoever in actuality (only their physical effects do).
RESPONDENT: Where and how do emotions and identities exist, if not within the universe?
RICHARD: They exist affectively, psychically, in the real-world (the world of the affections, the psyche).
RESPONDENT: The universe is not split into two realms of ‘actuality’ and ‘reality’ is it?
RICHARD: No ... the reality of the real-world, being but a veneer pasted over actuality by the identity within, has no actual existence.
Here's a practical article on Mindfulness practice.
Richard:
http://actualfreedom.com.au/richard/articles/attentivenesssensuousnessapperceptiveness.htm
Attentiveness gets not infatuated with the good feelings nor sidesteps the bad as attentiveness is a non-feeling awareness; a sensuous attention. Attentiveness is not sentimental susceptibility for it does not get involved with affection or empathy or get hung up on mercurial imaginations and capricious intuitions or ephemeral auguries. Attentiveness does not register feelings and compare the validity of experience according to it ‘feeling right’ or ‘feeling wrong’. Attentiveness is an aesthetic alertness that takes place with minimised reference to self. With attentiveness one sees the internal world with blameless references to concepts like ‘my’ or ‘mine’. Suppose there is a feeling of sadness. Ordinary consciousness would say, ‘I am sad’. Using attentiveness, one heedfully notices the feeling as a natural feeling – ‘There is human sadness’ – thus one does not tack on that possessive personal concept of ‘I’ or ‘me’ ... for one is already possessed. Attentiveness is the observance of the basic nature of each arising feeling; it is observing all the inner world – emotional, passionate and calentural – which is whatever is presently taking place in the affective faculty. Attentiveness is seeing how any feeling makes ‘me’ tick – and how ‘I’ react to it – with the perspicacity of seeing how it affects others as well. In attentiveness, there is an unbiased observing of the constant showing-up of the ‘reality’ within and is examining the feelings arising one after the other ... and such attentiveness is the ending of its grip. Please note that last point: in attentiveness, there is an observance of the ‘reality’ within, and such attention is the end of its embrace ... finish.
Here lies apperception.
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Apperceptiveness is a dispassionate discernibleness that does not take sides nor get hung up in what is apperceived ... it is a sensitive fascination. Apperceptiveness is the observation of everything occurring as for the first time. Apperceptiveness is possible because of attentiveness ... which is not analysis that is based on emotional and passionate recollection. Apperceptiveness is the immediate sensitive discernment of whatever is happening without the medium of feeling – it comes before the feeling-tones in the perceptual process – and thought may or may not be operating. If one is futilely attempting a reverie of yesterday’s sensorial delight, that is feeling-thought memorialising the moment gone by. When one then becomes aware that one is remembering yesterday’s experience, that is attentiveness.
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Be Totally Rid Of Emotions And Passions
"Q(1): Oh! I don’t like to hear that! Although what you say is true, I don’t want to ... do you mean to say that nothing we have all tried has worked? I don’t want to hear that we have all been wasting our time for thirty years! Nothing that any human anywhere has tried has worked?
R: Where is there peace and tranquillity? Where is there happiness and harmony? Where is there an absence of malice and sorrow? How does one determine success? By looking around with clear eyes. There is no Peace On Earth, anywhere ... nor has there been at any time in human history.
By neither expressing nor repressing emotions, something new can happen. The emotion is put into a bind, it has nowhere to go. Next time anger, say, comes up in a situation, simply decline to have it happen. Observe it as it gets up to all kinds of tricks to have its way. Do not express it – but do not repress it either. Watch what happens ... you will be surprised. Personally, I rid myself of anger in about three weeks when I started on this all those years ago. The more subtle variations like getting peeved, getting irritated and getting annoyed took a little longer, but losing my temper in an angry outburst ended after about three weeks. I kid you not. It all has to do with the determination to succeed, with patience and diligence born out of the pure intent garnered from a peak experience. You just know that it is possible to be peaceful because you have seen it for yourself. One will do whatever is required to be that experience, twenty-four-hours of the day.
Here we can start afresh. Here we can have success."......................
RESPONDENT: My comments about shopping also were in the same vein. The pleasure of shopping is not merely due to handling pieces of plastic and paper.
RICHARD: The *sensate* pleasure of shopping is ... here is what I previously wrote (only this time juxtaposed with your query/comments):
• [Respondent]: ‘Is it possible that the pleasure you obtain from the senses and the mind (shopping e.g. *is not really a sensate pleasure*, you are just handling pieces of paper and plastic bags, it is imagining how you are going to enjoy these things in the future which is pleasant (at least for most people), is also just a habit pattern, and so a self-inflicted conditioning? [emphasis added].
• [Richard]: ‘... shopping (for example) is indeed a sensate experience ... for what is the very handling of pieces of paper and plastic bags (for instance), then, if not a sensate handling?First of all, as I am incapable of imagining anything, let alone the future enjoyment of items purchased, it is impossible for me to obtain that kind of pleasure (hedonic pleasure) in any circumstance ... just as it is equally impossible to obtain its polar opposite (hedonic pain).
RESPONDENT: Imagination in this case meant anticipation.
RICHARD: Okay ... given that you (now) use the word ‘anticipation’ in a sentence stating that shopping (for example) is not really a sensate pleasure and that it is the anticipation, of how the purchases are going to be enjoyed at some other place than just here and at some other time than right now, which is what is pleasant at that very moment of handling pieces of paper and plastic bags (for instance), it would appear that what the following dictionaries have to say regarding that word could very well be appropriate. Vis.:
• ‘anticipation: expectant waiting: the feeling of looking forward, usually excitedly or eagerly, to something that is going to happen’. (Encarta Dictionary).
• ‘anticipation: contemplation or consideration in advance; the action of looking forward to something; (esp. eager or pleasurable) expectation.(Oxford Dictionary).
• ‘anticipation: the act of looking forward; especially pleasurable expectation (...) visualisation of a future event or state’. (Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary).
• ‘anticipation: the act of anticipating [to look forward to, especially with pleasure; expect]; an expectation’. (American Heritage® Dictionary).
• ‘anticipation: expectancy; pleasurable expectation’. (WordNet 2.0).As I am incapable of having the feeling of excitedly or eagerly looking forward to and/or having an eager or pleasurable expectation of and/or looking forward with pleasure to anything, let alone the future enjoyment of items purchased, it is impossible for me to obtain that kind of pleasure (affective pleasure) in any circumstance ... just as it is equally impossible to obtain its polar opposite (affective pain).
RESPONDENT: If you say you are incapable of anticipation, it would be altogether remarkable.
RICHARD: Not only am I incapable of (affective) anticipation I am also incapable of (affective) expectation – or any other word of that ilk you may substitute the next time around – and this is indeed altogether remarkable for it means that one is free to enjoy and appreciate the sensate pleasure that shopping actually is ... the direct, immediate, sensuous experiencing (which happens just here, right now, and nowhere and nowhen else).
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RICHARD: Secondly, where there is no identity whatsoever all conditioning – be it self-inflicted conditioning, familial conditioning, peer-group conditioning, or societal conditioning – has nothing to condition and falls by the wayside (hence choices made are freely made choices and not just habit-patterns).