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Remarriage considered sexual misconduct?

  • sinweiy

     

    When their nature is split and their souls are incomplete, they become dull and insentient, like plants.

     similar saying as Abhidhamma.

    All beings, including plant lives, live for themselves and not for human beings or others. For development purpose, it is wrong to extensively destroy plant lives and pollute the environment, because very soon this planet will be unfit for human habitation.

          Each plant, like other beings, also has a unit of mind, which eventually can become a Buddha.

          This is the nature of the mind.http://sgforums.com/forums/1728/topics/425491

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  • NDQ
    Originally posted by sinweiy:

     

     similar saying as Abhidhamma.

    All beings, including plant lives, live for themselves and not for human beings or others. For development purpose, it is wrong to extensively destroy plant lives and pollute the environment, because very soon this planet will be unfit for human habitation.

          Each plant, like other beings, also has a unit of mind, which eventually can become a Buddha.

          This is the nature of the mind.http://sgforums.com/forums/1728/topics/425491

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    Confused, so even vegetarians are killing "minds" ?

  • sinweiy
    Originally posted by NDQ:

    Confused, so even vegetarians are killing "minds" ?

    imagine, vege are like house and reincarnationed spirit/mind enter to live in them. if u plug the vege, the spirit leave the house and go else where to live. but not all vege have spirit living in them, especially those crops that are for eating. they won't live in them as they are always harvested. like if u want to chop down a tree, monks normally chant and kindly ask them to leave first. u bother my "house" or space or territory, i no pain, but i may feel dislike if i already live very long period.  if i only live for a short time, there's no pain.

     

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  • riccia1
    Originally posted by An Eternal Now:

    Ven Hui Lu once criticized Ven Hsuan Hua for a different issue, but I shall not elaborate, if you want you can find out for yourself. lol

     

    AEN,

     

    I find Venerable Hsuan Hua dharma teaching very refreshing and truth seeking.

    He has benefited so many people with his selfless dharma teaching until the last day of his nirvana. 

    Dharma is everlasting regardless of whether during Buddha's time or now. 

    If you want to make such criticism  please offer your own opinion and basis, especially critique to highly attained monk.

    Do not just point that somebody is traditionalist or having extreme's view. 

    Especially when you are the moderator of a Buddhist Dharma forum.

    rgds

     

     

     

  • Nyorai

    If you aren't enlightened even if you are wholeheartedly married to a person also can't escape the cycle of rebirth. Otherwise, there were many married couple in the good old days would have attain Buddhahood or at least rise to heaven. 

    Peace of mind and loving others, and should never interfere the relationship affairs of others as the law of karma never side you. Most importantly is the peace of mind and loving kindness to nurture good strong root, kindness, progress and development of supremeness :p

    On a safer side, this door is much more liberal - 

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    .....Laymen are advised in the Buddha's Teaching to avoid sexual misconduct. That means if one wants to experience sex, he must do so without creating any violence or by using any kind of force, threat or causing fear. A decent sex life, which respects the other partner…….

     

    .....To the question of whether Buddhists can keep more than one wife, the direct answer is not available in the Buddha's teaching, because as mentioned earlier, the Buddha did not lay down any religious laws with regard to married life although he has given valuable advice on how to lead a respectable married life…..

     

  • An Eternal Now
    Originally posted by riccia1:

     

    AEN,

     

    I find Venerable Hsuan Hua dharma teaching very refreshing and truth seeking.

    He has benefited so many people with his selfless dharma teaching until the last day of his nirvana. 

    Dharma is everlasting regardless of whether during Buddha's time or now. 

    If you want to make such criticism  please offer your own opinion and basis, especially critique to highly attained monk.

    Do not just point that somebody is traditionalist or having extreme's view. 

    Especially when you are the moderator of a Buddhist Dharma forum.

    rgds

     

     

     

    Do note that I am not criticizing his teaching in general which I'm sure has benefitted many, I'm merely criticizing very specific points such as saying gays and remarriage people will go to hell. I think this is based on traditional, outdated thinking that has no basis in Buddhism.

    Sorry, just because someone is a famous monk or venerable doesn't stop me from criticizing what I deem to be not in accord with Buddha's teachings, I will voice my comments equally without holding back regardless a person is an unknown Buddhist, non-Buddhist or well known Buddhist master. Even if someone has attainments or realizations, that also doesn't stop me from criticizing their statements if they said something that I think is not accord with dharma.

    I don't criticize persons or teachings in general, only specific points. This is not a personal attack on anyone so I hope nobody is offended.

  • An Eternal Now

    Just to add: I disagree with, and have spoken out my disagreement, with many well known masters in the past as well - I do not single out specific masters like Ven Hsuan Hua but speak out whenever I see a need to. It does not mean I do not appreciate their teachings but when I find points that is not in accord with dharma, I will point out.

    Even if you respect someone, or appreciate their teachings, that doesn't mean you cannot differ in understanding with him/her or must agree on every point.

  • sinweiy

    i dont' think it has no basis in dharma (since ultimately everything is false:). i can say it do have it's effectiveness in his time period. i think Dharma can have infinite possibilities, hence the saying of 84000 method 八万四å�ƒæ³•é—¨. and from the Diamond cutter there's no dead fixed dharma door æ³•æ— å®šæ³•.

    http://baike.baidu.com/view/1771178.htm 

    just like Dzongsar Khyentse Rinpoche mentioned in his talk, that some "cult"-like-buddhist application had it's effectiveness in some way, due to its inner meaning.  

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  • BroInChrist
    Originally posted by sinweiy:

    i dont' think it has no basis in dharma (since ultimately everything is false:). i can say it do have it's effectiveness in his time period. i think Dharma can have infinite possibilities, hence the saying of 84000 method 八万四å�ƒæ³•é—¨. and from the Diamond cutter there's no dead fixed dharma door æ³•æ— å®šæ³•.

    http://baike.baidu.com/view/1771178.htm 

    just like Dzongsar Khyentse Rinpoche mentioned in his talk, that some "cult"-like-buddhist application had it's effectiveness in some way, due to its inner meaning.  

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    Would the statement "ultimately everything is false" be subject to itself too? If everything is false, then so is that statement!

  • BroInChrist
    Originally posted by NDQ:

    Hello all,

     

    I have an issue that's been bothering me lately, that is, per Master Hsuan Hua below remarriage is a sexual misconduct? Been looking into this matter and came across several source that said remarriage is allowed in Buddhism, but that seems contradicting to what was said here. Anyone has insight on this?

    http://www.dharmasite.net/bdh59/whatghostsare.html

    If I may add a Christian perspective to this. The issue of sexual misconduct is addressed in the Bible too. The Bible has a lot to say about sex!

    Firstly, God created the first man and first woman. It was thus heterosexual relationship. It was Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve. This is the basis for marriage between one man and one woman. Neither did God make one man and many women, for that would imply polygamy. It was one man one woman.

    Secondly, marriage is the closest union because Eve was taken from the side of Adam, thus the notion of husband and wife as "one flesh" union. It was so historically and thus so now.

    Thirdly, the body is supposed to be the temple of God, which is why God restrict sexual relations to husband and wife.

    Fourthly, the Bible is silent on the issue of remarriage, and Christians have differing views on this.

    Fifthly, the notion of sexual misconduct presupposes that there is right conduct in terms of sexuality. What is this right conduct? Where do we get the notion of right conduct from?

  • 2009novice
    Originally posted by BroInChrist:

    If I may add a Christian perspective to this. The issue of sexual misconduct is addressed in the Bible too. The Bible has a lot to say about sex!

    Firstly, God created the first man and first woman. It was thus heterosexual relationship. It was Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve. This is the basis for marriage between one man and one woman. Neither did God make one man and many women, for that would imply polygamy. It was one man one woman.

    Secondly, marriage is the closest union because Eve was taken from the side of Adam, thus the notion of husband and wife as "one flesh" union. It was so historically and thus so now.

    Thirdly, the body is supposed to be the temple of God, which is why God restrict sexual relations to husband and wife.

    Fourthly, the Bible is silent on the issue of remarriage, and Christians have differing views on this.

    Fifthly, the notion of sexual misconduct presupposes that there is right conduct in terms of sexuality. What is this right conduct? Where do we get the notion of right conduct from?

    BIC- you should find out for yourself first... else if someone reply you and you counter-question again into endless posts icon_lol.gif