Obstacles to Love?
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foxwalk, after reading your account, I can only smile sweetly, wish you and your partner the best, and pray that I will find my own partner soon.Originally posted by foxwalk:It wasn't easy for me to find someone I love. It was easier for me to find someone I like, but again that itself wasn't so easy either. (I'm hard to please. Ability to make good conversation is top priority and most people I've met don't satisfy that)
If it wasn't easy for me to find someone I love, I'd say that now that I have, it does take effort to make things work. I used to think if you need to put in effort, it's not meant to be. But he convinced me that this is not right. You'll always need to put in effort, 'cause it cannot be "my way or the highway" in relationships.
But having tasted unrequited love (I wouldn't really call that love now, else it'd be cheapening what I have now), I'd say finding someone you love and who loves you is a big deal. Mutual respect, giving each other the space to grow, grow with each other, cultivate hobbies together...
It's a lifetime of learning and sharing.
I don't want to be one of those people that Keats talked about ( http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=117816 ), those who will never taste real love and can only contend with mediocre love or love that ain't real love. It's in everyone's definition of what love is. But when you can bring yourself to cheat on your partner, I don't think it was ever love, and I feel sad for those people. They don't seem to have much of a pool of emotions and feeling to draw upon..
And with each milestone in life, you appreciate and love your partner more and never cease to wonder... how come he loves you too..
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Hmm... how about the lack of chemistry? How about the part pheromones play? Interesting but so far, no one seems to have mentioned those as obstacles to love yet!
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yalor .... without no chemistry, it is almost like a business deal ....Originally posted by Rhonda:Hmm... how about the lack of chemistry? How about the part pheromones play? Interesting but so far, no one seems to have mentioned those as obstacles to love yet! -
*sigh*
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Eh?
Without chemistry I don't even need to think about love.Originally posted by Rhonda:Hmm... how about the lack of chemistry? How about the part pheromones play? Interesting but so far, no one seems to have mentioned those as obstacles to love yet! -
Only with the right chemistry can you get an amalgamation! hehehe!
And sometimes, you've got the right chemistry but you need catalysts too! For some couples though, the chemistry is so volatile that you can get spontaneous combustions, or multiple spontaneous combustions! -
Originally posted by Rhonda:Only with the right chemistry can you get an amalgamation! hehehe!
And sometimes, you've got the right chemistry but you need catalysts too! For some couples though, the chemistry is so volatile that you can get spontaneous combustions, or multiple spontaneous combustions!
*thinks rhonda is getting too excited about the combustions part* -
Think you xiang wai liao!!!Originally posted by ronnie_2600:
*thinks rhonda is getting too excited about the combustions part*
I'm only talking about chemistry! -
buahahahahaha!Originally posted by Rhonda:Think you xiang wai liao!!! I'm only talking about chemistry!
aiyah.. chemistry cannot be really literal combustion right?
when it comes to emotions.....
passion leads to hate , hate leads to fear, fear leads to the darkside...
um... wrong quote..
i mean...
aiyah, u know lar... -
*scratches head...Originally posted by ronnie_2600:buahahahahaha!
aiyah.. chemistry cannot be really literal combustion right?
when it comes to emotions.....
passion leads to hate , hate leads to fear, fear leads to the darkside...
um... wrong quote..
i mean...
aiyah, u know lar...
I don't know, actually... what are you trying to say? -
It's his inner jedi showing.
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painful... love is
talking about love... painful is
mindblowing... post is... -
No pain... no gain!Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:painful... love is
talking about love... painful is
mindblowing... post is...
Look at the scars on my heart... and it's still beating! -
painful is when there are scars that will never heal and being together with your spouse and kids is just a matter of obligation.
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The only greatest obstacle a man gets to face is the Chemistry part. No chemistry, no beginning... sad but I wish things were easier too.
Chemistry is not an easy word after all. It speaks of sexual tension and attraction. 
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anyone see my manifying glass.Originally posted by Rhonda:No pain... no gain!
Look at the scars on my heart... and it's till beating! -
Chemistry is important, but perhaps only in the initial phases of a relationship. After that, loving someone is work, hard work. It is a matter of will. It involves sacrifice, moving beyond ourselves to think of the good of the other.
While we often try to find the perfect match, the reality is that we are not perfect in ourselves. So we end up trying to look for something elusive.
Just a little Christian perspective from a married person.
regards,
siginah -
I think you're right. Too often we focus on finding love, not keeping it. Movies permeate that image. They're forever about people finding love and then its supposed to be a happy ending thereafter. Love is not easy. Love unfortunately, is not enough to sustain a r/s.Originally posted by siginah:Chemistry is important, but perhaps only in the initial phases of a relationship. After that, loving someone is work, hard work. It is a matter of will. It involves sacrifice, moving beyond ourselves to think of the good of the other.
While we often try to find the perfect match, the reality is that we are not perfect in ourselves. So we end up trying to look for something elusive.
Just a little Christian perspective from a married person.
regards,
siginah -
Very wise words indeedOriginally posted by siginah:Chemistry is important, but perhaps only in the initial phases of a relationship. After that, loving someone is work, hard work. It is a matter of will. It involves sacrifice, moving beyond ourselves to think of the good of the other.
While we often try to find the perfect match, the reality is that we are not perfect in ourselves. So we end up trying to look for something elusive.
Just a little Christian perspective from a married person.
regards,
siginah