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Originally posted by tare:tell me abt it.... i wat age liao, and still..... not even an egg!!!
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Yes statistically younger women may have an easier birth for a variety of reasons.
As for motherhood, I'm not so sure if younger women have an easier time. I think there are too many factors to consider.
I think a woman's health regardless of age and her support network are crucial factors when it comes to childbirth and mothering, not just age per se.
But I believe it's just as important to be ready for a child mentally and emotionally, not just physically. I'd never rush into having a child just to meet the age deadline. I've seen many successful mature mothers to know that it can be done. -
of course if one's not ready for a child yet, it's best not to rush into it. here the mother, sbst's sil, wants a baby, and she's worried that age would be a factor. as we grow older, we are no longer as fertile as we were when in our twenties.Originally posted by choco B:Yes statistically younger women may have an easier birth for a variety of reasons.
As for motherhood, I'm not so sure if younger women have an easier time. I think there are too many factors to consider.
I think a woman's health regardless of age and her support network are crucial factors when it comes to childbirth and mothering, not just age per se.
But I believe it's just as important to be ready for a child mentally and emotionally, not just physically. I'd never rush into having a child just to meet the age deadline. I've seen many successful mature mothers to know that it can be done.
hmm...
in your twenties, if you're ready then it'd be good, if u aren't then wait till u're ready before u go have one. but by then u might not be able to have one that quickly. think everyone should bear this in their mind cos i've heard women complainin about tryin for a kid for a long time, but are unable to conceive. They're in their 30s.. mom's frenz.
support network's very important imo. if my mom's gg to talk like that someone i know, i'm definitely not gg to go anywhere near mom when i'm pregnant, or immediately after child birth... -
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Called her last night...
It seems that my bro just gave in... Rest, I dunno liao... Must be aft I scolded him off abt abortion -
Hip Hip Hooray!! Nephew or Niece on the way!! (Hey, it rhymes!Originally posted by sbst275:Called her last night...
It seems that my bro just gave in... Rest, I dunno liao... Must be aft I scolded him off abt abortion ) -
Originally posted by Rhonda:Hip Hip Hooray!! Nephew or Niece on the way!! (Hey, it rhymes! )
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ah... omedeto!
hmm.. a story, dun tink it suits the occassion anymore, but just wanna share
the 3rd post is written from the baby's point of view. -
Crying aft reading it...Originally posted by shinta:ah... omedeto!
hmm.. a story, dun tink it suits the occassion anymore, but just wanna share
the 3rd post is written from the baby's point of view. -
It was 3 yrs ago but every now n then, I still think of my bb. Whenever I saw toddlers abt tis age, I felt very upset. I always think tat if i din go 4 it, s/he will b tis big!Originally posted by shinta:ah... omedeto!
hmm.. a story, dun tink it suits the occassion anymore, but just wanna share
the 3rd post is written from the baby's point of view.
sigh... some nights, i can't sleep. I felt s/he standing by my bed, asking me y i dun wan him/her! I would cry in my sleep... my bb... I always felt tat s/he is following me, never leave me bcos s/he got no place 2 go!
After reading tis story, i'm sure 2nite, s/he will ask me again...
the part when the story mentioned "the monster started ripping my arm off. It hurt so bad..." is also ripping my heart...
i'm so damn guilty n regret it, but i hv no choice... the pain in my heart surfaced again... -
Poor bb... And to you as well...Originally posted by flyme2moon:It was 3 yrs ago but every now n then, I still think of my bb. Whenever I saw toddlers abt tis age, I felt very upset. I always think tat if i din go 4 it, s/he will b tis big!
sigh... some nights, i can't sleep. I felt s/he standing by my bed, asking me y i dun wan him/her! I would cry in my sleep... my bb... I always felt tat s/he is following me, never leave me bcos s/he got no place 2 go!
After reading tis story, i'm sure 2nite, s/he will ask me again... the part when the story mentioned "the monster started ripping my arm off. It hurt so bad..." is also ripping my heart...
i'm so damn guilty n regret it, but i hv no choice... the pain in my heart surfaced again... -
I'm sorryOriginally posted by flyme2moon:It was 3 yrs ago but every now n then, I still think of my bb. Whenever I saw toddlers abt tis age, I felt very upset. I always think tat if i din go 4 it, s/he will b tis big!
sigh... some nights, i can't sleep. I felt s/he standing by my bed, asking me y i dun wan him/her! I would cry in my sleep... my bb... I always felt tat s/he is following me, never leave me bcos s/he got no place 2 go!
After reading tis story, i'm sure 2nite, s/he will ask me again... the part when the story mentioned "the monster started ripping my arm off. It hurt so bad..." is also ripping my heart...
i'm so damn guilty n regret it, but i hv no choice... the pain in my heart surfaced again... -
Hey shinta, not ur fault la. I hv myself 2 blame. If only my hubby n I can afford 2 keep him/her... sigh.Originally posted by shinta:I'm sorry
anw, a well written story. -
Thks... but no words can describe my feelings now... the empty space can nv b filled.Originally posted by sbst275:Poor bb... And to you as well... -
Well... If back then, if you really can't have him/ her.. Let it beOriginally posted by flyme2moon:Thks... but no words can describe my feelings now... the empty space can nv b filled. -
Arrgh... My baby has 2 cousins coming up
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Still trying very hard 2... anw, jus wanna warn those who wanna go 4 abortion - DUN DO IT!!!!!!!Originally posted by sbst275:Well... If back then, if you really can't have him/ her.. Let it be
Very scary, dangerous & the after effect is a torment.
Wen I was comfirmed by the doc tat I was pregnant, I was so mercilessly firm tat I dun wan tis bb. I was like no feeling at all. I was selfish n heartless. No matter how the docs n nurses persuaded me, my decision was final. My hubby was lost n dun-know-wat-2-do type. I had 2 assure him I'll settle tis myself, dun worry... sigh... -
I see...Originally posted by flyme2moon:Still trying very hard 2... anw, jus wanna warn those who wanna go 4 abortion - DUN DO IT!!!!!!!
Very scary, dangerous & the after effect is a torment.
Wen I was comfirmed by the doc tat I was pregnant, I was so mercilessly firm tat I dun wan tis bb. I was like no feeling at all. I was selfish n heartless. No matter how the docs n nurses persuaded me, my decision was final. My hubby was lost n dun-know-wat-2-do type. I had 2 assure him I'll settle tis myself, dun worry... sigh... -
u had done wat u thought were the best and rite option back then...so don't regret and feel bad now....wat is over is over....do try to get over it..life still have to go on.....don't give way to imagination (that its always near you and asking u y u dun wan it). I know its easy to say... but the guilt you have its not easy to be get ride off....but still do not think too much about it anymore.....move on with your hubby......i am sure the baby understands you had done wat you had to do and has forgiven you....Originally posted by flyme2moon:Still trying very hard 2... anw, jus wanna warn those who wanna go 4 abortion - DUN DO IT!!!!!!!
Very scary, dangerous & the after effect is a torment.
Wen I was comfirmed by the doc tat I was pregnant, I was so mercilessly firm tat I dun wan tis bb. I was like no feeling at all. I was selfish n heartless. No matter how the docs n nurses persuaded me, my decision was final. My hubby was lost n dun-know-wat-2-do type. I had 2 assure him I'll settle tis myself, dun worry... sigh...
maybe u can write the reason, your apologies and your heartache and your pain and ask for forgiveness in a piece of paper.....keep it in a box and seal it and store it away.....let this painful page of your life gone pass....
who knows maybe your baby has already reincarnated and now enjoy the love of another parents....so give your blessing....
Please take care! -
At least, I have saved one...
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a pat on 275's shoulder....well done!Originally posted by sbst275:At least, I have saved one... -
Thank you...Originally posted by a_splash:a pat on 275's shoulder....well done!
My future newphew/ niece..
I scolded my brother who wants his wife to abort the baby... I told him he would be classified as a murderer.. I think aft that, he might have thought abt it.. -
by the way how many months preggy were u then??Originally posted by flyme2moon:Still trying very hard 2... anw, jus wanna warn those who wanna go 4 abortion - DUN DO IT!!!!!!!
Very scary, dangerous & the after effect is a torment.
Wen I was comfirmed by the doc tat I was pregnant, I was so mercilessly firm tat I dun wan tis bb. I was like no feeling at all. I was selfish n heartless. No matter how the docs n nurses persuaded me, my decision was final. My hubby was lost n dun-know-wat-2-do type. I had 2 assure him I'll settle tis myself, dun worry... sigh... -
yes, unless there are really some difficulties/prob where the child will not be rec'd good care etc....we try to minimise the need for abortion....Originally posted by sbst275:Thank you...
My future newphew/ niece..
I scolded my brother who wants his wife to abort the baby... I told him he would be classified as a murderer.. I think aft that, he might have thought abt it.. -
I was only 7 weeks pregnant. n after visiting the gynea, he said it is too small for abortion. Asked me 2 wait another week...Originally posted by a_splash:by the way how many months preggy were u then??
Maybe I should start a new thread abt abortion? I dun think tis thread here is suitable.