Night Owls Chatterboxes - Part IX!
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I meant, that you like it 'tough' and rough on the edges. You are the sort who subscribe to the 'da shi teng, mah shi ai' philosophy.Originally posted by stellazio:Translate for the sake of MG please..and for me too..But i thought opposite attracts..
Not me. I prefer the soft, gentle approach. I'm a very stubborn and strong-willed person, so if you try to do the rough thing on me, it will backfire!
But, if you move me with your patience and gentleness and all that, I will melt into a happy little puddle!!
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Rescue me from the depths of the abyss den?I heard from a wise man that everyone needs saving some point of his/her life..And it usually comes from the most unexpected of people..Originally posted by Rhonda:Oh, he wasn't referring to you when he was talking about 'challenges'.
You, you're in a different category altogether... You're an Abyss!! 
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Who ever said i was the tough and rough type..I'm fragile and loving type..Originally posted by Rhonda:I meant, that you like it 'tough' and rough on the edges. You are the sort who subscribe to the 'da shi teng, mah shi ai' philosophy.
Not me. I prefer the soft, gentle approach. I'm a very stubborn and strong-willed person, so if you try to do the rough thing on me, it will backfire!
But, if you move me with your patience and gentleness and all that, I will melt into a happy little puddle!! -
I feel that the govt ought to examine the push-pull factors that drives Singaporeans to migrate, paying special heed to the push factors.Originally posted by Meia Gisborn:You have to choose your battles wisely.
As long as certain people and mindsets continue to dominate the Singapore government, I personally feel that the battle cannot be won.
(And on that note, I take my leave for lunch.
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Afterall, migration isn't easy and yet, so many of us are doing it. Why?
Instead of examining that and finding a possible solution to stem the flow and improve the standard of living here, they turn around and insult those of us who made the brave move beyond yonder shores.
If you can't win 'em, insult 'em? Isn't that kinda like sour grapes? Like what the Chinese say, "Chi1 bu2 dao4 pu2 tao2, shuo1 pu2 tao2 suan1"! (Cannot eat the grapes so comment that the grapes are sour anyways!) -
You certainly don't give me that impression.Originally posted by stellazio:Who ever said i was the tough and rough type..I'm fragile and loving type..
It must be the moon or something cause suddenly, instead of being a Bull Mastiff, you're trying to be a Golden Retriever.
Too late, you've insulted me and shown me no mercy for far too long so as long as I can sniff you out, I'm going to be a Rottweiler to you! Muaharharharhar!!! -
The norm is if you can't beat them join them..But they are having such a good life here while the rest of us are slogging away..So of course la,why will they bother to pull your back..After all they mostly care for themselves anyway..Just like freaking cigarettes prices..You think its for public health care that they are raising prices?F***ing bullcrap..Originally posted by Rhonda:I feel that the govt ought to examine the push-pull factors that drives Singaporeans to migrate, paying special heed to the push factors.
Afterall, migration isn't easy and yet, so many of us are doing it. Why?
Instead of examining that and finding a possible solution to stem the flow and improve the standard of living here, they turn around and insult those of us who made the brave move beyond yonder shores.
If you can't win 'em, insult 'em? Isn't that kinda like sour grapes? Like what the Chinese say, "Chi1 bu2 dao4 pu2 tao2, shuo1 pu2 tao2 suan1"! (Cannot eat the grapes so comment that the grapes are sour anyways!) -
When did i insult you, and when did i not bestow mercy upon your shiny forehead with that calm soothing eyes, perky nose and pretty face?Originally posted by Rhonda:You certainly don't give me that impression.
It must be the moon or something cause suddenly, instead of being a Bull Mastiff, you're trying to be a Golden Retriever.
Too late, you've insulted me and shown me no mercy for far too long so as long as I can sniff you out, I'm going to be a Rottweiler to you! Muaharharharhar!!! -
stella, trust me, you won't even want to get me started on this!!Originally posted by stellazio:When did i insult you, and when did i not bestow mercy upon your shiny forehead with that calm soothing eyes, perky nose and pretty face? -
Do you need an invitation card to start?Originally posted by Rhonda:stella, trust me, you won't even want to get me started on this!! -
OK, stella, to be fair to you, let me explain further.
Sometimes, people may be in vulnerable moods. They may need assurances, compassion, empathy, a listening ear. They do not want to feel criticised, judged, teased, mocked, insulted. Times like that, a kind word, a listening ear, a gentle spirit, does much - it's like a balm that soothes the soul.
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I know thats why i refrain from putting smiley faces at the back of my sentences yesterday when talking to LS..You think my E.Q very low?Originally posted by Rhonda:OK, stella, to be fair to you, let me explain further.
Sometimes, people may be in vulnerable moods. They may need assurances, compassion, empathy, a listening ear. They do not want to feel criticised, judged, teased, mocked, insulted. Times like that, a kind word, a listening ear, a gentle spirit, does much - it's like a balm that soothes the soul.
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Actually, yah, I do!!Originally posted by stellazio:I know thats why i refrain from putting smiley faces at the back of my sentences yesterday when talking to LS..You think my E.Q very low? -
Okie i was expecting that,but in real life alot of my friends go to me when down and feeling out of sorts..No kidding,but i get sick of it about how weak people are and why they are whining to me instead of finding their own way out of this mess as such i have become slightly cold on this matter..Geddit??I was forced too and thats why i don't wana play Mr. Nice Guy anymore,and when people say i rub salt on their wounds,but afterall salt makes the wound heal faster right?Originally posted by Rhonda:Actually, yah, I do!! -
You cannot adopt a one-size-fits-all policy when it comes to dealing with people.Originally posted by stellazio:Okie i was expecting that,but in real life alot of my friends go to me when down and feeling out of sorts..No kidding,but i get sick of it about how weak people are and why they are whining to me instead of finding their own way out of this mess as such i have become slightly cold on this matter..Geddit??I was forced too and thats why i don't wana play Mr. Nice Guy anymore,and when people say i rub salt on their wounds,but afterall salt makes the wound heal faster right?
You cannot sell salt as a miracle cure for EVERY kind of wound, to improvise on your analogy.
And no, I do not geddit. If you're burnt out from being Mr Nice and listening to your friends all the time, take a time-out. It's not righ to henceforth become impatient and uncaring towards everyone else. -
I'm just irritated at the fact that why people can't rely on themselves to stand up and pull themselves out of trouble..Why must they go to others..Afterall the only help you'll be getting comes in the form of words..And what good is that,in the end its still you,yourself and you..No one can help you but you yourself..Those are internal wounds not external in which nurses and doctors can fix..So its ultimately your own healing capability..Originally posted by Rhonda:You cannot adopt a one-size-fits-all policy when it comes to dealing with people.
You cannot sell salt as a miracle cure for EVERY kind of wound, to improvise on your analogy.
And no, I do not geddit. If you're burnt out from being Mr Nice and listening to your friends all the time, take a time-out. It's not righ to henceforth become impatient and uncaring towards everyone else.
Oh yeah about taking time outs?Maybe thats the reason why i became an introvert..Not wanting to ridicule myself with childish problems that i have come across..Like WTH will some see me as an relationship counsellor.. -
Don't know about others, but when I tell my friends my problems, it's just to have a listening ear. I do not expect them to solve MY problems, but I just want to know that they understand me, that they empathise, and that they're on my side.Originally posted by stellazio:I'm just irritated at the fact that why people can't rely on themselves to stand up and pull themselves out of trouble..Why must they go to others..Afterall the only help you'll be getting comes in the form of words..And what good is that,in the end its still you,yourself and you..No one can help you but you yourself..Those are internal wounds not external in which nurses and doctors can fix..So its ultimately your own healing capability..
Sometimes, I run something by a close buddy because I want to know what he/she thinks about it. I want to be sure that I'm not making a foolish decision based on my own prejudice and subjectivity. We all need that friend to be our mirror, reflecting our own image back, because sometimes, we're so in the situation that we just don't see.
There are better ways to take a rain check then to go around snapping at people like some moody terrapin! -
Gee, where are the rest of the Night Owls?
And, wondering if Littlestream will drop by tonight.
Kinda worried and would really love an update on her situation!
Also wondering if MG will return with his milkshake! -
Question here,do you feel guilty when burdening others with your problems..Yes you might not have the intention of asking them for help but like you said just a listening ear..But you never know deep down they could be troubled that you their good friend is troubled you get it?And thats how i feel..When my friends talks suicidal stuff like darn she loves me not i feel so depress..Yes he just wanted my ear and i can do nothing to help,but does he realize that i'm troubled by the fact that he's not happy too?And me being a person who lives on happiness..You get the point..Originally posted by Rhonda:Don't know about others, but when I tell my friends my problems, it's just to have a listening ear. I do not expect them to solve MY problems, but I just want to know that they understand me, that they empathise, and that they're on my side.
Sometimes, I run something by a close buddy because I want to know what he/she thinks about it. I want to be sure that I'm not making a foolish decision based on my own prejudice and subjectivity. We all need that friend to be our mirror, reflecting our own image back, because sometimes, we're so in the situation that we just don't see.
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Friday nights aren't exactly meant to be stay home chat on the net kinda night you know..Originally posted by Rhonda:Gee, where are the rest of the Night Owls?
And, wondering if Littlestream will drop by tonight. Kinda worried and would really love an update on her situation!
Also wondering if MG will return with his milkshake! -
Unless your girlfriend lives 6000 miles away.Originally posted by stellazio:Friday nights aren't exactly meant to be stay home chat on the net kinda night you know.. -
Originally posted by Kuali Baba:Unless your girlfriend lives 6000 miles away.
Hi, KB!
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Nope, I do not get the point.Originally posted by stellazio:Question here,do you feel guilty when burdening others with your problems..Yes you might not have the intention of asking them for help but like you said just a listening ear..But you never know deep down they could be troubled that you their good friend is troubled you get it?And thats how i feel..When my friends talks suicidal stuff like darn she loves me not i feel so depress..Yes he just wanted my ear and i can do nothing to help,but does he realize that i'm troubled by the fact that he's not happy too?And me being a person who lives on happiness..You get the point..
Sorry, no matter what, nothing can justify you being crabby to others. I'm no angel to a few folks, but nothing can excuse my bad behaviour either. There is simply no justification for bad behaviour. -
I'm not being mean to others..I just like to poke fun at others and if thats being mean den fine..Seriously if a friend came to you and share with you his/her problems,its impossible to be just a listening ear if you can consider yourself to be a true friend..You'll end up trying to help no matter how insignificant your contribution might be..
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Well, then, it's time for you to learn that you cannot carry the weight of the world on your shoulders.Originally posted by stellazio:I'm not being mean to others..I just like to poke fun at others and if thats being mean den fine..Seriously if a friend came to you and share with you his/her problems,its impossible to be just a listening ear if you can consider yourself to be a true friend..You'll end up trying to help no matter how insignificant your contribution might be..
And if your friends expect you to make their decisions for them and solve their problems for them, then they need to learn to be more independant.
And yes, poking fun at others may be fun to you, but it can easily be miscontrued to mean meanness, esp online, since body language and tone, etc cannot be conveyed. -
I try my best to end with a smiley face?C'mon there's the effort..To show i wasn't intending to be mean...Originally posted by Rhonda:Well, then, it's time for you to learn that you cannot carry the weight of the world on your shoulders.
And if your friends expect you to make their decisions for them and solve their problems for them, then they need to learn to be more independant.
And yes, poking fun at others may be fun to you, but it can easily be miscontrued to mean meanness, esp online, since body language and tone, etc cannot be conveyed.