Night Owls Chatterboxes - Part IX!
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Well, from your parents' points of view, they're losing their daughter to a foreign land that is at least not as far away as, say, the North American continent. Proximity can make all the difference.Originally posted by Rhonda:Mom and Dad are ok with it. In fact, they're very happy about it. Odd, isn't it? Mom was 'supportive' when I told her I was heading to the US. She had her reservations about me going there alone and what-not, but nevertheless, fears and worries aside, she tried hard to be a supportive mom.
When I changed my direction and decided on Australia, BOTH mom AND dad were pretty ecstatic.
Now that your application process is underway, perhaps it is time to start thinking about what you're going to do once you set foot on Australia. A preliminary plan might look something like this:
1. Find housing.
2. Get a driver's license and vehicle.
3. Look for a job.
4. Look for a real-life 'Leonard.'
MG -
Was just talking to a close buddy about making concrete plans now that the IELTS obstacle is taken care of.Originally posted by Meia Gisborn:Well, from your parents' points of view, they're losing their daughter to a foreign land that is at least not as far away as, say, the North American continent. Proximity can make all the difference.
Now that your application process is underway, perhaps it is time to start thinking about what you're going to do once you set foot on Australia. A preliminary plan might look something like this:
1. Find housing.
2. Get a driver's license and vehicle.
3. Look for a job.
4. Look for a real-life 'Leonard.'
MG
I thought it'd be great to move there AFTER my bro's Chinese wedding dinner. Go there at least two weeks before I commence my job, settle down in my new home, new neighbourhood, and if possible, learn driving.
I'll be there with a job. There are jobs aplenty for RN's over there. Once I obtain my Nursing Licence in the State of Victoria, the jobs are mine for the picking! The agency has jobs aplenty for us to select from too! 
As for that 'Leonard' thing, hmm... not so sure it'll be a good idea. If I have to actively and agressively pursue a guy, it's the beginning of the end already!
Whilst I might find it a 'challenge' to go after a guy who doesn't seem interested in me, deep down, I still want the guy to have the hots for me, so much so that HE pursues ME ardently. Just like what my ex's have dutifully done! There is no reason why I should have to hunt for a guy. 
I was also confiding in my friend, that I think I might have to look for a chap who's open to the idea of becoming a househusband! I mean, we never know what life dishes out to us, and let's face it, no job is 'secure' these days. On top of that, I might want to pursue my dream of furthering my studies in the US eventually, which means that if I have a conservative and egoistic man in my life, all those dreams shall have to go down the drain.
I might talk like I'm man-hungry or what, but when it comes to the crunch, there are way too many factors to consider and being single has its plus points too.
I guess I just haven't met that special guy yet. When I eventually do, you never know... all these might just become 'Famous Last Words'!
So, I'm open to what life or rather, God, has in store for me. -
there is no such thing as equality, is there?
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Nope... more like 'perceived equality'.Originally posted by the Bear:there is no such thing as equality, is there?
sad to say..
But there's something better than cold, hard equality... it's 'Give & Take'. -
i see a lot of people out there who say "give and take"
but they end up with "sit and wait"
shou zhu dai tu -
Well, what's the alternative then?Originally posted by the Bear:i see a lot of people out there who say "give and take"
but they end up with "sit and wait"
shou zhu dai tu
Go out and hunt a man down and draaaaag him home??
Sorry, not my style!
If the man doesn't think I'm hot enough to pursue, then, NEXT!!!
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OK, brb... going to shower in flower essences and then step out smelling like a ... ah, you guys know!
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Man, tonight, it's just MG, Bear, and I.
Littlestream's accounted for... but where are the rest? -
you know what you have just said?
you just said that there will never ever be a man "HOT" enough for you to pursue
now that the shoe is on the other foot, what do you think about it? -
In my opinion, each time I meet a man who's actually 'hot' enough for me to pursue, the whole thing ends up in one huge sorry ending.Originally posted by the Bear:you know what you have just said?
you just said that there will never ever be a man "HOT" enough for you to pursue
now that the shoe is on the other foot, what do you think about it? I don't play the pursuer role well and am tres clumsy at it cuz... more practice being the pursued!
If I have to waste my time convincing a cool dude that I'm worth his while, argh, forget it! If the dude is THAT blind, then, not even the elixir of love can restore his sight! -
well, imagine a dude that says the same thing..
let it be then -
Hey, dudes are supposed to do the chasing!! Since when did the tides turn?Originally posted by the Bear:well, imagine a dude that says the same thing..
let it be then -
since these things called "emacipation" and "women's suffrage"
you want the "perks", well, them privileges come with this great burden called "responsibility"Originally posted by Rhonda:Hey, dudes are supposed to do the chasing!! Since when did the tides turn? -
Congratulations... you've totally succeeded in making dating sound like an utter chore!Originally posted by the Bear:since these things called "emacipation" and "women's suffrage"
you want the "perks", well, them privileges come with this great burden called "responsibility" -
Since sometime last century. Didn't you get the memo?Originally posted by Rhonda:Hey, dudes are supposed to do the chasing!! Since when did the tides turn?
MG -
unfortunately, you did..
from a pressure-free day out, based on mutual respect and possibilities and potential for fun and maybe more, it became a race in order to win your affections with goodness knows what
isn't that the case when you said that you wanted.. nay.. DEMANDED!! that the guy pursue you instead of you go make the first move?Originally posted by Rhonda:Congratulations... you've totally succeeded in making dating sound like an utter chore! -
OK, now, I throw the question back at you...
If a girl was interested in you and started to pursue you ardently, how would you respond?
Wouldn't it be something like this :
1- Be very flattered about it, esp if she's a cute chick too.
2- Start getting a little worried and annoyed at all the constant attention.
3- Start to feel 'claustrophobic' and have a real urge to have your own 'space' and so start to avoid her.
4- Try to be polite about shrugging her off, hoping not to hurt her feelings and pride in the process, if the bloke's a gentleman.
5- Realise she has gotten over you and start to wonder, drats, did you actually ruin a good thing?
The endless run to - run away from cycle.
I'd rather spend my energy doing something more definite, with someone more decisive.
"You like me?"
"Yeah!"
"Let's go out?"
"OK!"
"Erm... wanna be my girlfriend?"
"OK!"
Simple, sweet, clean, goes for the jugular. Boy loves girl, girl loves boy, let's get together! Niiiice!!
Hemming and hawing... yaaaaaaawn!! Let me count the no. of cows jumping over the moon! -
Yeah, right, MG...Originally posted by Meia Gisborn:Since sometime last century. Didn't you get the memo?
MG
And then, how would you respond afterwards? Would you REALLY want a chick pursuing you? Hell... I just mentioned I MIGHT end up working in the States and you wanted to call the Internal Security folks to put up road blocks around your neighbourhood and now, you're talking about being pursued by a lady??!! -
OK, MG and Bear, the way I see it, it's like this -
Women are either like dogs (nope, I didn't say 'b-itches'! ) or, they are like cats.
Those who resemble the canines would pine and long for their guy, pursuing them ardently, time and again, not taking 'no' for an answer, even if the guy treats them real shoddy. They'll always be there, they don't seem to get the message that the guy might not really like them.
Then, there are those of us who resemble the felines. We're usually a tad restrained, observe from a distance, then when sure of self but yet still shy, will inch forward tentatively, and go rub-rub on the guy's legs, and weave our way in and out of his legs, hoping that we'll get that mmmMMMmmmm, much longed-for ear-rub and belly rub! You yield, I yield.
BUT, felines have pride. No response whatsoever, fine! Pooh! Pooh!! Walks off, tail held high in the air! Or, in a bad situation, renders a MMMmrrrrreeeeeeeeow!! *cat slash!! and then, sprints away! -
would depend..
if i liked the girl that way and saw some potential for love blossoming, i'd say "hey, why not? let's give it a go yah?"
if there wasn't, "uhh.. no.. you're a friend, and will remain so... you are not for me and i am not for you.. sad to say.. coz you're a great girl, but just friends?"
and before you ask.. it's happened.. the latter bit, that is -
cats also will go to those they like
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Yeah, see... and you think girls don't have a thing about being rejected?!Originally posted by the Bear:would depend..
if i liked the girl that way and saw some potential for love blossoming, i'd say "hey, why not? let's give it a go yah?"
if there wasn't, "uhh.. no.. you're a friend, and will remain so... you are not for me and i am not for you.. sad to say.. coz you're a great girl, but just friends?"
and before you ask.. it's happened.. the latter bit, that is -
Yeah, but if cats go once, twice, third time, still no positive reinforcements, no ear rubs, no belly rubs, then, cats go hunting for a potential new owner!Originally posted by the Bear:cats also will go to those they like -
Simple,i give myself a time period to see whether the feelings can be reciprocated..Its worse when the whole level in your school knows about it.. Well what to do,i'm used to the limelight..Originally posted by Rhonda:OK, now, I throw the question back at you...
If a girl was interested in you and started to pursue you ardently, how would you respond?
Wouldn't it be something like this :
1- Be very flattered about it, esp if she's a cute chick too.
2- Start getting a little worried and annoyed at all the constant attention.
3- Start to feel 'claustrophobic' and have a real urge to have your own 'space' and so start to avoid her.
4- Try to be polite about shrugging her off, hoping not to hurt her feelings and pride in the process, if the bloke's a gentleman.
5- Realise she has gotten over you and start to wonder, drats, did you actually ruin a good thing?
The endless run to - run away from cycle.
I'd rather spend my energy doing something more definite, with someone more decisive.
"You like me?"
"Yeah!"
"Let's go out?"
"OK!"
"Erm... wanna be my girlfriend?" "OK!"
Simple, sweet, clean, goes for the jugular. Boy loves girl, girl loves boy, let's get together! Niiiice!!
Hemming and hawing... yaaaaaaawn!! Let me count the no. of cows jumping over the moon! -
and guys don't have pride?
comes with the territory...
when a woman plays hard to get, disses a man, shows him disrespect, gives him a hard time.. all that, she gets a "You GO! Girl!"
when a man does that, he's a piece of crap jerk whose type you find people wiping off their shoes on grass..
now.. think about that
coz that's the way, no matter what every lady says, it is...Originally posted by Rhonda:Yeah, see... and you think girls don't have a thing about being rejected?!