Club 30's "Kill the Boredom Demon" Jive Pad, 19th Edition
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Me arOriginally posted by elindra:Afternoon
SBST how do you discipline your kids
Just tell my little darling nicely lor... Next time dun do it...
But my big darling would sometimes whack -
Em, now at Airport
Once you collected your luggage at the belts, is there another round of security checks? -
When you say "Next time don't do it"
Will your kid do it again?
If they repeatedly do what you tell them not to do
What is your next course of action? -
no ideaOriginally posted by sbst275:Em, now at Airport
Once you collected your luggage at the belts, is there another round of security checks? -
Have not happened until now actuallyOriginally posted by elindra:When you say "Next time don't do it"
Will your kid do it again?
If they repeatedly do what you tell them not to do
What is your next course of action?
But if it really occur, smack her butt once maybe bah -
I believe it is because she had been demonstrating her lack of control to her child, that is why the child disrespect her.Originally posted by elindra:How do you define that.
Anyway giving lip is a form of disrespect and it is something naughty which deserves a smack.
If she had been able to deal w her child in a firm and stern manner to begin with, it doesn't need to come to this. And I don't even think a smack will help matters. The child may learn not to show disrespect to her FACE, but will not learn to GIVE her respect. So, it doesn't teach the child anything except to masks his true self.
Then again it depends on how old the child is... i am assumign the child in question is below 12-14. When kids reach teenage years, its a whole different problem altogether. -
nvmOriginally posted by elindra:no idea
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Changi?
There is one round of x ray scanning before you leave departure areaOriginally posted by sbst275:Em, now at Airport
Once you collected your luggage at the belts, is there another round of security checks? -
I'm talking abt arrivalOriginally posted by choco B:Changi?
There is one round of x ray scanning before you leave departure area
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Oh sorry yar arrival LOLOriginally posted by sbst275:I'm talking abt arrival
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wahOriginally posted by choco B:Oh sorry yar arrival LOL
Last time slack...
Now scared of terrorist -
Anyway what we were talking about is sparing the rod and spoiling the childOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:I believe it is because she had been demonstrating her lack of control to her child, that is why the child disrespect her.
If she had been able to deal w her child in a firm and stern manner to begin with, it doesn't need to come to this. And I don't even think a smack will help matters. The child may learn not to show disrespect to her FACE, but will not learn to GIVE her respect. So, it doesn't teach the child anything except to masks his true self.
Then again it depends on how old the child is... i am assumign the child in question is below 12-14. When kids reach teenage years, its a whole different problem altogether.
As in a 'no smack' policy and not a 'I'm smacking out of desperation' policy.
I agree that tell once, tell twice and if it is the 3rd time the child is repeating the mistake, yes I think the child deserves a smack. -
I think a lot has to do with the tone of voice and the look on ur face.Originally posted by elindra:When you say "Next time don't do it"
Will your kid do it again?
If they repeatedly do what you tell them not to do
What is your next course of action?
Most of the time I rarely find it necessary to shout at my kids
The most difficult case I had to handle once was a child who is a kleptomaniac.
He's only 8, comes from a well to do family but KEEPS ON STEALING
small items mind you, over and over again
I ran through the entire gamut of punishments -
quiet time, locked room, reflections, diary.. and it didnt work
His father and mom smacked him every single time, hit his hands
it didnt work.
When I discover he stole again, he will stand in front of me sobbing
and telling he he doesn't understand WHY he stole he hates himself he don't understand why why why... and u can hear the frustration in his voice.
until we realised it was cos he did it to get attention from his dad
who flies frequently overseas, and eventually we got him to keep a notebook and everytime he wants to steal soemthing, he would keep his hands busy by taking out his notebook to draw the item he want to steal and WALK AWAY.
Before i left, he drew about 3 items in the notebook and showed it to me and told me happily he managed to walk away. Don't know how is he now...
But really.. as far as I see it... most kids are not born naughty. It is all learn behaviour and there is a good reason WHY they behave the way they do.
And if u need to smack them, I prefer the hand or the bottom. At home and not in public. Because respect got to be mutual. -
Would u allow ur child's teachers to smack ur child?Originally posted by elindra:Anyway what we were talking about is sparing the rod and spoiling the child
As in a 'no smack' policy and not a 'I'm smacking out of desperation' policy.
I agree that tell once, tell twice and if it is the 3rd time the child is repeating the mistake, yes I think the child deserves a smack. -
If you ask me to use the cane, maybe I wun
But I can sense discipline is quite bad esp with the gers these days -
I would if my child did something naughty.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Would u allow ur child's teachers to smack ur child?
I really don't see what is the problem seeing that I have been smacked in school on the palm by my teachers' when I was a kid before.
I turned out fine. I am not tramatised by it, nor do I hate the teacher for it because I knew I did something naughty. -
Anyway, new SingTel CEO is decided
It's a lady, one of the big shots inside SingTel -
I think I got the cane more than my brother because I was the naughtier oneOriginally posted by sbst275:If you ask me to use the cane, maybe I wun
But I can sense discipline is quite bad esp with the gers these days -
However Cat, I do agree with you that if you have to punish the child, never humiliate him/her in public.
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I seeOriginally posted by elindra:I think I got the cane more than my brother because I was the naughtier one
This kind of thing you also dare to admit
Seriously I dun think it's right to cane girls, unless discipline is real bad -
hehe so was I.. and neither do I hate my teacher. Like I said, one reason was because it was controlled. I knew it was a punishment, and I accepted it.
I was also whacked uncontrollably by my parent when I was young. For things such as... playing too loudly and waking my dad up, I was whacked to the corner with a variety of implements from cane to belt to whips. I went to school with scars all over my body in the era before caning went out of fashion. I still love my dad, but I think he has issues in anger management.
I have also seen kids with parents that treated them with violence. I spoke to the parent about this kid fighting in school, immediately the parent shoved his head and flung him on the wall, and screamed at him. He did not react, his body just limp. It is no wonder he learns that when people don't listen to him, he can treat them in this way too.
What i am saying is that.. up to now, I have never felt the need to use this type of punishment on a child. It started w the fact that.. since I am not their parents, I do not use corporal punishment - EVEN if the parent tells me to go ahead with it. But since then, I have never met a kid that truly needed it. Even a kid who was completely spoilt at home and threw bawling tantrums, flinging his chair on the ground can be disciplined without the need to smack him.
Or rather, I manage to instil fear in the kids I teach, without needing to lift a hand.... HURHURHURHURHUHUR
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Originally posted by sbst275:I see
This kind of thing you also dare to admit
Seriously I dun think it's right to cane girls, unless discipline is real bad
Why don't I dare to admit
I was the one who gets them into trouble anyway
I was uhmmm more creative
My parents treated the both of us equally so maybe I was more tomboyish as a kid
No, I was not the kind of girl who will turn on the taps coz my parents were angry too. I will ask WHY????? Especially if I think the punishment was unfair -
I seeOriginally posted by elindra:
Why don't I dare to admit
I was the one who gets them into trouble anyway
I was uhmmm more creative
My parents treated the both of us equally so maybe I was more tomboyish as a kid
No, I was not the kind of girl who will turn on the taps coz my parents were angry too. I will ask WHY????? Especially if I think the punishment was unfair
hahahah... My darling do whack cos she never tasted the cane bef when young, so felt that must instil discipline -
Err that is too muchOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:hehe so was I.. and neither do I hate my teacher. Like I said, one reason was because it was controlled. I knew it was a punishment, and I accepted it.
I was also whacked uncontrollably by my parent when I was young. For things such as... playing too loudly and waking my dad up, I was whacked to the corner with a variety of implements from cane to belt to whips. I went to school with scars all over my body in the era before caning went out of fashion. I still love my dad, but I think he has issues in anger management.
I have also seen kids with parents that treated them with violence. I spoke to the parent about this kid fighting in school, immediately the parent shoved his head and flung him on the wall, and screamed at him. He did not react, his body just limp. It is no wonder he learns that when people don't listen to him, he can treat them in this way too.
What i am saying is that.. up to now, I have never felt the need to use this type of punishment on a child. It started w the fact that.. since I am not their parents, I do not use corporal punishment - EVEN if the parent tells me to go ahead with it. But since then, I have never met a kid that truly needed it. Even a kid who was completely spoilt at home and threw bawling tantrums, flinging his chair on the ground can be disciplined without the need to smack him.
Or rather, I manage to instil fear in the kids I teach, without needing to lift a hand.... HURHURHURHURHUHUR
I don't mean to that extend
Even my parents do not hit us out of anger
Hahaha instil fear can be worse pyschological fear is worse than physical punishment -
I think the cane worksOriginally posted by sbst275:I see
hahahah... My darling do whack cos she never tasted the cane bef when young, so felt that must instil discipline
Just that you cannot use it too often