Club 30's "Kill the Boredom Demon" Jive Pad, 19th Edition
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bye people
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Xie Xie!Originally posted by elindra:RHONDA!
Glad to see that you dropped by!
How are you? 
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rhonda so free??
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Hiya Rhonda! How's it going?
Recently, there was a feel-good article in the press about the nursing profession, which probably prompted the thread at CC about 10 top reasons to be a nurse, and I thot of you, and what you'd said.
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Good article explaining why Singaporeans don't smile. This was written almost 10 years ago! Nothing has changed since. This is also the reason why we didn't salute officers in Mindef. There's just too many of them!! From yawningbread.org
Since before humans evolved from monkeys, such agonies have afflicted every individual. Love-struck and dumb-struck. Unless I am qualified to discuss hormonal physiology, nothing much I can say about that.
I just wonder sometimes whether Singaporeans have a little harder time of it, because we are generally conditioned to be less than sociable. At moments when we want to meet people, we find we don't have the skills to make conversation. We're just tongue-tied and frozen.
Some people will say it's our Chinese or Asian culture. I don't really buy it. I believe there is so much variability in Asian cultures, that it is over-simplistic. There may be some truth in it, but not enough to explain it all.
To me the more obvious reason why Singaporeans find it hard to be convivial is that we are urban creatures. Urban denizens adopt a code of behaviour in public which aims to keep social interactions to a manageable minimum. We see, literally, thousands of other people a day. We are jampacked into lifts, buses and trains. Lunchtime finds us in a crowded foodcourt, sharing a table with 2 other strangers. We can't afford to greet them all.
How about a smile and a nod at least, as a simple act of courtesy to those around? Singaporeans don't even do that, and I can understand at least one reason why we don't. Out of the thousands of people we come within eyeshot of every day, the probability is that at least one or two will be mad. Insane. Mental. You smile unknowingly at one, and you don't know what the consequences will be. Self preservation alone says "don't smile at strangers."
So the rational thing to do is to have this common practice whereby everybody ignores everybody else. You don't impose on me and I don't impose on you. We stand quietly and look blankly at the floor counter as the lift goes up, or daydream through the window as the bus trundles along. Don't look people in the eye unless you actually know the person. Don't start talking to strangers for no compelling reason.
Our urban customs are really social graces. They make it easy to live together in a crowded environment. We compensate for the lack of physical space and privacy by creating mental privacy, and we've learnt to do that almost instinctively.
The problem with instincts is that when circumstances call for the opposite, we may not be able to overcome them and do as our head or heart desires. We can't find the words to offer a greeting let alone open a conversation; we can't even raise our face muscles into a smile. We are conditioned to fear that we'd be committing a serious breach of urban etiquette, and that we'd be shunned and rebuked with a "is this guy mental?" stare, all this in full public view. Not forgetting too, that we all fear rejection and having our heart and hopes fracture into ten thousand pieces all over the pavement, for the rest of humanity to walk over.
Yes, but can I offer any advice? Alas, no. I am human myself, and I suffer through it all too. But I thought I'd write about it anyway, to let you know, you're not alone.
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argh my game server crashed again.
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Originally posted by stellazio:argh my game server crashed again.
what game are you playing? -
can't believe i fell asleep for 3 hours
that's after about 8 hours sleep last night! -
Your body needs rest and maybe it's the medOriginally posted by the Bear:can't believe i fell asleep for 3 hours
that's after about 8 hours sleep last night!
I'm having coffee now coz I was falling asleep while my boss was talking to me and I have a hard time keeping awake -
but the last three days was also like that
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So it's your body's way of telling you it needs restOriginally posted by the Bear:but the last three days was also like that
oh well.. i am getting better
i know I should speak for myself too -
could be.. the other two weeks, i was so wracked with pain, i could not sleep properly
which is probably why the doc made me take valiums...
i've stopped that already -
I wanna sleep for 12 hours everyday...but I can't!
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Maybe it's the same thing for me when I knocked out last nightOriginally posted by the Bear:could be.. the other two weeks, i was so wracked with pain, i could not sleep properly
which is probably why the doc made me take valiums...
i've stopped that already
first I had trouble sleeping coz I sprained my back and it hurt like hell
Then I had sore throat which woke me up in the middle of the night
Then I thought I had a bad cold and couldn't sleep properly when the doc said yesterday it was sinusities and he gave me so many meds that can cause drowsiness that I think I got knocked out.
Woke up this morning fresh as a daisy but maybe it's work wearing me down coz I'm so goddamn tired right now -
got this sudden urge for Steak and Guinness Pies..
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Lets go to East Coast to eat when you are wellOriginally posted by the Bear:got this sudden urge for Steak and Guinness Pies..
maybe i'm hungry...
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but i won't be really well for some time...
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long beach seafood restaurant?Originally posted by elindra:Lets go to East Coast to eat when you are well
We can have a Club 30 outing!!
lobsters? fried duck?
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Oh poo it be sorta of a celebration for your recovery!Originally posted by the Bear:but i won't be really well for some time...
you guys go ahead first
We can wait
Or we can arrange somewhere with healthy food when you are well enough to even move -
Steak and Guiness Pie laOriginally posted by av98m:long beach seafood restaurant?
lobsters? fried duck?
The resturant....forgot the address is near Frankel Ave. -
rappelz open beta.. wah lao its quite similar to lineage, and i just realized that melee fighters are at a huge disadvantage when it comes to pvp. now i'm thrown into the abyss for some punishment.Originally posted by elindra:
what game are you playing? -
i think it's Opera Estate.. Big Ben PiesOriginally posted by elindra:Steak and Guiness Pie la
The resturant....forgot the address is near Frankel Ave. -
stella is becoming like pinkybear.. obsessed with computer games
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No interestOriginally posted by stellazio:rappelz open beta.. wah lao its quite similar to lineage, and i just realized that melee fighters are at a huge disadvantage when it comes to pvp. now i'm thrown into the abyss for some punishment.
WoW WoW WoW -
i rest my case again
Originally posted by elindra:No interest
WoW WoW WoW