Getting To Know Him Strategies

• ShrodingersCat

  2 Feb 07, 21:34

  Originally posted by av98m:

  That's so nice. I've never been able to see how I can skip the friends stage with a person and jump straight to the dating/lovers stage. Every single person I became interested in and tried to go after started as friends first. And usually it took me 6 months at least, and 2 years being the longest record, to look at them differently. What can I say, I take a long time to warm up to people. However, as mentioned earlier, either other people already make moves liao, or I was rejected outright. I'm already far too old and decrepit liao to waste time on that kind of approach, so I really need to do things differently from now on.

  Hmm its strange but I used to be always the impatient, jump right in and try to swim type of person. But... hmm in my case it never seemed to work, rships end up fizzling out like fireworks, dont last. And i met my husband after I decided that what the hell, I'm just going to be single and happy. So you really never know what will happen in your life, as long as you live it well!
  
  I do believe though after it all, that first you MUST believe that you are a person who deserves to be loved, to believe that a faithful simple love CAN exist - before you can find it.
  
• browniebaobao

  2 Feb 07, 22:56

  Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:

  Hmm its strange but I used to be always the impatient, jump right in and try to swim type of person. But... hmm in my case it never seemed to work, rships end up fizzling out like fireworks, dont last. And i met my husband after I decided that what the hell, I'm just going to be single and happy. So you really never know what will happen in your life, as long as you live it well!
  
  I do believe though after it all, that first you MUST believe that you are a person who deserves to be loved, to believe that a faithful simple love CAN exist - before you can find it.
  

  I agree.
  
  But before you wish for someone to love you, love yourself first and foremost.
• the Bear

  3 Feb 07, 03:38

  been listening to Jamie Cullum... i like this song
  
  biding my time
  trying to find a heart thatÂ’s lonely
  looking for her
  my love my one and only
  maybe i'll dream
  tonight about the girl
  whoÂ’ll be coming my way
  so i'll take this chance
  and celebrate the day
  
  when i'm making my way through an open door
  i've got some love and so much more
  and i'm ready to make someone mine
  making my way through an open door
  i've got some love and so much more
  and i'll find her.. coz it's about time
  
• soulwinner

  3 Feb 07, 03:49

  Old method.. just get friend to act... unorthodox method is gd...
• viciouskitty74

  3 Feb 07, 04:51

  I always believe.
  
  When trouble comes, it comes in cyclones.
  
  When you got one bf/gf...suddenly you have people wanting to be your bf/gf too.
• the Bear

  3 Feb 07, 04:53

  it's been an ice age
  
  listening to Jamie Cullum does put me in a wistful, wishful mood..
  
  maybe that's why i had that dream a few days ago... i rarely dream and it's even more rare that i remember dreams.. but i can still remember it..
  
  it was a pleasant dream.. gave me a warm fuzzy feeling and a smile on my face
• browniebaobao

  3 Feb 07, 11:20

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  it's been an ice age
  
  listening to Jamie Cullum does put me in a wistful, wishful mood..
  
  maybe that's why i had that dream a few days ago... i rarely dream and it's even more rare that i remember dreams.. but i can still remember it..
  
  it was a pleasant dream.. gave me a warm fuzzy feeling and a smile on my face

  woohoooo~
  
  i also used to have dreams of me and so-and-so together.. some are forumites also.. so unexpected.
  
  it's a dream afterall.. im still single.
• the Bear

  3 Feb 07, 11:24

  fwah..
  
  mine wasn't anything like that.. it was a wonderful dream, not about being together with anyone but of being a tourist.. and having a great touristy time
• browniebaobao

  3 Feb 07, 11:45

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  fwah..
  
  mine wasn't anything like that.. it was a wonderful dream, not about being together with anyone but of being a tourist.. and having a great touristy time

  ah chey!!!
  
  oops... my secret leaked out liao..
• the Bear

  3 Feb 07, 11:47

  ahahahahaha
  
  so.. who? quick... say..
• browniebaobao

  3 Feb 07, 12:00

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  ahahahahaha
  
  so.. who? quick... say..

  i can't remember..
  
  but usually if i dream of somebody, i will let him/her know.
• the Bear

  3 Feb 07, 12:04

  hmm... sure forget?
  
  anyway, my dream (i rarely dream and even more rarely remember dreams) was that i helped out someone when vacationing and she showed me around the place
  
  nice huh?
• browniebaobao

  3 Feb 07, 12:06

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  hmm... sure forget?
  
  anyway, my dream (i rarely dream and even more rarely remember dreams) was that i helped out someone when vacationing and she showed me around the place
  
  nice huh?

  so it's not really about touring la..
  
  it's about vacationing and meeting a really nice lady?
  
  ok la i remember 1.. but i cant tell u who la.
• the Bear

  3 Feb 07, 12:08

  tell tell!
  
  and it is.. she showed me around the place
  
  

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  so it's not really about touring la..
  
  it's about vacationing and meeting a really nice lady?
  
  ok la i remember 1.. but i cant tell u who la.

• tare

  3 Feb 07, 12:56

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  i can't remember..
  
  but usually if i dream of somebody, i will let him/her know.

  i also.. but usually is when i dream someone make me angry in my dream, i wake up and scold him!!!
• browniebaobao

  3 Feb 07, 13:28

  Originally posted by tare:

  i also.. but usually is when i dream someone make me angry in my dream, i wake up and scold him!!!

  
  hahaha.. fierce leh!
  
  ever got dream of forumites and wake up crying de..
• hisoka

  3 Feb 07, 13:32

  don't scold me can le
• tare

  3 Feb 07, 13:33

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  
  hahaha.. fierce leh!
  
  ever got dream of forumites and wake up crying de..

  who make u cry??!!! tell me!! *roll up sleeves*
  
  hehhee.... scold only consider "mild" lor... poor fellow kenna woke up frm slp blur
• browniebaobao

  3 Feb 07, 13:36

  Originally posted by tare:

  who make u cry??!!! tell me!! *roll up sleeves*
  
  hehhee.... scold only consider "mild" lor... poor fellow kenna woke up frm slp blur

  it's that dream that made me cry..
  
  i got scold forumites for calling or sms me when im sleeping.. for waking me up.
• the Bear

  3 Feb 07, 13:46

  hmmm... guilt building up?
  
  

  Originally posted by hisoka:

  don't scold me can le

• hisoka

  3 Feb 07, 13:49

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  hmmm... guilt building up?
  
  

  what guilt?
• tare

  3 Feb 07, 14:09

  Originally posted by hisoka:

  don't scold me can le

  i dun dream of u lor... god forbid i have nitemares like dat!
• hisoka

  3 Feb 07, 14:54

  Originally posted by tare:

  i dun dream of u lor... god forbid i have nitemares like dat!

  
  
  i would be worried
• viciouskitty74

  3 Feb 07, 14:54

  i got to know some guys.
  
  And the more they know of me. They more they shun me.
  
  So no point wasting my time taking time to know them.
• alexkusu

  3 Feb 07, 14:59

  *achoo achoo*
  
  who here thinking of me?