Club 30's "Kill the Boredom Demon" Jive Pad, 28th Edition
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If I ever become a mumOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:Actually I find a lot of kids like that.
Generally they know who are the people who love them the most, and therefore, easier to 'bully' to get what they want - be it attention, comfort, listening ear. They also know that people who love them a lot, tend to be soft hearted to crying, and give in to them when discipline is being enforced. That is why tendency for them to misbehave at home a lot more than ... say in school.
Sometimes parents call me ask me for help because they can't discipline their child. But really, they just need to be firm. Usually the behaviour will get worse because the child tries 'harder' to illicit reaction, but it WILL improve when discipline becomes consistent and carried out all the way. But what can I say to them, when the parents tell me "you know la, when the child cries, I can't help it but to give in..."
Love is tough.
Will you be my child consultant
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do these people EVER check the amended copy against the previous version?Originally posted by the Bear:my colleague is going to kill the vendor and burn down his shop in a while..
the last draft came with a missing paragraph from a page... the rest of the pages are okay..
now it's come back, the paragraph is back.. but another page has gone totally wrong..
thing is, that page never had mistakes from the 1st draft...
it's like they specially went and made mistakes for us to lose our temper
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thats why i said lock/tie up the kid till he succumbsOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:Actually I find a lot of kids like that.
Generally they know who are the people who love them the most, and therefore, easier to 'bully' to get what they want - be it attention, comfort, listening ear. They also know that people who love them a lot, tend to be soft hearted to crying, and give in to them when discipline is being enforced. That is why tendency for them to misbehave at home a lot more than ... say in school.
Sometimes parents call me ask me for help because they can't discipline their child. But really, they just need to be firm. Usually the behaviour will get worse because the child tries 'harder' to illicit reaction, but it WILL improve when discipline becomes consistent and carried out all the way. But what can I say to them, when the parents tell me "you know la, when the child cries, I can't help it but to give in..."
Love is tough.
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i don't think so.. this is about the 12th time this has happenedOriginally posted by av98m:do these people EVER check the amended copy against the previous version?
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I think the issues isnt just about difficulties.
its about responsibilities.
And not enough welfare for the mothers.
Instead of rebates in taxes. If the housewife can draw a certain 'welfare salary' to have children and stay at home with the children w/o worrying about finances. People might be more tempted to have children, irrespective of how their spouse can support the family. -
12Originally posted by the Bear:i don't think so.. this is about the 12th time this has happened
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Thing is, when we all become mums, all these 'theories' can become moot cos I do understand how hard it is to withstand ur own 'flesh and blood' (gawd I hate this term like.. a rare steak u know) crying and not being able to run and give the most amount of care as possible...Originally posted by elindra:If I ever become a mum
Will you be my child consultant
... but sigh, sad to say have seen the 'ill effects' of those children who suffer cos parents dont give enough discipline. In the end the children suffer more.
Super nanny can be ur child consultant. She's good.
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Don't watch super nannyOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:Thing is, when we all become mums, all these 'theories' can become moot cos I do understand how hard it is to withstand ur own 'flesh and blood' (gawd I hate this term like.. a rare steak u know) crying and not being able to run and give the most amount of care as possible...
... but sigh, sad to say have seen the 'ill effects' of those children who suffer cos parents dont give enough discipline. In the end the children suffer more.
Super nanny can be ur child consultant. She's good.
Yeah maybe or I go ballistic
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Agrees.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Thing is, when we all become mums, all these 'theories' can become moot cos I do understand how hard it is to withstand ur own 'flesh and blood' (gawd I hate this term like.. a rare steak u know) crying and not being able to run and give the most amount of care as possible...
... but sigh, sad to say have seen the 'ill effects' of those children who suffer cos parents dont give enough discipline. In the end the children suffer more.
Super nanny can be ur child consultant. She's good.
Especially when your kid wont eat, wont sleep or wont poo poo. Adults suffer as a result too. -
right now my big child headache is a girl who is violent to people and herself when she doesn't want to do something, or she wants something we don't want to give her.
She hits people kicks them (hard) and last straw, pulls her own hair out in chunks.
she doesn't care about time out cos she doesn't FEEL it is negative. She will happily stay in corner play with her fingers/hair etc.
You can't scold her cos she doesn't really understand. You can't reason cos her cognitive level is not there. that's my big problem. currently still trying to solve it. -
tie her up so can't play?Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:right now my big child headache is a girl who is violent to people and herself when she doesn't want to do something, or she wants something we don't want to give her.
She hits people kicks them (hard) and last straw, pulls her own hair out in chunks.
she doesn't care about time out cos she doesn't FEEL it is negative. She will happily stay in corner play with her fingers/hair etc.
You can't scold her cos she doesn't really understand. You can't reason cos her cognitive level is not there. that's my big problem. currently still trying to solve it.
or maybe the old fashioned torture implements like cane etc -
Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:right now my big child headache is a girl who is violent to people and herself when she doesn't want to do something, or she wants something we don't want to give her.
She hits people kicks them (hard) and last straw, pulls her own hair out in chunks.
she doesn't care about time out cos she doesn't FEEL it is negative. She will happily stay in corner play with her fingers/hair etc.
You can't scold her cos she doesn't really understand. You can't reason cos her cognitive level is not there. that's my big problem. currently still trying to solve it.
Was she spoilt or something? -
school dont advocate corporeal punishment. and whatever punishment we do give the child - basic respect for the child should still stand ba.Originally posted by hisoka:tie her up so can't play?
or maybe the old fashioned torture implements like cane etc -
Hmm she has some visual and communication problemsOriginally posted by elindra:
Was she spoilt or something?
so that may result in her using this type of behaviour to 'show' her unhappiness
afterall, everytime she does that, it worked!
Whatever she doesn't want, stops!
So now very difficult to modify the behaviour....
I told mum.. she is 7.. ok... but when she is 17, continue this type of behaviour
danger to herself and others...
so must stop.
Big question is - how? -
kick her back in self defenceOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:school dont advocate corporeal punishment. and whatever punishment we do give the child - basic respect for the child should still stand ba.
Actually i think tying is fine if shes injuring pple?
ignore her own-inflicted injuries or tie her up to prevent injury to herself. take videos to show as proof and explaination toparents and press? -
Shave off her hair so she can't tear out her own hair if she doesn't get her way ><Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Hmm she has some visual and communication problems
so that may result in her using this type of behaviour to 'show' her unhappiness
afterall, everytime she does that, it worked!
Whatever she doesn't want, stops!
So now very difficult to modify the behaviour....
I told mum.. she is 7.. ok... but when she is 17, continue this type of behaviour
danger to herself and others...
so must stop.
Big question is - how? -
sigh one thing that cause her to react is to CUT HAIROriginally posted by elindra:Shave off her hair so she can't tear out her own hair if she doesn't get her way ><
she will struggle scream hit whack kick when need to cut her hair...
plus.. heard she's now sometimes banging head against wall now
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Some shit has hit the fan at work and I've been splattered T_T
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my colleague told me once a bird flew into the classroom, got its head decapitated by the fan, they found the body but never found the head ever.Originally posted by av98m:Some shit has hit the fan at work and I've been splattered T_T -
I think she needs to see a child psychologist.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:sigh one thing that cause her to react is to CUT HAIR
she will struggle scream hit whack kick when need to cut her hair...
plus.. heard she's now sometimes banging head against wall now -
...........................Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:my colleague told me once a bird flew into the classroom, got its head decapitated by the fan, they found the body but never found the head ever. -
Originally posted by av98m:Some shit has hit the fan at work and I've been splattered T_T
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i think so too. waiting for my sch to employ new psychologist so can help me.Originally posted by av98m:I think she needs to see a child psychologist.
need to implement a proper program... i dont know enough. -
was checking friendster.
and just realised that ladygal removed her friendster a/c again.
I am too sick with her doing that.
She is always trying to say that she was hacked, was stalked, afraid of stalking by her ex boyfriends or whatever.
She either crumbles at the slightest criticism or she just wants attentions by doing whatever she does.
Problem is, she is growing into her 30s. What constitute as okay behaviour as a teen, is not okay now with me. -
Drug her and cut her hair ><Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:sigh one thing that cause her to react is to CUT HAIR
she will struggle scream hit whack kick when need to cut her hair...
plus.. heard she's now sometimes banging head against wall now