Club 30's "Kill The Boredom Demon" Jive Pad, 57th Edition
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Originally posted by Rhonda:Ah, it was never paradise in the first place. I'm just long-suffering and hopeful!
But yeah... Taking one weekend off a fortnight deprived me of a total of about A$600 take-home in wages a month!!
That's a LOT to sacrifice!! 
On top of that, he told me right from the start that I'm his #3 love of his life, #1 being his fireman duties and #2 his job (aka $$). I thought that was reasonable but I didn't realise then what a d-i-s-t-a-n-t 3rd that would be!! 
He's been so busy with work and fireman duties and exams and courses that we haven't seen each other for two entire weekends and he sounds like a zombie. 
When summer comes and with it the bush fires, he's said I might not even see him for the entire season!! Now, that's kinda shocking and unacceptable to me.
He's said that maybe with his busy lifestyle, he shouldn't have a girlfriend cause he simply doesn't have the time for one. I agreed with him.
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Originally posted by Rhonda:I can bear absence for longer than that provided the man is firm in his commitment. I mean, if he tells me, yes, I've stopped looking after I met you and I want to be with you, fine.
But he keeps saying stuff like, "You never know what's going to happen tomorrow! Maybe you'll go off with some doctor or patient you meet in your workplace or maybe I'll meet a lady in the apartment elevator!"
I'm not going to wait 3 months for someone so non-commital!
but tat's kinda true wor.... wat if YOU meet someone better? anw given my status, i'm in no position to advise on r/s
i just believe as long as u r happy with wat u have or not have, tat's enuff...
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What for? It's quite obvious he's not that into her.
Neh'mind Rhonda, next better player !Originally posted by Wanda:Er...so how, now? If that's the case, should you see other people as well (while still dating him)? -
Reminds me of my favourite phrase a while back, "So how now, brown cow?"Originally posted by Wanda:Er...so how, now? If that's the case, should you see other people as well (while still dating him)?
To be honest, I don't know. I like him... a lot. At the same time, he has a mean streak about him that irritates the hell outta me. He can get quite bossy too sometimes. He's also too happy being single and he doesn't see the need to be seriously attached, not now, not in the near future.
I've found that whilst I like his company, I do like my singlehood too. It's hard to find a man here who doesn't smoke, doesn't drink, doesn't do drugs, doesn't like wild partying and one-night stands, so I'll just be happy and contented with the way things are.
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is he trying to hint at something -_-"Originally posted by Rhonda:I can bear absence for longer than that provided the man is firm in his commitment. I mean, if he tells me, yes, I've stopped looking after I met you and I want to be with you, fine.
But he keeps saying stuff like, "You never know what's going to happen tomorrow! Maybe you'll go off with some doctor or patient you meet in your workplace or maybe I'll meet a lady in the apartment elevator!"
I'm not going to wait 3 months for someone so non-commital!
ah well. sorry to hear that -
Give him some breathing space lor...Originally posted by Rhonda:Ah, it was never paradise in the first place. I'm just long-suffering and hopeful!
But yeah... Taking one weekend off a fortnight deprived me of a total of about A$600 take-home in wages a month!! That's a LOT to sacrifice!!
On top of that, he told me right from the start that I'm his #3 love of his life, #1 being his fireman duties and #2 his job (aka $$). I thought that was reasonable but I didn't realise then what a d-i-s-t-a-n-t 3rd that would be!! He's been so busy with work and fireman duties and exams and courses that we haven't seen each other for two entire weekends and he sounds like a zombie. When summer comes and with it the bush fires, he's said I might not even see him for the entire season!! Now, that's kinda shocking and unacceptable to me.
He's said that maybe with his busy lifestyle, he shouldn't have a girlfriend cause he simply doesn't have the time for one. I agreed with him.
you 2 may be still young and wanna prioritized career before long term relationship..
Until u no longer cares for him, or he has a change of heart, that will be a totally different situation. For that, i will say, go separate ways, dun waste time... -
Hanor! Hanor!! He keeps telling me that money's "not that important" but the hours he puts into his job tells me otherwise.Originally posted by choco B:What for? It's quite obvious he's not that into her.
Neh'mind Rhonda, next better player ! I've told him that he's overworking himself and becoming a zombie but he keeps saying that they don't pay him A$XXX,XXX a year to sit back and smell the roses.
He's in quite a bad state recently because his work and fireman responsibilities are all catching up on him and I'm backing off cause I don't want to trigger a nervous breakdown by giving him extra stress! -
I think all of us have a mean streak in usOriginally posted by Rhonda:Reminds me of my favourite phrase a while back, "So how now, brown cow?"
To be honest, I don't know. I like him... a lot. At the same time, he has a mean streak about him that irritates the hell outta me. He can get quite bossy too sometimes. He's also too happy being single and he doesn't see the need to be seriously attached, not now, not in the near future.
I've found that whilst I like his company, I do like my singlehood too. It's hard to find a man here who doesn't smoke, doesn't drink, doesn't do drugs, doesn't like wild partying and one-night stands, so I'll just be happy and contented with the way things are.
Sometimes we have to let it pass coz they have a bad day etc
But to me it seems that he wants companionship but not the responsibilities that come with it.
I guess just enjoy him as a friend but not investing in it for something more -
Hanor! Hanor!! He keeps telling me that money's "not that important" but the hours he puts into his job tells me otherwise.Originally posted by choco B:What for? It's quite obvious he's not that into her.
Neh'mind Rhonda, next better player ! I've told him that he's overworking himself and becoming a zombie but he keeps saying that they don't pay him A$XXX,XXX a year to sit back and smell the roses.
He's in quite a bad state recently because his work and fireman responsibilities are all catching up on him and I'm backing off cause I don't want to trigger a nervous breakdown by giving him extra stress! -
.... he may get distractions, not cautious, and tiredness overwhelmed him, he may be risking his own life.. Fireman job is pretty dangerous...Originally posted by Rhonda:Hanor! Hanor!! He keeps telling me that money's "not that important" but the hours he puts into his job tells me otherwise. I've told him that he's overworking himself and becoming a zombie but he keeps saying that they don't pay him A$XXX,XXX a year to sit back and smell the roses.
He's in quite a bad state recently because his work and fireman responsibilities are all catching up on him and I'm backing off cause I don't want to trigger a nervous breakdown by giving him extra stress! -
I think it's quite obvious that he wants companionship when it suits him. He could go out of his way to meet me previously so it's really not a case of can or can't but rather, one of will or won't.Originally posted by elindra:I think all of us have a mean streak in us
Sometimes we have to let it pass coz they have a bad day etc
But to me it seems that he wants companionship but not the responsibilities that come with it.
I guess just enjoy him as a friend but not investing in it for something more
Yeah... I think he's better as a friend but nothing more. He's too nonchalent. I did get lots of warning alarms going off when I discovered how he treated his ex's but ah well, you know we all get trapped in the web of hopefulness now and then!
I have to admit I am pretty comfortable with my singlehood myself and find that I'm no longer as willing to tolerate certain slights as I used to. I've grown older, I guess... -
I think it's quite obvious that he wants companionship when it suits him. He could go out of his way to meet me previously so it's really not a case of can or can't but rather, one of will or won't.Originally posted by elindra:I think all of us have a mean streak in us
Sometimes we have to let it pass coz they have a bad day etc
But to me it seems that he wants companionship but not the responsibilities that come with it.
I guess just enjoy him as a friend but not investing in it for something more
Yeah... I think he's better as a friend but nothing more. He's too nonchalent. I did get lots of warning alarms going off when I discovered how he treated his ex's but ah well, you know we all get trapped in the web of hopefulness now and then!
I have to admit I am pretty comfortable with my singlehood myself and find that I'm no longer as willing to tolerate certain slights as I used to. I've grown older, I guess... -
Well Rhonda then I guess is you have to decide what do you really want?Originally posted by Rhonda:I have to admit I am pretty comfortable with my singlehood myself and find that I'm no longer as willing to tolerate certain slights as I used to. I've grown older, I guess...
Continue to enjoy singlehood without having to 'answer' to anyone or find someone special to share your life with?
Because if you really want to find someone to share your life with, you have to put up or let some of these 'slights' slide at times or it is difficult to build a relationship.
It's different from being friends
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Eh... we're no longer young pups. We're more like old dogs!Originally posted by Celtic Knot:Give him some breathing space lor...
you 2 may be still young and wanna prioritized career before long term relationship..
Until u no longer cares for him, or he has a change of heart, that will be a totally different situation. For that, i will say, go separate ways, dun waste time...
Anyways, I'm having lots of trouble with this site today. THink I'll just head to work now. Thanks for listening, everyone! Have a good day, peeps! -
just casual date bah... till u come across the right one, or when he evolved into oneOriginally posted by Rhonda:I have to admit I am pretty comfortable with my singlehood myself and find that I'm no longer as willing to tolerate certain slights as I used to. I've grown older, I guess... -
*hugs Rhonda*
Have a good day -
I do want to share my life with someone, but they have to want to share theirs with me too.Originally posted by elindra:Well Rhonda then I guess is you have to decide what do you really want?
Continue to enjoy singlehood without having to 'answer' to anyone or find someone special to share your life with?
Because if you really want to find someone to share your life with, you have to put up or let some of these 'slights' slide at times or it is difficult to build a relationship.
It's different from being friends
In the meantime, instead of sitting around and wailing, I've just decided to enjoy the pluses of being single.
I really did think that fireman and I had something good going but oh well, he loves his job much more than me.
Ah well, you know better than anyone else that I had to modify myself in certain areas just to jive with him and I was kinda slowly getting used to it. I'm only bringing up the mean bits to console myself. -
Anyway you will meet someone laOriginally posted by Rhonda:I do want to share my life with someone, but they have to want to share theirs with me too.
In the meantime, instead of sitting around and wailing, I've just decided to enjoy the pluses of being single.
I really did think that fireman and I had something good going but oh well, he loves his job much more than me.
Dun worry *pat pat*
Just get out, meet new ppl, do your thing
Maybe sign up for some dance classes or something to get to know ppl
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Yo Elindra,
that reminds me...I have decided to talk to my friend...probably this week...
Dun want to hurt his feelings but, this time I must really make clear to him in a harsher way ...
We are just friends, nothing will materialize after all these 10 years....no chemistry means no chemistry lah...wah laoo...I have hinted almost LOUD AND CLEAR all these years!
... perhaps this time, his brain picks up the message and he moves on with his life... and hope that we can still be good friends... -
try the line i've used at work a lot when i was working shift..
Which part of NO did you not understand? -
Time for lunch, and go pay the library fines for SO...the fines he didn't know he had.
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har? maybe he didn't have them..
a clerk at work said she got fines for things she know she never borrowed... because she can't read those -
why do women always hope to be friends after they break somebody's heart and trampled it to the ground ? .....Originally posted by Celtic Knot:... perhaps this time, his brain picks up the message and he moves on with his life... and hope that we can still be good friends...
people move on by forgetting .....
by keeping in contact .... by being friends .... you're just prolonging that person's agony, no ? ....
and let's face it ... it's all going to go down hill from there, no ? ... the chap will just fade away slowly ....
if that's the case ... just "euthanize" him ... neh ? .... -
if he undestands NO, i will not be having midnight SMSs from him.
i will just simply ignore them in the future... -
He didn't know he had till he received that letter from NLB...it's not much, so I'll just pay up.Originally posted by the Bear:har? maybe he didn't have them..
a clerk at work said she got fines for things she know she never borrowed... because she can't read those
I'm still laughing that some folks wrote to the papers about NLB sending them reminder letters with postage costing 25 cents to remind them about their 15 cents fine.