If 2 people are sleeping together...

• adele33

  13 Nov 04, 15:13

  but neither one is committed to the other, do they have the right to know whether their partner is sleeping with other people?
• amuletgurl

  13 Nov 04, 15:15

  well,for me,i do want to know
• adele33

  13 Nov 04, 15:17

  yes, me too amuletgurl. hope your day is going great.
• elindra

  13 Nov 04, 15:17

  Originally posted by adele33:

  but neither one is committed to the other, do they have the right to know whether their partner is sleeping with other people?

  Yes. You might want to know the sexual history to access yr risk of catching something
• amuletgurl

  13 Nov 04, 15:19

  Originally posted by elindra:

  Yes. You might want to know the sexual history to access yr risk of catching something

  u can even predict how the casual r/s is going to end from knowing his past r/s...............
• adele33

  13 Nov 04, 15:20

  But it's difficult to find out from him (in my situation). He lies constantly. Neither of us know much about the others' life, to be honest.
• elindra

  13 Nov 04, 15:24

  Then better practice safe sex
• amuletgurl

  13 Nov 04, 15:24

  Originally posted by adele33:

  But it's difficult to find out from him (in my situation). He lies constantly. Neither of us know much about the others' life, to be honest.

  suck leh,.......wat do u want from him apart from sex???
• FireIce

  13 Nov 04, 15:25

  why they sleeping together in the 1st place?
• elindra

  13 Nov 04, 15:27

  Originally posted by FireIce:

  why they sleeping together in the 1st place?

  Lust???
  Sexual Gratification???
  
• adele33

  13 Nov 04, 15:28

  I know it's disappointing. But from the very first time, we hadn't practise safe sex at all. It has been ongoing for almost 2 years now. It's hard to say if I only use the guy for sex. But I'm not proactive in looking for more men to experiment with. I know I don't sleep with others and he says the same too. But like I said, he's a perpetual lier.
• adele33

  13 Nov 04, 15:32

  yes mainly those 2. lust/gratification.
• elindra

  13 Nov 04, 15:33

  Well go for yr usual pap smears and tests if u find something is wrong.
  
  Better to be safe than sorry.
  
  I guess you don't know what u are looking for in guys still?
• adele33

  13 Nov 04, 15:38

  I suppose you're right. The good ones are too tame and it's always the dangerous ones that are attractive. I've gone for pap smears, but those were yearly events to check on imminent cancer causing cells. Lately, I'm hesistant about going for HIV tests tho.
• elindra

  13 Nov 04, 15:41

  might be a good idea for that and hep C....i think its C
  
  Hmmmm are u pretty young
  usually u get attracted to the bad boys when u're young
• SGpork

  13 Nov 04, 15:46

  Ooo.
• adele33

  13 Nov 04, 15:48

  nope. i'm already 33 and i've been attracted to bad boys all my life. it's possibly a reason why i would not be settling for marriage at all.
• elindra

  13 Nov 04, 15:52

  
  Maybe u have not met the correct guy is all
  
  I used to like bad guys when I was younger
  
  But when I got older I prefered someone more stable. He's not boring though
  
  I guess u just need to give yourself a chance and go out and meet more guys
• adele33

  13 Nov 04, 15:59

  Thanks for your encourgement. I appreciate it. I don't last very long with 'stable' men. But maybe I will change one day.
• Gackt247

  13 Nov 04, 17:52

  So is true wat they say.. from wat i read in a mag.. girls have a tendency of falling for bad non-commital guys aka bastards..
  
  It haps to some guys too..
  
  Anyway.. i believe in being honest.. owning up past deeds.. at least the present partner will know tt i'm not hiding anything..
  
  
• Vixxen

  13 Nov 04, 18:01

  I strongly urge you to visit your gynae. Some people are afraid to test for HIV cos they're in denial. It's the same as me, I'm usually reluctant to go for pregnancy tests when my period is a bit late. We're afraid of the outcome I guess.
  
  I used to be like you, strongly attracted to bad-boy types. That's fine, but I'm now happily in a relationship with someone whom is both fun, and gives me security.
  
  You just have to find him. Don't worry, I'm sure you will one day.
  
  Oops, and to answer your question, I do think you have the right to know if he's sleeping with other people.
• eilse

  15 Nov 04, 10:38

  Me too. I have tis sex relationship with this play boy for two yeas, and we begain with unprotect sex, so.... I knew his very playful, but he always say that he got no time with other girls beside his wife and me. but when he wants to leave me, he told me e truth, he has sex with more than 20 girls! and he got so many girl friends.
  
  I left him and went for the HIV test, luckly i m ok.
  
  If want to be with a play boy, have safe sex and dont trust whay he say.
• epImetheus

  15 Nov 04, 10:43

  Originally posted by eilse:

  If want to be with a play boy, have safe sex and dont trust whay he say.

  x 2.
• jaimeyeo

  15 Nov 04, 13:55

  Originally posted by adele33:

  I suppose you're right. The good ones are too tame and it's always the dangerous ones that are attractive. I've gone for pap smears, but those were yearly events to check on imminent cancer causing cells. Lately, I'm hesistant about going for HIV tests tho.

  becos i mostly do raw, i almost always got fungus during the pep smear. but its normal fungus. nothing to worry about. HIV test is necessary.
• MunnaBhai_MBBS

  16 Nov 04, 00:17

  Hi there i am aguy..Guess the above posts are made by ladies?...U all sound like grown up ladies...But don tmind saying this, seems that ladies n their 20s and 30s are more wild than those small teenage ones
  
  Bad boys cant be trusted ladies...The are just exploiting the weakness in yr minds...But guys do not mind if the girl is good or bad girl type...As for me i rather take the good type..