Just needs some views
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lets say this gal i like is attached..
but i am ready to go after her..
in the midst of it.. i came to know she used to be a divorcee and has a kid who aint under her custody...
would you guys still go ahead?
for example u r 24 and she is 21*already a divorcee*..
what are the issues you would think about?
I need genuine views.. thanks
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or should i post this in aunt agony?
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Yes you should post it in Aunt Agony, but to save yourself time and trouble, we already have a thread done on this. Very similar actually.
Take a look at Would you go after people who are attached? -
sorry.. didnt see it..
but wat is the gal n bf's relationship is already very unstable n on the verge of splitting..
i know it wont be morally rite.. and i have experienced this myself b4..
but another thing is that this gal could be a divorcee, and has a kid.. who aint under her custody..
given this scenerio..
would u go after?
wat are the concernsu have in mind? -
jus follow ur heart. -
You got 209 views, how many more you need?
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i dun mean views as in just come in see see look look lor..
i mean personal opinions...
i was reading the other thread and most of the pple opposed to it..
but when it really comes to our ownself.. r we really able to do wat we say? most of the time?
cos as an outsider.. we can see clear enough.. but when we r in the situation.. how sure can we be?
chinese saying.."pang guan zhe qing, dang ju zhe mi"
lets put it that the relationship is on the verge of splitting.. would u go ahead as well? thinking that you are able to give her happiness since she is gg thru the agony now..
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Why not? Since the relationship is dying, why don't you let it die before you start wooing her?Originally posted by ThoMasSacrE:i dun mean views as in just come in see see look look lor..
i mean personal opinions...
i was reading the other thread and most of the pple opposed to it..
but when it really comes to our ownself.. r we really able to do wat we say? most of the time?
cos as an outsider.. we can see clear enough.. but when we r in the situation.. how sure can we be?
chinese saying.."pang guan zhe qing, dang ju zhe mi"
lets put it that the relationship is on the verge of splitting.. would u go ahead as well? thinking that you are able to give her happiness since she is gg thru the agony now..
thanks..
Its a moral concept, that most of us adhere to. But i also adhere to "If something is wrong, fix it". There might be a chance of them eventually solving all their problems, and you may end up being one of them.
So let their relationship break first before you do anything. Else you may be seen as the cause of the failure, and create many gossips amongst others. -
Hmm.. So often is she meeting her kid now?Originally posted by ThoMasSacrE:lets say this gal i like is attached..
but i am ready to go after her..
in the midst of it.. i came to know she used to be a divorcee and has a kid who aint under her custody...
would you guys still go ahead?
for example u r 24 and she is 21*already a divorcee*..
what are the issues you would think about?
I need genuine views.. thanks
I guess it should be okie? Afterall, it's already her past? Her kid is taken care of by her husband too?
If you can get along well with her kid, then shouldn't be much of a problem...? -
i understand tat... i oso tot the same way too..Originally posted by _Aaron_:Why not? Since the relationship is dying, why don't you let it die before you start wooing her?
Its a moral concept, that most of us adhere to. But i also adhere to "If something is wrong, fix it". There might be a chance of them eventually solving all their problems, and you may end up being one of them.
So let their relationship break first before you do anything. Else you may be seen as the cause of the failure, and create many gossips amongst others.
unless its clear between both of them.. i dun wanna to be branded a third party as well...
but the wait is always miserable and there aint anything much u can do...
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if u really luv her, just go ahead! why care so much about others ?!
they r not the 1 going to marry her or have date with her! lets say she might get her child back in future, n u like her kids too, y not ? perhaps the 1 with her now dun like her child ? anyway, just go ahead with her if u luv her, dun care abt others. they r not the 1 goin to take care of her or feed her child n etc. -
WTF with being branded and seen as a 3rd party or cause of failure or bulls.hit? It may be pork that causes a couple to split or cockroaches or a stoopid bra.. or silly excuses like "i do not like the way you part your hair anymore.."Originally posted by _Aaron_:Else you may be seen as the cause of the failure, and create many gossips amongst others.
THIRD PARTY is juz a name of one of the many clever/stupid reasons people break up! So what's the big deal abt being seen as one? Pigs can't squeal & cockroaches can't give a damn.. excuses are excuses... the sun rises still.
If pple break up, people break up... threesomes, fourgies.. fifties.. or only twosomes.. they break up..
Gossips.. why the fcuk one gives concern to things that pple (who dun care a bulls.hit abt ya) think? tongues are meant to be wagged, tasted, licked.. sucked.. and usually forgotten. when was the last time u remember u have a tongue??? and watever u do, humans make noise.. so are almost all living creations.. moans, groans, shrieks.. etc
ok.. the point is, if u r so darn blessed to ever find (true?) love, don't die losing it.
lastly.. don't live like a cow or a pig existing only to feed others. -
IMO, Go for it~!
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Originally posted by sleepycat:
=_='' that's just one of the little points. If he cares about face(you have no idea how many people care about it) i put lor, if he doesn't just ignore, more like a disclaimer thing~
WTF with being branded and seen as a 3rd party or cause of failure or bulls.hit? It may be pork that causes a couple to split or cockroaches or a stoopid bra.. or silly excuses like "i do not like the way you part your hair anymore.."
[b]THIRD PARTY is juz a name of one of the many clever/stupid reasons people break up! So what's the big deal abt being seen as one? Pigs can't squeal & cockroaches can't give a damn.. excuses are excuses... the sun rises still.
If pple break up, people break up... threesomes, fourgies.. fifties.. or only twosomes.. they break up..
Gossips.. why the fcuk one gives concern to things that pple (who dun care a bulls.hit abt ya) think? tongues are meant to be wagged, tasted, licked.. sucked.. and usually forgotten. when was the last time u remember u have a tongue??? and watever u do, humans make noise.. so are almost all living creations.. moans, groans, shrieks.. etc
ok.. the point is, if u r so darn blessed to ever find (true?) love, don't die losing it.
lastly.. don't live like a cow or a pig existing only to feed others. [/b] -
Waiting always is. It'll also show how much you will treasure her when you get her.Originally posted by ThoMasSacrE:i understand tat... i oso tot the same way too..
unless its clear between both of them.. i dun wanna to be branded a third party as well...
but the wait is always miserable and there aint anything much u can do...
But don't wait too long, maybe a few weeks/months later can ask her about her stand. But i suggest you post here a few weeks later on the developments and we can further advise..~ -
well...
for me.. i could accomodate everything...
as long as i love her.. anything goes...
i dun care abt my face or wat lah...
just wanna love somebody and somebody to love me..
if i could n she would.. i would shower her with all the happiness in life..
as for the kid.. i have no idea..
at the moment.. cos maybe i am still young.. thinking tat she could be myfirst wife but i aint her first husband feels kinda sad...
but anyway.. i have more or less decided to go for it..
even though she is still attached.. but i will wait n do watever i can to show her how much i meant it...
but i dun wanna get involved when she is still attached.. untill she had a clean break.. then i will come in... -
i wont give myself a dateline or time..Originally posted by _Aaron_:Waiting always is. It'll also show how much you will treasure her when you get her.
But don't wait too long, maybe a few weeks/months later can ask her about her stand. But i suggest you post here a few weeks later on the developments and we can further advise..~
cos in love.. everything is timeless....
my feelings will tell me when its time...
so if no one comes along.. my feeling still feels as strong.. i be hanging on.. -
all ur replys show that u accept what she is.....so follow what u type and what u think...there's no need to think much......ur replys show that u are fond of her but because of her background, u are afraid of ppl's teaasing and etc...
believe in urself that u can be a better partner ... -
i aint afraid of pple's teasing on me..Originally posted by seowqj:all ur replys show that u accept what she is.....so follow what u type and what u think...there's no need to think much......ur replys show that u are fond of her but because of her background, u are afraid of ppl's teaasing and etc...
believe in urself that u can be a better partner ...
but on her...
tats my concern...
n u know when it comes to marriage.. family plays a part..
acceptance of family... friends.. etc.. -
ur family or her???
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seriously... family & friends die or go one time or another, one time after another.. in the end, it's the partner YOU choose who'd be by YOUR death bed till you close your eyes forever..Originally posted by ThoMasSacrE:i aint afraid of pple's teasing on me..
but on her...
tats my concern...
n u know when it comes to marriage.. family plays a part..
acceptance of family... friends.. etc..
so choose to die with regrets or choose to die knowing YOU have at least tried your very best living what you believe in.
jokes, ridicules, slanders & whatnots come and go.. like fashion fads.. die off with the people dying as time pass by..
if yours be (true?) love that lasts, what are you afraid of? what can she not overcome?
with love, comes everything.. of course, there's always just SEX? -
yeah!!!!!!!!!
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dun go too seriuos with her... juz try out and dun give any promises... i think that once u got her will easily sick of her de ezpecially when she with kids.
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Do you love her for her past??
if u love her
the past is just another story to listen to..
be sure of her future w you..
if u really love her,
you won mind her past
good luck to you man..
as they haf said..
Follow your heart, eyes don help much -
If you're looking to the public on your relationship with this girl, then I think you're not very true to this relationship.
What are you going to do if 10:1 replies says you should proceed with this girl? What would you do if its 10:1 telling you not to? Either way you'll still confused the relationship.
This again if its her body you're really after, what are you still waiting for just get it over with. Not that you'll succeed if you're not her ideal man but at least you'll be dumped & you can get on with your life.