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Let me show you a few examples:
Subject: PLZ HELP ME OUT
> THERE WAS THIS GIRL I MET SOMETIMES BACK SHE IS THE MOST
> BEAUTIFUL GIRL I HAVE EVER SEEN IN MY LIFE BUT I HAVE NEVER
> TOLD HER THIS CUZ I DONT KNOW HOW SHE IS GOING TO FEEL
> HONESTLY I DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL THIS GIRL I LOVE HER AM
> AFRAID OF TELLING HER I LOVE HER PLZ KINDLY HELP ME
> OUT CUZ IF I DONT GET TO HAVE THIS GIRL I MAY DIE
> THANKS!
Subject: Something About Love
> Hey man. There is a problem. The girl I love is unfortunately
> someone elses girlfriend. I try to forget about her but cant.
> Every time I see her I just cant resist her. Is there any way
> of making her come to me and dumping her boyfriend.
> Hoping to hear from you!
Subject: I Need Help With A Woman
> Hi there Marius you may have forgotten about me but I have not.
> About a week ago I was dating this girl, well we were kinda
> dating we talked on the phone everyday and we were exchanging
> e-mails (but we never went out because she is busy on my days
> off and I am busy on her days off).I know she loves me
> because she said it. Ok about 4 days ago I went to visit her
> we talked and then when I was leaving she told me to call her
> because she had something to tell me, So I called her later
> and she told me that she needed some time off because she
> just broke up with her old boyfriend.(They were dating for
> 3 years), And that we were going too fast. She asked me to
> give her some time to think about our relationship. But here
> is the catch she told me 2 times she was going to call me but
> she never did. First time I called her then she said she would
> call me, but she didnâ??t. Second time the same. Is she playing
> with me or is she serious?My question is...what can I do to
> make her love me more or call me? I really love her and
> she broke my heart went to said that she should stop seeing
> each other.
Subject: Help!
> I have recently broke up with my girlfriend. She said that she
> had too much on and that it was not fair on me. All that I want
> to do is get back together with her. How do I go about doing so?
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Do you see a trend among these mails? I do.
About 90 percent of the emails I get contain questions
like:
1) "Why isn't she answering my calls?"
2) "I love her so much but she's ignoring me. Why?"
3) "Why did she cancel the date?"
4) "Why did she say I am 'too good for her'?"
5) "Why doesn't she want to go out with me anymore?"
Interestingly enough, these guys also get all "logical"
and analysis everything to bits. They like to fantasize in their
heads about all the "possible scenarios" of why a girl isn't
returning their phone calls or why she is breaking up a
"perfect" relationship. Often, they come up with reasons
such as:
1) "Maybe she isn't answering my calls because her
father is in town and she has to spend time with him"
2) "Maybe she is ignoring me because she doesn't know
how much I love her. Or maybe she's just playing hard to get."
3) "Maybe she cancelled our date because she has to work
the next morning."
4) "Maybe she said I am 'too good for her' because
deep inside, she loves me and wants me to be happy."
5) "Maybe she doesn't want to go out with me anymore
because of childhood trauma. She just can't trust nice
guys like me anymore."
6) Well, I am sorry, but if a girl is ignoring you or
breaking up with you, there's only one reason:
SHE ISN'T ATTRACTED TO YOU ROMANTICALLY.
It has nothing to do with a busy schedule orâ?¦childhood trauma.
It also has nothing to do with how much you like her - You
could give her all your love and she could
still reject you. Or you could be totally disinterested
and she could still be all over you.
Here's my first dating secret for youâ?¦
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Most guys let their feelings blind them as soon as
they meet a hot chick. They start fantasizing about spending
the night or even building a future with the "girl of their
dream", when the girl is clearing showing absolutely NO
interest in them. In some cases, the girl doesn't even
NOTICE the guy. Here's the bottom line: SHE HAS TO LIKE YOU
FIRST BEFORE YOU CAN START ANYTHING WITH HER.
When it comes to dating, women are the choosers.
Men pick, but women choose:
1) If she likes your style or looks, she will let you
approach her.
2) If she likes your approach, she will let you talk.
3) If she likes the conversation, she will give you
the phone number.
4) If she likes the first date, she will give you a
second date.
5) If she likes you holding her hand, she will
let you kiss her.
6) If she likes your French kiss, she will let youâ?¦
Get it?
Most guys make the mistake of projecting their own
attraction onto the girl. They think: "I think she is the
most wonderful person in the world, so she must feel the
same way about me!"
Uh-huh. Wrong!
She doesn't care about how much you love her, she
only cares about how much SHE likes you!
Think about it. If a fat chick with a black beard
tells you she loves you, are you going to marry her on the
spot? No way! The same thing is true for women. If a girl
does not like you, then you're just like the fat chick with
a beard. No matter how hard you try, she's not going to
marry you because she is not attracted to you at all. On
the other hand, if you have a girl who loves you with all
her heart, then she will try her best to make you feel happy.
There are NO limits to what a girl would do for a man she
loves. She could be working a 60-hour job, but she's still
going to find time to go out with you  if she likes you
enough. Every once in awhile, you hear about a "bad boy"
abusing his wife or girlfriend. The guy hits and abuses the
poor girl every day, but when the guy gets arrested the girl
still stands up for him in court and even waits for him to
get out of jail. Why? Because the girl is super-attracted
to him!See what I mean when I say it's not how much you like
the girl, but how much the girl likes you that counts?
Listen, if she doesn't like you, SHE WON'T CHANGE
HER MIND NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU TRY TO CHASE HER.
GO ahead. Send her flowers. Buy her gifts. Ask her
out. She may be flattered. But let me tell you now: you AREN'T
going to win her heart. You're just going to be "used" as
a "friend" she takes out when she's between boyfriends. You
will NEVER get to spend your life with the girl of your dream.
But there IS a way around this. Instead of "chasing"
women like most guys do, try to ATTRACT THEM instead.
(c)2004 Marius Panzarella, All Rights Reserved.
