What is wrong with this ger
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I went wif her for a drink over the weekend..... we open bottle of white wine..because her bf went KL with this girl so she damn upset
soon she started crying and lie on my shoulder so i hold her... After that we finish the whole bottle of wine she was sad and high and cried even harder so i hug her and we almost ended up frenching ... her hand was resting on mi little bro. I decided better take her hme before something happens ... she say want go drive around and go west coast park and she was crying the whole journey... so when we reach there i gave her a big hug and held her hand and she kept crying for the next half an hr or so ... then i took tissue to clean her eyes... then our eyes met and we started frenching and everything else was SOP jus tat we din get to doin it... after that we hug for a while more before i send her hme still sobbing...
wat puzzled me most is wat happen the next morning.... she msged me to ask me if i did anything to her i said i hugged her coz she was sad ... then she said she know we did something but i tot she knew abt it all along so why still ask me abt it... then she said coz i lied to her she not going to talk to me ...
up till today its still status quo... even when i bumped into her today when i was meeting a client she just said hi and then walk off
i mean we were gd friends before then now becoz i tried to be there for her and we have to end up like tat...sigh
advice advice -
try to get a private time with her... talk to her seriously, asked her wat did she mean and why did she say that... ask if she really does know of if she is just imaginating things... and just tell her you want it to be like b4 when u two were good friends...
i dunno if my advice would work but if u think its okay then go ahead.. but dun blame me if anything goes wrong -
i tried that already but she say for the moment she will just talk to me regardin only the sale of her parent's place. because im their acting agent. sigh
no matter how much i mail her or sms her the reply is still a nil...
sigh i just cant understand -
Think bcoz she tot tat u eat her tofu. Hence angry with u n think tat u r not a guy to be trusted anymore.
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eh tats exactily wat she say ...but trust in the sense that i lied to her when i say i only hug her ....
coz she is attached and havin problems i just dun want to add to the problems -
that's why frens shouldn't get involved this way, but i guess no point talking about spilt milk.
girls are like that, it's more of a protection for themselves. methinks that she's acting this way becos she's guilty towards her bf, and the "nastier" she is to u, the less guilty she'll feel (perhaps), even tho her bf also did the dirty on her.
girls, come in and verify this won't u?
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sometimes its hard to be a nice guy and hope to be understood
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she even asked me to go to KL with her..... for a weekend getaway coz she is depressed....
dunno wat would happen to our friendship if i went....
but since sunday my heart has been heavy as hell
want to say dun like her i'll be lying ....
but its never mi intention to lose her as even as a friend -
If u are only frens, then cannot cross the line lor.
Cross the line liao, it's almost impossible to be frens again. -
i know tat but once u start its hard to stop.....
now i wish we went to drink coffee instead...
all i want now is her friendship back -
i think she was hoping that you will bring the relationship ( of mere friends) a step further. but ur response was quite cold, thus she got disappointed and upset.
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well i give u the benefit of the doubt and assume u are, anyway i'm not in a posn to judge u.Originally posted by FreeStyler888:sometimes its hard to be a nice guy and hope to be understood
either way, if you are or let yourself be engaged in such activities with her, it could be one of two things, u just wanna fark, or u want her as your gf. since u say u're being nice, then it HAS gotta be the latter rite? if it's NEITHER, then u have to control yourself.
so, if u want her as ur gf, then u can start new thread liow. "I like this girl but she has a lousy bf, how?"
sorree no offence meant hor, but hope u know wat u want. if you just wanna support her thru this tough time of hers, frenching her while she's drunk is NOT gonna help, u already know that.
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to say it crudely... she was enjoyin it too when we were at it....
why cant she just take it as a ONS
sigh realli regret it big time till now i dun even think abt sex after tis bad incident -
u call this response cold?? damn, i'd hate to imagine wat u'd consider warm.Originally posted by prso:i think she was hoping that you will bring the relationship ( of mere friends) a step further. but ur response was quite cold, thus she got disappointed and upset.
whips and handcuffs?
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Originally posted by FreeStyler888:to say it crudely... she was enjoyin it too when we were at it....
why cant she just take it as a ONS
sigh realli regret it big time till now i dun even think abt sex after tis bad incident
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ive always been in luv with her....but shehas always been attached to this bum......
sigh... im jus counting the days the valuation report takes to come out then i get to talke to her again -
sometimes i wish she would gif me a chance to trash things out.....hai
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imo...Originally posted by FreeStyler888:sometimes i wish she would gif me a chance to trash things out.....hai
1. started frenching and everything else was SOP...
Depending how much is your SOP, it smells like a setup. I dunno but can any gal actually verify that if a gal is drunk the gal will lose control till that point unless she wants to? you stop or she stop ?
2. asking you wat u did, even if she knows...
she is obviously testing you, to see if she can trust you.
3. she ask you to go KL wif her...
she wants to take revenge on her BF...
she is either interested in you or just using you as a tools of revenge.
4. from the above pts
she having a hidden intention of changing bf...and u r likely a canidate... -
She was sad & needed a shoulder to cry on. She was vexed & had mixed feelings. She was thinking her bf betrayed her, so why not do the same to him...revenge. At the same time she was feeling horny after a few drinks. The next morning she felt guilty, she doesn't wanna look cheap, & she doesn't want to be with you. So what's the best excuse? Act blur, push the blame, pretend nothing had happened, it's that simple. She's doing what female species do best - CHOOT PATTERN. C'mon lah, forget it man. Anyway her taohu goreng you eat full full liao. You gain, she lose.
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Hmm..
She msged to ask abt wat u did to her when she clearly remembered everything.
So her question actually was...Y did u french her?
Either she wans u to admit u took her when she was "high"/ "weak" so dat she can get away with the name "player" OR she hopes u'll come clean & admit dat u like her? -
u r n arsehole. u took advantage of some1 who is down. u knew wheret u were goin all along so stop acting like some goodie gd. if u really treat her as a frd, do wats gd 4 her. put yourself in her shoes instead of thinking with your "head with no brain". & wat i can say abt her is she is a s l u t. bf treat her bad so she must anyhow french & touch guys? wats the world comin 2? i know its yr 2005 but tat doesnt mean we go ard touchin & sleeping with other "frds" when we argue with our partner. FUN LAST 4 ONLY A SHORT WHILE, GUILT LASTS 4EVER!!!
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Many gals treat this period as golden opportunity to "eat" outside. There's an inner fear that they'll be labelled a slut if not. This period is a chance for them.Originally posted by MRMUSICPRODUCER:bf treat her bad so she must anyhow french & touch guys? wats the world comin 2? i know its yr 2005 but tat doesnt mean we go ard touchin & sleeping with other "frds" when we argue with our partner. FUN LAST 4 ONLY A SHORT WHILE, GUILT LASTS 4EVER!!! -
mmmm... lets see... so you are already ignored and do not think it could get any worse.. well, in that case, maybe they are rite... maybe she wants u as her bf than the other guy? what i mean is, if u love her, just tell her...
if she is more interested in u then u lucky... if she just wants to spite her bf.. i think its rather hurting to be used as an object... and pls answer this question.. 'have you apologise?' and if u do, are u sincere?
anyways, its up to you wat your life is all about... -
Ive sent her two really long mails apologising non-stop and telling her how much i like her. But she still treat it like nothing like that... dunnoe its her character or wat... but shes always blowing hot and cold... basically its driving me crazy. I know it takes two hands to clap ... but when we were at it... it felt like we were totally in luv... even her hugs felt that way... but now hai.... jus hoping and hoping... when i drive home everyday i do wonder if she is just fooling around and looking for company... but considering that i've known her for over a year... she doesnt seem to be like that... sigh when is this confusion ever gonna end...
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She just used you as an outlet to release her sadness.