I feel cheap after sex with so many men...
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The Straitstime, July 10, 2005
I feel cheap after sex with so many men
Q I'M 17 and am in a junior college.
I have had sex 16 times with 10 different men in the last 1 1/2 years. I lost my virginity to a guy I knew for only a week. I was an unwilling partner but did not press charges. It was the same with the second guy. I have also slept with my cousin, and my future brother-in-law.
None of my close friends and my family know about all this. They don't even know that I'm no longer a virgin.
Recently, I was raped by two men on the same night. They were my close friends, but they betrayed my trust. I was physically and mentally affected but I did not seek medical help and did not report it to the police.
I want a normal life. I want to worry about grades, about my social life, about school work, and be in a relationship with decent guys my age.
I don't want to worry about sexual relationships, financial issues, family matters, pregnancy or about getting a sexually-transmitted disease.
Some female friends I've told my life story to either look down on me or totally avoid me, and they blame me for whatever has happened.
I have no one to turn to and can't trust anyone.
I feel I've lost everything - my virginity, my friends, my dignity and pride, my self-respect, my confidence. I feel cheap and used. I want to change and stop all this but don't know how.
What can I do? -- Lost
A I'm so very sorry that so many bad things have happened to you, and others have betrayed your trust in them.
All of us would like a normal and happy family life. But isn't 'normal' what you make of it?
Even though there is nothing you can do about the past, there is a lot more you can do to ensure that situations do not repeat themselves, and that you can take steps to eventually achieve the goals you have set for yourself.
The issue which is of grave concern is the one about men intimidating you into having sex. What message are you giving if you allow them to threaten you to get what they want? I think it is time to get help from your family and even confide in your mother to gain her support.
You may want to consider alerting the police too.
With regards to the other issues in your letter, you have made a wish list which seems clear and simple enough to follow. I guess the next step is to find strategies to achieve them.
So, what is stopping you? Sometimes, coming up with a list of 'wants' is just the first step. You will need to follow through with some action.
If all of this seems too difficult, which is possible when you feel like you are drowning in non-stop problems, consult a professional counsellor who can help you break it down to simpler steps to work on.
The only good thing about being in the pits is that there is only one way out, and that is up.
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mi condolence
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sends some wreaths over..
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interesting story
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since u decided to look ahead..then move on and take it as a lesson with which to learn hard lessons from... it is never to late to repent.Originally posted by hobbitsexy:The Straitstime, July 10, 2005
I feel cheap after sex with so many men
Q I'M 17 and am in a junior college.
I have had sex 16 times with 10 different men in the last 1 1/2 years. I lost my virginity to a guy I knew for only a week. I was an unwilling partner but did not press charges. It was the same with the second guy. I have also slept with my cousin, and my future brother-in-law.
None of my close friends and my family know about all this. They don't even know that I'm no longer a virgin.
Recently, I was raped by two men on the same night. They were my close friends, but they betrayed my trust. I was physically and mentally affected but I did not seek medical help and did not report it to the police.
I want a normal life. I want to worry about grades, about my social life, about school work, and be in a relationship with decent guys my age.
I don't want to worry about sexual relationships, financial issues, family matters, pregnancy or about getting a sexually-transmitted disease.
Some female friends I've told my life story to either look down on me or totally avoid me, and they blame me for whatever has happened.
I have no one to turn to and can't trust anyone.
I feel I've lost everything - my virginity, my friends, my dignity and pride, my self-respect, my confidence. I feel cheap and used. I want to change and stop all this but don't know how.
What can I do? -- Lost
A I'm so very sorry that so many bad things have happened to you, and others have betrayed your trust in them.
All of us would like a normal and happy family life. But isn't 'normal' what you make of it?
Even though there is nothing you can do about the past, there is a lot more you can do to ensure that situations do not repeat themselves, and that you can take steps to eventually achieve the goals you have set for yourself.
The issue which is of grave concern is the one about men intimidating you into having sex. What message are you giving if you allow them to threaten you to get what they want? I think it is time to get help from your family and even confide in your mother to gain her support.
You may want to consider alerting the police too.
With regards to the other issues in your letter, you have made a wish list which seems clear and simple enough to follow. I guess the next step is to find strategies to achieve them.
So, what is stopping you? Sometimes, coming up with a list of 'wants' is just the first step. You will need to follow through with some action.
If all of this seems too difficult, which is possible when you feel like you are drowning in non-stop problems, consult a professional counsellor who can help you break it down to simpler steps to work on.
The only good thing about being in the pits is that there is only one way out, and that is up.
and im sure one day u'll find the guy that loves u for who u are and willing to accept u just as what u are today.
think positively in life. the bad things..just smile and wished them all away
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WTF.
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Originally posted by agk_titan:since u decided to look ahead..then move on and take it as a lesson with which to learn hard lessons from... it is never to late to repent.
and im sure one day u'll find the guy that loves u for who u are and willing to accept u just as what u are today.
think positively in life. the bad things..just smile and wished them all away -
10 guy only..i know alot og gals that screw with more guys then u b4....dun have to feel that way lah.. plus u not a willing partner most of the time what..cannot say u are cheap lah.. just stupid to believe in those guys lah.... come come u can be my mei mei.. kor kor will take care of u one... at least i will ask u permission if i really need a Fuck badly.. and u still can reject one.. i wont rape gals one. i promise...... so u see.. honest horny guys are always safer than dishonest unhorny guys...
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wtfOriginally posted by I-like-flings(m):10 guy only..i know alot og gals that screw with more guys then u b4....dun have to feel that way lah.. plus u not a willing partner most of the time what..cannot say u are cheap lah.. just stupid to believe in those guys lah.... come come u can be my mei mei.. kor kor will take care of u one... at least i will ask u permission if i really need a Fuck badly.. and u still can reject one.. i wont rape gals one. i promise...... so u see.. honest horny guys are always safer than dishonest unhorny guys... -
u sound like a cheap whoreOriginally posted by hobbitsexy:The Straitstime, July 10, 2005
I feel cheap after sex with so many men
Q I'M 17 and am in a junior college.
I have had sex 16 times with 10 different men in the last 1 1/2 years. I lost my virginity to a guy I knew for only a week. I was an unwilling partner but did not press charges. It was the same with the second guy. I have also slept with my cousin, and my future brother-in-law.
None of my close friends and my family know about all this. They don't even know that I'm no longer a virgin.
Recently, I was raped by two men on the same night. They were my close friends, but they betrayed my trust. I was physically and mentally affected but I did not seek medical help and did not report it to the police.
I want a normal life. I want to worry about grades, about my social life, about school work, and be in a relationship with decent guys my age.
I don't want to worry about sexual relationships, financial issues, family matters, pregnancy or about getting a sexually-transmitted disease.
Some female friends I've told my life story to either look down on me or totally avoid me, and they blame me for whatever has happened.
I have no one to turn to and can't trust anyone.
I feel I've lost everything - my virginity, my friends, my dignity and pride, my self-respect, my confidence. I feel cheap and used. I want to change and stop all this but don't know how.
What can I do? -- Lost
A I'm so very sorry that so many bad things have happened to you, and others have betrayed your trust in them.
All of us would like a normal and happy family life. But isn't 'normal' what you make of it?
Even though there is nothing you can do about the past, there is a lot more you can do to ensure that situations do not repeat themselves, and that you can take steps to eventually achieve the goals you have set for yourself.
The issue which is of grave concern is the one about men intimidating you into having sex. What message are you giving if you allow them to threaten you to get what they want? I think it is time to get help from your family and even confide in your mother to gain her support.
You may want to consider alerting the police too.
With regards to the other issues in your letter, you have made a wish list which seems clear and simple enough to follow. I guess the next step is to find strategies to achieve them.
So, what is stopping you? Sometimes, coming up with a list of 'wants' is just the first step. You will need to follow through with some action.
If all of this seems too difficult, which is possible when you feel like you are drowning in non-stop problems, consult a professional counsellor who can help you break it down to simpler steps to work on.
The only good thing about being in the pits is that there is only one way out, and that is up. -
Originally posted by dirtyfella:u sound like a cheap whore