Staying at the wife place after marriage
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What do you all think about couple staying at the wife place after marriage permanently. If your in laws requested that your first son takes their surname in order to carry on the family line, will you agree.
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Depends on a lot of factors.
First tradition dictates the convention to follow and hence the 'right' thing to do or expect. Defy and face discrimination, face social pressure one inevitably will. Human tends to wanna fit in. Unless the rewards for defecting from the norm is great enough, or if the persons involved have been conditioned enough to buffer the negative effects in their lives coming from outside the family, or that the persons are siao ding dong like that Joo Chiat family, then shod be no problem. -
I think staying with the in laws is not a problem but taking their surname is a NO NO...Originally posted by silkmagic:What do you all think about couple staying at the wife place after marriage permanently. If your in laws requested that your first son takes their surname in order to carry on the family line, will you agree.
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Yeah, this really depends on several factors and the current circumstances.
After our registration (not dinner ceremony), I moved in to my spouse's place, because the real estate at mine was simply insufficient to accommodate another person. And we had no home to call our own yet. Personally I'm really quite easy about the surname thingy; and I'm pretty sure the spouse's all right too, as is her family. We don't have kids yet, but it's certainly not going to be an issue of contention. Nor do I expect it to be something to be raised at all; I mean, man has probably lived with such a convention for hundreds of years...it's really quite a waste of time to be even raising such an issue, isn't it?
Nevertheless, I think it's really a question of traditional minds versus the contemporary one. No one's really right in this sense. I don't know, but there might be one or two religions out there which insist on the traditional mode of things.
It's a harmless thing. -
yah loh..staying no problem..if gonna take their surname dun see such a need...Originally posted by tjm07:I think staying with the in laws is not a problem but taking their surname is a NO NO... 
Givache 
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agreeOriginally posted by Givache:yah loh..staying no problem..if gonna take their surname dun see such a need... Givache 
As your surname and name comes from your family lines, your parents or ancestor gave it to you. It also marks the decrease probabilty of getting married with partner of the same surname, which will result in high probablity of having handicapped children... -
Staying with them should be ok but taking their surname is no way and I m not goin to do tat for as long as i live.
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Haaaaai , just kenot answer properly dun u , starting see what u answer makes sense liau , den tot u hef regain your maturity den see see ...... still fart tup ler ....... think about it ler fren about your attitude, see there's no one give a damn about your comment ? Ever thought of why ?Originally posted by The Webmaster:Yeah, this really depends on several factors and the current circumstances.
After our registration (not dinner ceremony), I moved in to my spouse's place, because the real estate at mine was simply insufficient to accommodate another person. And we had no home to call our own yet. Personally I'm really quite easy about the surname thingy; and I'm pretty sure the spouse's all right too, as is her family. We don't have kids yet, but it's certainly not going to be an issue of contention. Nor do I expect it to be something to be raised at all; I mean, man has probably lived with such a convention for hundreds of years...it's really quite a waste of time to be even raising such an issue, isn't it?
Nevertheless, I think it's really a question of traditional minds versus the contemporary one. No one's really right in this sense. I don't know, but there might be one or two religions out there which insist on the traditional mode of things.
It's a harmless thing. -
I am talking about a guy permanently staying at his in laws place and not staying temporary because his own place is not here yet. I believe that it makes a difference. This is because I have an uncle who is staying with his in laws as his wife is the favourite child of the family and not because he could not afford a place of his own. In a sense, my uncle could not stamp his authority as the head of the family even after the death of his father in law. This is because he is staying with the family and all decisions including the way to bring up his child is being influenced by his in laws.
As for adopting surname of the family for the first child, it is rare in Singapore but I know of a few families who does it.
It may be tradition for a guy to be the head of the family but it is also part of the structure of the society. -
From ur posting for some topic i found out that u know alot of ppl... but i should say staying permanently is not a problem but adopting their surname is a total shame...Originally posted by silkmagic:I am talking about a guy permanently staying at his in laws place and not staying temporary because his own place is not here yet. I believe that it makes a difference. This is because I have an uncle who is staying with his in laws as his wife is the favourite child of the family and not because he could not afford a place of his own. In a sense, my uncle could not stamp his authority as the head of the family even after the death of his father in law. This is because he is staying with the family and all decisions including the way to bring up his child is being influenced by his in laws.
As for adopting surname of the family for the first child, it is rare in Singapore but I know of a few families who does it.
It may be tradition for a guy to be the head of the family but it is also part of the structure of the society. -
Dear Mike Ke-Chui-Si, maybe there's no one to care about my comments; it don't matter at all 'cos I'm not seeking any. My comments were posted in reply to a topic...not to seek comments nor attention from other people.
Already, it tells a lot about you, friend.
BUT - I should be so, so unfortunate to have you look and reply to my post. I wish I didn't have to waste my time reading your post, but it was just so inevitable.
And by the way, Einstein, it's 'fucked up', not 'fartup'. I'm sure you don't speak in real life like someone who's got constipation, do you? -
depends if u can get along wif them ant that the main focus other than dat mayb wen at nite u wana do **** abit restrict liao not too muc noise
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I know it's "fuck up" u fuckin shit, but there are ladies present in this forum too u knowOriginally posted by The Webmaster:Dear Mike Ke-Chui-Si, maybe there's no one to care about my comments; it don't matter at all 'cos I'm not seeking any. My comments were posted in reply to a topic...not to seek comments nor attention from other people.
Already, it tells a lot about you, friend.
BUT - I should be so, so unfortunate to have you look and reply to my post. I wish I didn't have to waste my time reading your post, but it was just so inevitable.
And by the way, Einstein, it's 'fucked up', not 'fartup'. I'm sure you don't speak in real life like someone who's got constipation, do you?
Anyway, just sharing a thought, dun get too serious about it, it's just a forum, provoke so fast for what ? Relax man, life's short ......
Grow up la ........ -
Well, ladies are here but there's no need to hide behind those size 1 Calvin Klein boxer shorts yours and try to be the Gentleman of the Year. The establishment already knows the true McCoy that you are.
And hey, what do you know - you just earned yourself The Most Well-Loved Hyprocrite of the Millenium award for mouthing the 'fuck' word at the very same time when you tell us the ladies are here (and therefore the need to be implicit).
I look forward to your puberty a-coming...and the promotion to a size 2. Hey, I see your dick now growing to half a centimetre already! My heartiest condolences, Einstein! -
As bombastic and great as how u can put your words, what can i say ...... steady la lu ...... c'mon it's just a forum ....Originally posted by The Webmaster:Well, ladies are here but there's no need to hide behind those size 1 Calvin Klein boxer shorts yours and try to be the Gentleman of the Year. The establishment already knows the true McCoy that you are.
And hey, what do you know - you just earned yourself The Most Well-Loved Hyprocrite of the Millenium award for mouthing the 'fuck' word at the very same time when you tell us the ladies are here (and therefore the need to be implicit).
I look forward to your puberty a-coming...and the promotion to a size 2.
if u want to win , just let me know, i'll go like, "ok , u win"
Dun wanna flood this forum no more, have a great life, peace man
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Bloody hypocrite...if you had kept your cunt shut right from the very start, I would have kept my arse tightly closed as well.
So remember this and stick to your own dildo from now, mate. -
Wake up man.... ass here fuck there... scold so much hv money earn or not... if no SHUT UP.....Originally posted by The Webmaster:Bloody hypocrite...if you had kept your cunt shut right from the very start, I would have kept my arse tightly closed as well.
So remember this and stick to your own dildo from now, mate. -
whahahaha...kaoz..u joker ahOriginally posted by tjm07:Wake up man.... ass here fuck there... scold so much hv money earn or not... if no SHUT UP..... 
Givache -
tjm dude: why don't you keep off your fingers off this thread and have them busy, warm and snug inside your mom's arse instead?
Those fingers look betta jammed in there anyway.
Cheers - I've said my peace and am outta this thread fer good. -
Aiya TJM n Givache ..... let's go lim kopi la, this type of ppl no time to fuck him la . .........Originally posted by The Webmaster:tjm dude: why don't you keep off your fingers off this thread and have them busy, warm and snug inside your mom's arse instead?
Those fingers look betta jammed in there anyway.
Cheers - I've said my peace and am outta this thread fer good.
And hey Webby, in whatever context please do not bring in the word "mother" , if not one day when u step out on the street , better watch your back.