Living together B4 Marriage
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Do you cohabit with yr bf/gf b4 marriage?? Are there any advantages and disadvantages living together b4 marriage?
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I personally tink that living togther b4 marriage has its pros and cons.. The good ting is that u get to knoe each other lifestyles and habit and u can also enjoy yr er ren shi jie... the bad ting is to accomodate each other habits and lost of freedom...
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I think its good cos you get to know each other better before you are tie to each otherOriginally posted by Ah^ken:Do you cohabit with yr bf/gf b4 marriage?? Are there any advantages and disadvantages living together b4 marriage? 
But certainly on the girls point of view they are more disadvantage but i think now this is common(actually this is very common in the past too) -
think its quite ok. but dont stay too long together before marriage, if not its not gonna do any good after marriage. becoz know each other too well and theres nothing new and exciting anymore. then..., maybe third party starts to come into the picture. then start to sour up relationship then it will be a waste to all the affects such as innocent children suffering from broken marriage and also broken hearts lead to 'crazy' or change the entire person life to good or bad who knows. hmm..maybe stay but also try to go back own home lor.... i think if wanna stay then dont get married.. if wanna get married, then after married then stay together lor. example..my brother gf stay at our hm for 8 years then got intention to get married recently n oso applied flat oredy but oso in the end broke up cos he too confused. then wat a waste n it juz broke the poor gal's heart and wasted all the time n the freedom all wasted cos can do so much things b4. so dont juz think of love so much cos there r bread to consider to make a family n love to be stable lor
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Cohabit
Pros: Know each other's routines
Get to know your partner better
Cons: More contact = more arguments -
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i did live with my gf when we were together.
it's too late (or early in the morning) to go into details of the pros and cons, but let's just say i wouldn't have it any other way - that is to live with my gf if it's possible. that's just my groundless (for now) opinion. -
true true. . .Originally posted by Ah^ken:I personally tink that living togther b4 marriage has its pros and cons.. The good ting is that u get to knoe each other lifestyles and habit and u can also enjoy yr er ren shi jie... the bad ting is to accomodate each other habits and lost of freedom... 
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I agree lor...cause sometimes being a couple and living together is very different...have cases whereby the couple has been together for a long time..then get married stay together discover alot of habits which they cannot accept...then quarrels everyday.Originally posted by tjm07:I think its good cos you get to know each other better before you are tie to each other But certainly on the girls point of view they are more disadvantage but i think now this is common(actually this is very common in the past too)
But as a woman...we tend to loose out abit lor...older people would think we are too "open" cause mei ming mei fen then stay together....have the pros and cons lar....
Whatever it is..weigh them carefully and dun make the wrong decisions. -
Living together can find out whether can you click and accept each other habit but staying too long without marriage is no good as relationship will stagnent.
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Haha.. any meaning for the illustration?? couples quarrel when living together and unable to resolve the differences???Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu: -
Ya mei ming mei fen... wait will invite alot of gossip from relatives...Originally posted by Hershey:I agree lor...cause sometimes being a couple and living together is very different...have cases whereby the couple has been together for a long time..then get married stay together discover alot of habits which they cannot accept...then quarrels everyday.
But as a woman...we tend to loose out abit lor...older people would think we are too "open" cause mei ming mei fen then stay together....have the pros and cons lar....
Whatever it is..weigh them carefully and dun make the wrong decisions. -
I like the part u say mei ming mei fei... but i think for me... so what is we married... the problem is when we are married will we be happy as before...Originally posted by Hershey:I agree lor...cause sometimes being a couple and living together is very different...have cases whereby the couple has been together for a long time..then get married stay together discover alot of habits which they cannot accept...then quarrels everyday.
But as a woman...we tend to loose out abit lor...older people would think we are too "open" cause mei ming mei fen then stay together....have the pros and cons lar....
Whatever it is..weigh them carefully and dun make the wrong decisions. -
hee.. agree wif u also....Originally posted by Hershey:I agree lor...cause sometimes being a couple and living together is very different...have cases whereby the couple has been together for a long time..then get married stay together discover alot of habits which they cannot accept...then quarrels everyday.
But as a woman...we tend to loose out abit lor...older people would think we are too "open" cause mei ming mei fen then stay together....have the pros and cons lar....
Whatever it is..weigh them carefully and dun make the wrong decisions.
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Youngsters nowadays have their own thinking but as long as they know what they're doing, wat can outsiders say?
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Ya. They only look things in their point of view that living together means having sex...but from our point of view, living together apart from sex, is also understanding each other lifestyle and habitsOriginally posted by maxcool:Youngsters nowadays have their own thinking but as long as they know what they're doing, wat can outsiders say? -
ya lor... ppl nowadays combine the objective of cohabit with sex & they're misusing this concept lor... creating bad image on ppl who're really cohabit for real purpose...
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Originally posted by maxcool:Youngsters nowadays have their own thinking but as long as they know what they're doing, wat can outsiders say?
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You dun agree wif wat he sae??Originally posted by duotiga83: