*sigh* Lost Interest
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hey ppl,
i think i have lost interest in sex... *sigh* how hur??
recently me and my bf tried to make love but no feeling leh... not that we dun love each other anymore.. just that got no feeling to make love lor..
then i also dunno how to reject him... but i just told him to lenghtening the foreplay lor.. but i think it doesn't seem to help leh..dunno whether he understand or not
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Heard before this guy when wanna make love just give his gf a book or something to read then do it maybe also cos gf not interest... maybe u can try too keke...Originally posted by Qoo`~`:hey ppl,
i think i have lost interest in sex... *sigh* how hur??
recently me and my bf tried to make love but no feeling leh... not that we dun love each other anymore.. just that got no feeling to make love lor..
then i also dunno how to reject him... but i just told him to lenghtening the foreplay lor.. but i think it doesn't seem to help leh..dunno whether he understand or not 
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har...Originally posted by tjm07:Heard before this guy when wanna make love just give his gf a book or something to read then do it maybe also cos gf not interest... maybe u can try too keke...
like tat also can har? -
Aiyo making luv must be mutual, if one of u lost interset, i tink it will be quite boring to haf sex liao...Originally posted by Qoo`~`:hey ppl,
i think i have lost interest in sex... *sigh* how hur??
recently me and my bf tried to make love but no feeling leh... not that we dun love each other anymore.. just that got no feeling to make love lor..
then i also dunno how to reject him... but i just told him to lenghtening the foreplay lor.. but i think it doesn't seem to help leh..dunno whether he understand or not 
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Just tell him straight that you've got no mood lor...? And if this matter persist, perhaps you would like to monitor what's going wrong...?Originally posted by Qoo`~`:hey ppl,
i think i have lost interest in sex... *sigh* how hur??
recently me and my bf tried to make love but no feeling leh... not that we dun love each other anymore.. just that got no feeling to make love lor..
then i also dunno how to reject him... but i just told him to lenghtening the foreplay lor.. but i think it doesn't seem to help leh..dunno whether he understand or not -
/me bring u go see mountain
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i think this is the time you can communicate with you bf openly. Is it because there is something between the 2 of you that make you psychologicallly lost interest in sex...? Or something happens that change your perception about sex subconsciously? You have to know why.... do some little soul searching quietly. Sometimes, too much sex will make you lose interest too.
I ever read in CLEO that if the gal feels that she is being treated like a sex machine, she will lose interest in sex... ARe you in this trouble too?
And remember to chose the tone and the correct vocab.. otherwise.. you will be hurting his ego...
You know.. guys are especially sensitive about their ego.. in sex issuess.. RIGHT GUYS? =P -
thin u in ur low peak time juz relax urself & tell him u need to rest awhile lorOriginally posted by Qoo`~`:hey ppl,
i think i have lost interest in sex... *sigh* how hur??
recently me and my bf tried to make love but no feeling leh... not that we dun love each other anymore.. just that got no feeling to make love lor..
then i also dunno how to reject him... but i just told him to lenghtening the foreplay lor.. but i think it doesn't seem to help leh..dunno whether he understand or not -
hur... read book also can meh?? later i concentrate on the story how?? hhaha... nber heard of it... but will still try anyway...
the thing is that i dunno how to tell him leh... i scare hurt his ego lor.. but got one time i reject him and keep he keep asking y lor.. but i say nothing then he also quite ok with it...
maybe we have it too often until no meaning liao??? -
so i guess he's not turning u on, or u just have no mood to have sex altogether? i guess communication is the key... let him know see wat he says... sometimes it's very nice to just cuddle up too!
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Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:/me bring u go see mountain
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Sex drive going down among Singaporeans.
Must be the food we are having here. Or the terrible weather. -
ya maybe.. but when we foreplaying that time, i still alright... just that when he wants to enter liao... then the feeling bo liao.. and gets very dry lor... dunno leh.. quite embarrase to describe also...Originally posted by jOhO:so i guess he's not turning u on, or u just have no mood to have sex altogether? i guess communication is the key... let him know see wat he says... sometimes it's very nice to just cuddle up too!
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ehhehe.. it's ok i guess this is for u and him to talk about no need to post details here if u're not comfortable.Originally posted by Qoo`~`:ya maybe.. but when we foreplaying that time, i still alright... just that when he wants to enter liao... then the feeling bo liao.. and gets very dry lor... dunno leh.. quite embarrase to describe also...
i can post details on wat might turn u on but then also haiz... abit too "public" to post explicit details here...
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ask your bf to go learn body massage... it might help... cause massaging is so sensual n smoothing... maybe it will trigger u. Always do that... go find a nice body massage oil n get your bf to do it for u.. it does work for me.. i hope it helps..
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Or there are drugs that when you have it, makes you horny like hellOriginally posted by GIJOE:ask your bf to go learn body massage... it might help... cause massaging is so sensual n smoothing... maybe it will trigger u. Always do that... go find a nice body massage oil n get your bf to do it for u.. it does work for me.. i hope it helps..
Can discuss with your bf about getting it? Or maybe drink wine
and foreplay at the same time? Liquor can get girls to loosen up
right? They feel more comfortable with the sex with mood and setting too... Dunno how you are going to tell your bf though??
Talk dirty?? I dont know man, try everything!!! -
hmm...have u guys been together for a long time? u noe..i have heard of so many cases whereby when the couple have been together for a long time..it just becomes sort of a mundane routine...and well..gets boring ultimately..not like the initial stage..where things are more exciting and thrilling...
well.. maybe u guys could try to discuss wat could be done to rectify the situation?maybe more foreplay..like wat u said could be good.. 
or...hehe...try to be more adventurous lahh...keke..so many positions for u guys to try out. =P -
yo Qoo`~`
u should read the book about SM sex.
how and why it was brought into existence.....
cos some people were sick of having sex..or sex cant give'em orgasm........so ppl started playing SM instead.....so those ppl need SM to make'em high....and get orgasm. -
paiseh ahh..hehe..but wat does sm mean?
abit blur blur lah. hehe. =PPP -
ya i think SM is a very fresh idea. sex alone could not satisfy some ppl after sometimes... or maybe try incest or pedophiles might help too. juz try it and you will realize the unreachable horizon...high up....
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yea
tsubi ur right.....try other diff sex styles....
u could buy a dog...u know.....and use it -
i think for d time being dun make love since d dun hav feeling nor d mood 2 do so....Originally posted by Qoo`~`:hey ppl,
i think i have lost interest in sex... *sigh* how hur??
recently me and my bf tried to make love but no feeling leh... not that we dun love each other anymore.. just that got no feeling to make love lor..
then i also dunno how to reject him... but i just told him to lenghtening the foreplay lor.. but i think it doesn't seem to help leh..dunno whether he understand or not 
i suggest both of u onli engage in body massages ONLY....
slowly as time goes by, it will induce d sexual feeling insides u... -
actually bf and gf together..can do many tings....nt oni sex mah
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ya lor...like mi and XLN...we are a couple but we never meet b4Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:actually bf and gf together..can do many tings....nt oni sex mah 
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Did u check wif the doc 2 c if u got hormones unbalance or how old r u? Is it due to PMS?
If emotionally u lost interest in him oredi, then no matter how long i the foreplay, it wont matter. u hav gone to the realm of treating sex to be a mechanical step...tat's is uncalled for in the sex protocol, and infringe on the sex moral.
If u need to dump your bf, not due to the sex, if it is due to really no feelings for him, no love any more, then give up fast...
Alternatively, u can try 2 go for some therapy wif him...some councilling.
if u need fresh ideas, can come look 4 mi...i will be willing to service u.