Best frenz can b loverz??

• Cancerian

  10 Apr 03, 02:15

  i don believe tat gals n boys can b v gd frenz..but if dey r really understand each other tat wel.. can dey b lovez?
• cHeR|sH^LoVe

  10 Apr 03, 02:16

  possible...
• Cancerian

  10 Apr 03, 02:18

  Originally posted by cHeR|sH^LoVe:

  possible...

  but if really noe him/her tat wel as fren 4 many yrs la..then don u feel strange??
• Samantha

  10 Apr 03, 02:20

  normally best frens become lovers wont last.... too use to each other already i guess..
• cHeR|sH^LoVe

  10 Apr 03, 02:20

  Originally posted by Cancerian:

  but if really noe him/her tat wel as fren 4 many yrs la..then don u feel strange??

  i dunno... never happeb to me b4...
• Cancerian

  10 Apr 03, 02:21

  Originally posted by Samantha:

  normally best frens become lovers wont last.... too use to each other already i guess..

  but tat's y.. dey use 2 it already.. then y can't it last??
• Cancerian

  10 Apr 03, 02:22

  Originally posted by cHeR|sH^LoVe:

  i dunno... never happeb to me b4...

  .............
• Samantha

  10 Apr 03, 02:31

  Originally posted by Cancerian:

  but tat's y.. dey use 2 it already.. then y can't it last??

  ermm.. this happen to me b4... we know each other for 6 yrs b4 we get together.. but 3 months later i still thinks he is my buddy rather then my bf...so i gave up....Now he found someone and already ROM i am so happy for him... it totally depends on how both parties look at their friendship.... not say you wan her be ur gf and u will get it..it takes both hands to clap.. is she willing to clap wif u?
  Just my 2 cents worth..
• Cancerian

  10 Apr 03, 02:37

  Originally posted by Samantha:

  ermm.. this happen to me b4... we know each other for 6 yrs b4 we get together.. but 3 months later i still thinks he is my buddy rather then my bf...so i gave up....Now he found someone and already ROM i am so happy for him... it totally depends on how both parties look at their friendship.... not say you wan her be ur gf and u will get it..it takes both hands to clap.. is she willing to clap wif u?
  Just my 2 cents worth..

  k. u n mi in same boat>> so after al.. it's a bad idea 4 best fren b lover??
• Cancerian

  10 Apr 03, 02:56

  sam, u there??
• Samantha

  10 Apr 03, 03:03

  Originally posted by Cancerian:

  sam, u there??

  yes yes..something wrong wif my server..
• Cancerian

  10 Apr 03, 03:06

  Originally posted by Samantha:

  yes yes..something wrong wif my server..

  k.. juz hope u send mi e-mail..cause sometime tis website jam up..
• shandower

  10 Apr 03, 10:04

  Of course!
• kohanson

  10 Apr 03, 10:08

  isn't that better, you both understands each other ..
• Inzaghi

  10 Apr 03, 10:45

  sometime if a frenship is too good, its too risky to develop into a r/s..hence, both will choose to remain as best frens..
• ikat407

  10 Apr 03, 11:34

  Actually, i think it is best for best friends are to remain as friends.
• baby84

  10 Apr 03, 11:54

  Originally posted by Cancerian:

  i don believe tat gals n boys can b v gd frenz..but if dey r really understand each other tat wel.. can dey b lovez?

  ya... me too... When they become bery gd frenz liao, they tend to kneo every detail bout each other... Including good points & bad points... It's nt reli tat gd to kneo our partner inside out... Tend to haf more quarrels... Eg. When u 2 are still best frenz, u kneo how she treat her boyfrenz... maybe she is those type who like to lie 2 stead... Den u oso kneo... Den... I dun reli kneo how to put them into words... hope u understand k...
• thhong22

  10 Apr 03, 12:36

  Originally posted by Cancerian:

  i don believe tat gals n boys can b v gd frenz..but if dey r really understand each other tat wel.. can dey b lovez?

  y cannot b very good fran???
  some pple can juz b fran but not lover one.....
  like me n my fran, we very good, we talk abt lots of things, we quarrel but can get ok by nx day......
  don think u can do tat with ur lover..... it's somehow very different
• sillyme

  10 Apr 03, 12:53

  Originally posted by thhong22:

  y cannot b very good fran???
  some pple can juz b fran but not lover one.....
  like me n my fran, we very good, we talk abt lots of things, we quarrel but can get ok by nx day......
  don think u can do tat with ur lover..... it's somehow very different

  i totally agree.. platonic friendship between guys and ladies is possible..
  
  it's just a matter of balancing your emotions.. add a bit of comittment.. that's where a relationsip starts
• [ X ] & [ L ]

  10 Apr 03, 14:53

  Originally posted by Cancerian:

  i don believe tat gals n boys can b v gd frenz..but if dey r really understand each other tat wel.. can dey b lovez?

  Hm..i believe that are be close boy girl frenz relationship..
  
  but if one day when either one is feeling down and sad... while e other one is beside comforting...
  
  Things may be out of hand if either one suddenly have e urge to hug or sth else.. cos most probably e other one would not rejected...
  
  And when this happen--- its either be lover or e relationship is somehow not e same as it used to be.. cso there is always sth there is bet e two of you...
• Cerebral_Assassin

  10 Apr 03, 15:41

  This Q is yes and no
  yes is because if u dun believe in friendship with ppl of opposite sex, then it is 100% possible 4 best friends to be lovers. Y u dun believe in friendship with ppl opposite sex is because u somehow or anyother will get attracted to the person. It also depends on how u yourself draw lines between normal friends and close friends. e.g. for me, girls can only be normal friends and guys will be close friends becoz i define normal friends 2 be can hv fun with and close friend as ppl can talk abt more personal stuff. the girl that can be close friend with me i consider her to be a potential gf.
  1 thing to note, most girls normal friend category is broader because they r girls and they need guys to reassure them, help them out. for guys, usually more soloist and very independent on his own and with his contacts. So u see the difference liao
• Cerebral_Assassin

  10 Apr 03, 15:50

  also what ppl define as personal stuff also varies
  so u have to judge how the person perception of the thing call 'FRIEND', which is really really very hard.......usually when u reach that level with the person, u r either going to remain as a best friend 4ever or either goin to be the bf/gf liao depending on the time u spent to achieve this level
  
• Cancerian

  10 Apr 03, 18:35

  Originally posted by baby84:

  ya... me too... When they become bery gd frenz liao, they tend to kneo every detail bout each other... Including good points & bad points... It's nt reli tat gd to kneo our partner inside out... Tend to haf more quarrels... Eg. When u 2 are still best frenz, u kneo how she treat her boyfrenz... maybe she is those type who like to lie 2 stead... Den u oso kneo... Den... I dun reli kneo how to put them into words... hope u understand k...

  yeah i understand.. wat 2 do?? 2 b or not 2 b..
• sgboy2004

  10 Apr 03, 18:36

  why not...look at the former Leslie Cheung and Tang Tang?
  
  
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• goliath

  10 Apr 03, 22:19

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  no more that kind of 'excitement' between each other liao ...after knowing each other so long liao.
  therefore quite difficult lar!