Xiao Xiao Relationship Prob

• cyclo

  14 Apr 03, 17:48

  Lynette..is once only..but it was for the whole dae..and we used to talk on the phone alot...so can be considered..our relationship already quite close when i met her.
  
  Thanks ppl..i try to be patient lor...
• sillyme

  14 Apr 03, 18:10

  just wondering.. did it all change after the first time you met her??
• cyclo

  14 Apr 03, 20:45

  nope..is after a few weeks..
• Lynette80

  15 Apr 03, 01:22

  Originally posted by cyclo:

  Lynette..is once only..but it was for the whole dae..and we used to talk on the phone alot...so can be considered..our relationship already quite close when i met her.
  
  Thanks ppl..i try to be patient lor...

  means u 2 only met once la... and u have committed ur feelings? kindda weird lo.. tok on fone alot den meet... also doesnt mean anything..
  things can change after meeting someone.. u noe?
  even if u 2 are beri close before meeting, there is a possibility that everything will change.... keep cool lo.. see how... =)
• jeramy

  15 Apr 03, 08:38

  Originally posted by cyclo:

  Lynette..is once only..but it was for the whole dae..and we used to talk on the phone alot...so can be considered..our relationship already quite close when i met her.
  
  Thanks ppl..i try to be patient lor...

  being patient is good. but somewhere a line has to be drawn across. always remember that 2 parties need to be willing in order for a relationship to work, if one of them is forced into it, then i think there is no point in it anymore.
  
  what i mean is, you can be patient for all you want, but just how long can you keep it going?? you will lose energy gradually and at one point enough will be enough. jus like how a car eats up its petrol. one day the petrol will run out.
  
  it is like that la. if she doesn't put in any efforts at all. what can you do? its already a very clear indication that she's maybe, well, not a willing party. take a break and think things through. has she done anything which makes you feel she wants to be with you?
  
  sigh.
• X-men

  15 Apr 03, 09:46

  Originally posted by cyclo:

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  you ...argh, how many times must i explan my situation to you ? i can't go out with anyone except my church friends..and if you think you're the only one...you are not lor ! alot of my other good friends from sch wannna go out with me tons of times but they can't.. cuz my mum don't allow me to ! and for the phone, it's you who brought it up ! you kept calling me ( i'm not saying that i hate it ) but you wouldn't hang up, my family isn't rich, and in-fact we are under finacial help here ok ? my mum is earning like less than 800 a month and that is not enough for even myself ! my problems.. i wanna solve it myself, and really i don't want any one to know even if you are my bf or you really care ( which i know u do .. ) IF YOU REALLY CARE ABOUT HOW PPL FEEL ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP THEN SO BE IT LOR !?!?!?
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  what does this mean?

  Processing... ..... .... ....
  
  Conclude:
  Give her some breathing space.
  Like you mentioned, she from a single parent family, things are not easy for single parent families. She can go out so often because her mum can't afford to lose her (her mum feels safe when she's with church friends only). She can use the phone often cos she can't afford to. Sometimes to show your love and care is to give the person some breathing space when necessary. Not totally ignore her, but contact her when she is avaliable. Gals from single parent families will tend to look for help less cos they don't want the pity from others feeling.
  
  Bottomline, don't push her. Just let her know that you will be there for her when she needs you. This way, she might appreciate more rather than you kept wanting her to go out, chat on the phone etc...
• cyclo

  15 Apr 03, 20:27

  Originally posted by jeramy:

  being patient is good. but somewhere a line has to be drawn across. always remember that 2 parties need to be willing in order for a relationship to work, if one of them is forced into it, then i think there is no point in it anymore.
  
  what i mean is, you can be patient for all you want, but just how long can you keep it going?? you will lose energy gradually and at one point enough will be enough. jus like how a car eats up its petrol. one day the petrol will run out.
  
  it is like that la. if she doesn't put in any efforts at all. what can you do? its already a very clear indication that she's maybe, well, not a willing party. take a break and think things through. has she done anything which makes you feel she wants to be with you?
  
  sigh.

  Yea i don want to force her..and she say she willing le..and she enjoys this relationship.
• cyclo

  15 Apr 03, 20:29

  Originally posted by X-men:

  Processing... ..... .... ....
  
  Conclude:
  Give her some breathing space.
  Like you mentioned, she from a single parent family, things are not easy for single parent families. She can go out so often because her mum can't afford to lose her (her mum feels safe when she's with church friends only). She can use the phone often cos she can't afford to. Sometimes to show your love and care is to give the person some breathing space when necessary. Not totally ignore her, but contact her when she is avaliable. Gals from single parent families will tend to look for help less cos they don't want the pity from others feeling.
  
  Bottomline, don't push her. Just let her know that you will be there for her when she needs you. This way, she might appreciate more rather than you kept wanting her to go out, chat on the phone etc...

  Your conclusion is so clear!!! Thanks...i understand already...
• javier

  21 Apr 03, 05:03

  14 !!!
  FOURTEEN !!!
  you are not allowed in the bar !!
  lolx.. ^^