Need some advice from gals..
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I've tried to be get intimate with my gf before and she seems to be not resisting but when I try it the second time. She firmly says no, my question is, why is there such a big difference in behaviour? Dun really understand the rationale on how gals think? will appreciate if u can help...
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hmm..still not clear abt the picture leh..u mean u tried the 2nd time on the same day or diff day?
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first time a bit paiseh to reject u mah then second time she wants to let u know she really dun want loh..Originally posted by cire81:I've tried to be get intimate with my gf before and she seems to be not resisting but when I try it the second time. She firmly says no, my question is, why is there such a big difference in behaviour? Dun really understand the rationale on how gals think? will appreciate if u can help... -
But she did not really reject my approaches initially. Though she keep explaining to me that she dun really like me trying to get intimate with her. Will I lose her trust as a result? I do treasure her a lot and will not wan to risk losing her....
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hmm..how long u been with her?Originally posted by cire81:But she did not really reject my approaches initially. Though she keep explaining to me that she dun really like me trying to get intimate with her. Will I lose her trust as a result? I do treasure her a lot and will not wan to risk losing her....
If only for a while..getting so intimate may scare her loh. Some girls may think that you want to b withher coz can "eat meat" ...so after first time..the more she think about it..the more worried she gets..so to make sure u not want her for flesh only. She will try to reject loh.
Respect her lah.
For teh time being..keep your hands to yourself till she loosen up abit...
good luck to ya
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i agree with you. There also could b some underlying probs that cause her resistance.Originally posted by nodoubt_iamher:hmm..how long u been with her?
If only for a while..getting so intimate may scare her loh. Some girls may think that you want to b withher coz can "eat meat" ...so after first time..the more she think about it..the more worried she gets..so to make sure u not want her for flesh only. She will try to reject loh.
Respect her lah.
For teh time being..keep your hands to yourself till she loosen up abit...
good luck to ya -
Hey .. think one of your prob. is that u din show enuff care, love and concern after u have sex or get intimate wif her the first time. Thats why she felt lousy when u requested again. Juz need to improve your after sales service lah ...Originally posted by cire81:I've tried to be get intimate with my gf before and she seems to be not resisting but when I try it the second time. She firmly says no, my question is, why is there such a big difference in behaviour? Dun really understand the rationale on how gals think? will appreciate if u can help... 
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oops .. ignore my reply cos me not gal as u have requested ...Originally posted by KeithSG:Hey .. think one of your prob. is that u din show enuff care, love and concern after u have sex or get intimate wif her the first time. Thats why she felt lousy when u requested again. Juz need to improve your after sales service lah ... 
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You know why ? simply because she don't want you to have a impression that she is a easy going girl.
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think u r rushing into "intimate" sessions too fast.......
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hello? take things slowly especially such things. she may be a close-up girl or MAYBE something bad happen to her before, that's why she is close-up. she is your girlfriend, you can't possibly force her do something she doesn't like right
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What kind of intimacy you talking about?? Sex or what?? Well..Originally posted by cire81:I've tried to be get intimate with my gf before and she seems to be not resisting but when I try it the second time. She firmly says no, my question is, why is there such a big difference in behaviour? Dun really understand the rationale on how gals think? will appreciate if u can help...
Respect her decision... If she doesn't want it.. then dun force her.. This will not lose her trust in you.. but will gain her respect and trust more..
When the appropriate time comes.. maybe you can ask her first.. before doing any actions.. Ask her for her views about it.. ok?
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maybe she didn't know what you were really going to do, so the first time, she let you do what you wanted to do. then after that she dun really like it, so she dun want to do it.
maybe she feels gulity too. cos mummy always says girls must be conservative.
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Haiz, franly speaking, I'm sort of a third party to my gf as she is still currently with another guy. Feeling quite confuse whether is she true towards me or is she just wanting my company when her bf is not around. Wanted to take good care of her, trying to get intimate is to see whether is she true towards me. Cos I can't find any other better way to ask her. I was hurt by a girl before thus I dun really trust my 'so called' gf.
Sometimes, I'm so troubled by this that I actually behave as if I dun treasure her when I'm with her. This is a very bad situation for me as it is not my intention to do this. Haiz....
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What Your present GF have a BF and you
Do you take time off and think what you mean to her. She aknowledge the other guy as Bf, than that make you the "concubine". 
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Haiz, I will still take good care of her as usual, minus initmate things that she will do with her bf, be with her when she need me. Will be staying around to support her thru thick and thins. She say that she love me but I reserve my doubts. However, I will still treat her well. Want to be as nice to her as possible.
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So you are willing to be her "spare wheel", at her beck and call.
Come on it so clear cut, get yourself a GF that "belong" to you wholesomely, not shared with. Everything you get from her emotionally is half or even less.
However if you are head over heel with this lady, 100 X GD LUCK.Con't on. -
well....she juz feel guilty to be initmate with u as she has a boyfren and u are not....but at least that prove that she is not a easy girl.....the initmate part juz have to leave to her boyfren....what u can do is to take good care of her, be there for her like u said....well from my point of view....why she say that she love u and yet she has a boyfren.Originally posted by cire81:Haiz, I will still take good care of her as usual, minus initmate things that she will do with her bf, be with her when she need me. Will be staying around to support her thru thick and thins. She say that she love me but I reserve my doubts. However, I will still treat her well. Want to be as nice to her as possible. ..dun seems to be fair to u .....well....u have ur own reasons too....Good Luck to u, man -
so is she giving u any date she gonna b urs? if she didn't promise she gonna break off wif tat guy, then most prob u r in bad luck.Originally posted by cire81:Haiz, franly speaking, I'm sort of a third party to my gf as she is still currently with another guy. Feeling quite confuse whether is she true towards me or is she just wanting my company when her bf is not around. Wanted to take good care of her, trying to get intimate is to see whether is she true towards me. Cos I can't find any other better way to ask her. I was hurt by a girl before thus I dun really trust my 'so called' gf.
Sometimes, I'm so troubled by this that I actually behave as if I dun treasure her when I'm with her. This is a very bad situation for me as it is not my intention to do this. Haiz....
find another gal lah....
if she says she is gonna break wif her 'bf' then make it quick... d longer it drag d less insecure u r, d more likely she won't be able to break off wif her 'bf'. -
yah i agree with wat gala saidOriginally posted by gala:so is she giving u any date she gonna b urs? if she didn't promise she gonna break off wif tat guy, then most prob u r in bad luck.
find another gal lah....
if she says she is gonna break wif her 'bf' then make it quick... d longer it drag d less insecure u r, d more likely she won't be able to break off wif her 'bf'.
u cannot wait forever.. sometimes its jus not fair to wait indefinitely
of course u can argue that u are still young.. u got alot of time
thats exactly it.. u got alot of time for fate to find one for u
ask her wat she wants..
ask her who she wants
love urself my fren -
To be frank, I think the cause of me being hot and cold toward her could be due to my sense of insecurity in this relationship. Haiz, dun really know wat she wants, she did not really say when she will breakup with her current bf. And her current bf treat her very well too, paid for her hp bill etc. Whereas I paid for her leisure when we go out together and buy her things that she want. Her bf is a regular in the army thus seldom have a chance to accompany her.
All I really want is a true love but I dun really know whether i've chosen the right path. I feel even more guilty cos i know her current bf, a very nice guy who always give in to her even though she have a couple of record in having a fling with other guys.
I dun really know whether is her feeling abt me is true, she say that there is a possibility that she will break off with her current bf but did not say when. But a couple of mths ago, she nearly broke off with her current bf for another guy. Why can't she do the same for me if she say that she love me too. Haiz.... -
bro.. wat kinda of relationship is this??Originally posted by cire81:To be frank, I think the cause of me being hot and cold toward her could be due to my sense of insecurity in this relationship. Haiz, dun really know wat she wants, she did not really say when she will breakup with her current bf. And her current bf treat her very well too, paid for her hp bill etc. Whereas I paid for her leisure when we go out together and buy her things that she want. Her bf is a regular in the army thus seldom have a chance to accompany her.
All I really want is a true love but I dun really know whether i've chosen the right path. I feel even more guilty cos i know her current bf, a very nice guy who always give in to her even though she have a couple of record in having a fling with other guys.
I dun really know whether is her feeling abt me is true, she say that there is a possibility that she will break off with her current bf but did not say when. But a couple of mths ago, she nearly broke off with her current bf for another guy. Why can't she do the same for me if she say that she love me too. Haiz....
i wont even call this a relationship...
believe me, i was in a situation like urs not too long ago
the difference was the gal i loved told me that she is willing to break up with her then bf
and now we are happily together
get some form of assurance from her
if not then give urself a dateline -
Won't that put any gal in a very difficult situation? I dun wan her to be sad and I've told her before that should there be anyone to sacrifice in this relationship, I will wan it to be me cos I dun wan to hurt her and make her sad.
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tat wil put her to the test as wellOriginally posted by cire81:Won't that put any gal in a very difficult situation? I dun wan her to be sad and I've told her before that should there be anyone to sacrifice in this relationship, I will wan it to be me cos I dun wan to hurt her and make her sad.
who she loves
u understand that she has to come to a decision sooner or later
u jus cannot be taken for a ride like tat
u have to be strong
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If only it was that simple, I dun really know how to express my feeling in front of her. She just feels that I'm acting werid. Any suggestion on how I should go about asking her to make a choice?