Help and give advice, no unnecessary toking plz
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Recently I get to know a gal. She is a very nice gal. But I dun seems to understand her doing. First of all, I think it is the exam that make me feel difficult to tok to her. She onli agreed to lunch with me once when I asked her out for lunch the first time. But after that, I jio her lunch few times, she always turn me down. One day, she asked me why I contact her since we are stranger. Of coz, I told her the truth that I wanna court her, she did not reject me nor accept me. We promise to be frenz first to know each other more. She told me that she enjoy the life of singlehood.
The problem is that we hardly meet each other yet we contact a lot using icq and sms. She always seems troubled over her revision and even skip her meals. I really worried. Tell me wat to do plzzz!!! -
believe her that she really enjoys being single.. and get to know her gradually.. no need to rush..
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Have U ever heard of "Slow & steady wins da race?" Or let me ask U dis... U wanna court her juz to have her? only for da sake of having a GF? OR U really wanna live long long wif her? U ask yrself WAT U really wan here...
If U r simply only to have her as a GF, I sure there r MANY experts in da field of courting... BUT if U DO wanna be wif her like... for life? (not possible but can try...) then I advice to take things slowly...
Furthermore its exam time... very hard for her to divert attention to U since I TINK studies r more important to her for now... yes she may enjoy singlehood. Y not respect dat? she can maintain singlehood BUT still have U as a company ONLY if U approach her as a FRIEND.
fast R/S normally result in fast breakup & U cannot grow in dis area of love... coz its TOO SHORT for U to experience any! Wat I comment here is for yr reference... In da end its YOU who decide wat U wan. No 1 else does it for U... -
dun get me wrong okie?? I spend two years forget a gal and spend one year healing my heart, u think I going to blow my opportunity just like that?? I concentrate on my studies a lot and I am not the one who is always surrounded by gals even though I have lots of frenz. I keeping everything in slow pace and dun wanna rush for everything. I even give her morning call for her early morning paper. Sigh.......
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So now wat U doin can be considered correct lah... but U facing da fustration of "Y cant we be together now?" thing... dats where frens come in... to help U counter dat... Wat U now facing is a prob related to time... U dun wanna rush, yet U wish she yrs...Originally posted by empire:dun get me wrong okie?? I spend two years forget a gal and spend one year healing my heart, u think I going to blow my opportunity just like that?? I concentrate on my studies a lot and I am not the one who is always surrounded by gals even though I have lots of frenz. I keeping everything in slow pace and dun wanna rush for everything. I even give her morning call for her early morning paper. Sigh.......
Am I right? then correct me.
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actually why are you so in a hurry to be accepted by her? give her some space..
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She wants to be single, let her be lah.
If she is attached, u still go after her?
There is also ethics in dating, my friend. -
Wrong, I wish we can see each other more often. I always meet my frenz and even greet them whenever we meet. Frenz will come afar to say hi to me. I NOT worried about the result, I just worry about the process whether I am on is right or wrong.Originally posted by loneryu00:So now wat U doin can be considered correct lah... but U facing da fustration of "Y cant we be together now?" thing... dats where frens come in... to help U counter dat... Wat U now facing is a prob related to time... U dun wanna rush, yet U wish she yrs...
Am I right? then correct me. -
U not wrong. But there r things dat cannot be forced... From wat I experienced... da more U desire to "wish", da more it bcums an obsession... then when it bcoms an obsession... then everything will go haywire... I noe I not good in dis... but I can lend a listening ear shld U need.Originally posted by empire:Wrong, I wish we can see each other more often. I always meet my frenz and even greet them whenever we meet. Frenz will come afar to say hi to me. I NOT worried about the result, I just worry about the process whether I am on is right or wrong.
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U should let her know how u feel.coz u will never know where u stand if she dunno wat u are thinking and if u never ask how she feel.Communication is necessary for the growth and maintainance of a relationship.Guessing or assumption is always a no no.If u ask her,u will know more and thus u will know wat to do.Wish u good luck.Gan ba deiOriginally posted by empire:Wrong, I wish we can see each other more often. I always meet my frenz and even greet them whenever we meet. Frenz will come afar to say hi to me. I NOT worried about the result, I just worry about the process whether I am on is right or wrong. -
Girls are like that, always playing hard to get. Don't try too hard, girls don't like pushy guys who fall head over heels with them so easily. Just continue to talk to her on icq normally as friends .. don't mention about going out anymore, but do ask her out in the near future.. with a whole bunch of friends .. and try to arrange with one of the girls there to show her interest in you in front of her. Then .. after the meeting.. complain to her about it over icq and ask her for a solution, that's where u start.. GOOD LUCK!Originally posted by empire:Recently I get to know a gal. She is a very nice gal. But I dun seems to understand her doing. First of all, I think it is the exam that make me feel difficult to tok to her. She onli agreed to lunch with me once when I asked her out for lunch the first time. But after that, I jio her lunch few times, she always turn me down. One day, she asked me why I contact her since we are stranger. Of coz, I told her the truth that I wanna court her, she did not reject me nor accept me. We promise to be frenz first to know each other more. She told me that she enjoy the life of singlehood. The problem is that we hardly meet each other yet we contact a lot using icq and sms. She always seems troubled over her revision and even skip her meals. I really worried. Tell me wat to do plzzz!!! -
Liddat oso can? Hmm... maybe I shld try......Originally posted by savatage:Girls are like that, always playing hard to get. Don't try too hard, girls don't like pushy guys who fall head over heels with them so easily. Just continue to talk to her on icq normally as friends .. don't mention about going out anymore, but do ask her out in the near future.. with a whole bunch of friends .. and try to arrange with one of the girls there to show her interest in you in front of her. Then .. after the meeting.. complain to her about it over icq and ask her for a solution, that's where u start.. GOOD LUCK!
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Hahaha, a set up?! I agree with the group outing and easing up on pressure... but not sure if getting her to discuss his (fabricated) love problem will work.Originally posted by savatage:Girls are like that, always playing hard to get. Don't try too hard, girls don't like pushy guys who fall head over heels with them so easily. Just continue to talk to her on icq normally as friends .. don't mention about going out anymore, but do ask her out in the near future.. with a whole bunch of friends .. and try to arrange with one of the girls there to show her interest in you in front of her. Then .. after the meeting.. complain to her about it over icq and ask her for a solution, that's where u start.. GOOD LUCK!