Originally posted by winky:Actually, I'm not really asking for advise, but I just wanted to know what will you do if such things happened (touch wood!!) to you.
I know we need to treasure people around us. I know people make mistakes. But are you willing to give the sinner another chance? Can you do what you preach? Its easy to say things when they are not happening to you. But have you thought of what if it really happens to you? Will you ask her to fcuk off!!? Or beat up the ex bf? Or withdraw yourself into a cold world mode? ......
Many possibilities. I'll like to discuss on the kind of possibilities rather than say very chim chim things about life.
its what we do that counts, not say. Agree?
(ps: not trying to be a smart alec here)
Originally posted by WinBoi84:Okie... I'm a black sheep. But there are some over at the boys side as well.
[b]Zhong's Quote of the Day...
Sometimes I really think all girls sux...
>wonder whether is any good girl still exist in this world<
GirlsLike to make use of guys especially when she knows u are fond of her. U can invest all your love, spend all your energy, spend all your money, spent all your times on her. It's still useless...
When u are no longer haf the value of being used, she will "dump" u...
But u cannot get over her becoz u really love/like her yet she treats u in such cruel ways...
Time flies - seconds, minutes, hours, days, months, years later...
And one fine day, u finally get over her. She appears before your eyes once again...
Now your feeling is back and u are sure that u truthly like/love her...
She makes u gian gian, thinking that now she likes u, she wants u to be her bf/husband but u are sure she is the only one u love most in your life...
Next u can invest all your love, spend all your energy, spend all your money, spent all your times on her...
And it starts all over again...
WTF does good girl hidding...?
In the first place ask yourself, is there really good girl exist in this cruel and realistic world...?[/b]
Originally posted by winky:Your current gf had sex with her ex bf when the both of you were together, as an official couple. You found that out, either she confessed or someone told you. What will you do? How would you feel? Straight away breakup?
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I have this scenario here:
Girl tells boy to cool off awhile, because they quarrelled, or she not happy about something. Boy agrees to cool off, but they still haven't breakup, just cool off, because things are getting too heated up.
Then one day, girl meets her ex bf, they had sex(one-night stand). Then girl cool down, boy gets girl back. Happy for a while. Then she
(a)guilty, tells her current beau what she did when they were 'cooling off'
(b)by accident, the boy found out what she did
(c)her friends, by accident, told the boy.
What would the reaction of the boy be?
How would you feel if you were in the boy's shoes?
Which scenario (if you had a choice) would you prefer it to be?
Or would you rather not know that?
One night stand with a stranger, there is low possibilities that she won't meet each other again. But her ex? After all, they had done that before you came along? Wouldn't you feel threatened?Originally posted by erijazz:It's just a one night stand and they won't meet each other again. There is nothing to scream abt it, all i care is tat she still love me
no no... Not offended. hope you are not offended by me too.Originally posted by WinBoi84:winky, I dun mean anything. They are my thoughts, my feelings...
Well, I dunno how to advise u. I think for now the best is tat u prepare for the worse tat can be, in order not to hurt yourself most. Time heals, let nature takes its course...
Well, if all cannot be solved. Take a break, rethink abt life and start all afresh over again. I agree that noone is saint and will tend to make mistake. Let bygone be bygone and must remember not to commit the same mistake again.
Live well girl...
It depends on how much the BF trust the girl...Originally posted by winky:Actually, I'm not really asking for advise, but I just wanted to know what will you do if such things happened (touch wood!!) to you.
I know we need to treasure people around us. I know people make mistakes. But are you willing to give the sinner another chance? Can you do what you preach? Its easy to say things when they are not happening to you. But have you thought of what if it really happens to you? Will you ask her to fcuk off!!? Or beat up the ex bf? Or withdraw yourself into a cold world mode? ......
Many possibilities. I'll like to discuss on the kind of possibilities rather than say very chim chim things about life.
its what we do that counts, not say. Agree?
(ps: not trying to be a smart alec here)
So you wanna know how to tell your BF? So ask yourself, he really love you deeply? Is he a forgiving guy? and since you are in relationship with him, do you think he will forgive you? If so, tell him... If not, its only a ONS, then forget it if you are able to...Originally posted by winky:Okie... I'm a black sheep. But there are some over at the boys side as well.
Good girls do exist. I have plenty of friends that are real good decent girls (I know that because I'm a girl too, they don't need to act good and decent to me) but they don't have bf. Not because they don't want or they shunned away from men. More because guys don't go after them because they are not much of a looker, plain Janes.
Even the plainest boys go for pretty babes(I know not all of them are that shallow), but looks does play a part too. Cannot deny the fact that if the girl is not a looker, you probably won't even notice her in the first place. You probably would notice the 'chio-er' girl beside her. What more to say to get to know her better and like her?
Then again, girls nowadays are getting more calculative, more materialistic and practical, just as boys still goes for the hot bod, sexy butt, great looker.
-->checked: I admitted I'm not a saint. I'm a sinner. I am also guilty of some of the deeds mentioned.![]()
Originally posted by Fiacla:So you wanna know how to tell your BF? So ask yourself, he really love you deeply? Is he a forgiving guy? and since you are in relationship with him, do you think he will forgive you? If so, tell him... If not, its only a ONS, then forget it if you are able to...
Originally posted by erijazz:Agree
Then again...most guys are egoistic and fill wif pride. they can be a loving and forgiving guy but come to this issue it might turn out otherwise. If you are not seeing your ex bf anymore...keep it a secret and give your bf a beautiful memory.![]()
Same. He can went to bed wif his ex...thats doesn't mean he accept his gf to do the same. It's vice verse for the gers too, rite?Originally posted by the Bear:i'm troubled... because the "most guys" turns up...
what if the guy was the one who went to bed with his ex... what kind of "advise" would you be giving?
Originally posted by erijazz:Same. He can went to bed wif his ex...thats doesn't mean he accept his gf to do the same. It's vice verse for the gers too, rite?
but normally guys won't feel much about this kinda thing.(they doing ONS with other people other than their gf). In fact many would brag to their friends. Seen a number of such cases. To most guys, they would find it quite ok about it. If they felt sorry or guilty to their gf, they would try to be nicer to them as make up.Originally posted by the Bear:i'm troubled... because the "most guys" turns up...
what if the guy was the one who went to bed with his ex... what kind of "advise" would you be giving?
are you a guy or a girl here.. from what you said right, i find it quite true.. but..Originally posted by the Bear:are you sure?
from what i have observed,
if the girl strays, it's the guy's fault. he can't please her
if the guy strays, it's the guy's fault. he's a selfish worm.
somehow, throughout the years, the man is now taken for granted.. he should "understand" and all kinds of things.. while the woman can be as unreasonable as she wants and he must still pander to her...
it is a disturbing turn of events...