My Gf is pregnant!
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i mean..u really want her* dont took the wrong step again..then regrett againOriginally posted by sh|nY_BoY:wah liew...why didnt use condom?? or something? not got baby...u wanna kill it ?? KILLER!! the girl must be very very SAD
now...hai u really wanna go abortion? urs n hers flesh n blood...think carefully..sigh... -
a cancer is also your own flesh and bloodOriginally posted by sh|nY_BoY:wah liew...why didnt use condom?? or something? not got baby...u wanna kill it ?? KILLER!! the girl must be very very SAD now...hai u really wanna go abortion? urs n hers flesh n blood...think carefully..sigh... -
It's not that i dun wan the baby... i love children. My gf dun wan, she said she had bring shame to her family,and wanted this to be over... I dun wan her future to be ruin either. U guys said we should tell our parents, but u all nv think that her parents is super conservative... can't imagine wat they will do to my gf if they knw abt it... I dun wan my gf to go tru another torture. Only a few of you can understand wat I gone tru... i appreaciate your advice.
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i've had several pregnancy scares. my biggest fear is that my GF would not agree to an abortion. then i'd be fucked! Child Support Payments...scaryOriginally posted by Rox:It's not that i dun wan the baby... i love children. My gf dun wan, she said she had bring shame to her family,and wanted this to be over... I dun wan her future to be ruin either. U guys said we should tell our parents, but u all nv think that her parents is super conservative... can't imagine wat they will do to my gf if they knw abt it... I dun wan my gf to go tru another torture. Only a few of you can understand wat I gone tru... i appreaciate your advice. -
gd luck to u RoxOriginally posted by Rox:It's not that i dun wan the baby... i love children. My gf dun wan, she said she had bring shame to her family,and wanted this to be over... I dun wan her future to be ruin either. U guys said we should tell our parents, but u all nv think that her parents is super conservative... can't imagine wat they will do to my gf if they knw abt it... I dun wan my gf to go tru another torture. Only a few of you can understand wat I gone tru... i appreaciate your advice. -
Rox hope you saw wat i had told u....
if you wan you can email me...i will try my best to help....
takecare of ur future and ur gf....
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Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:careful of retribution
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I kknow its hard for your GF...not just parents...but friends too..its not easy to say it out...peopel will gossip behind her back...its a torture...just hope everything is settled for u as soon as possible. Help your GF go thru it...Originally posted by Rox:It's not that i dun wan the baby... i love children. My gf dun wan, she said she had bring shame to her family,and wanted this to be over... I dun wan her future to be ruin either. U guys said we should tell our parents, but u all nv think that her parents is super conservative... can't imagine wat they will do to my gf if they knw abt it... I dun wan my gf to go tru another torture. Only a few of you can understand wat I gone tru... i appreaciate your advice.
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[quote]Originally posted by AzRaeL:
i've had several pregnancy scares. my biggest fear is that my GF would not agree to an abortion. then i'd be fu[b]cked! Child Support Payments...scary[/b][/quote
Hi Are u devil in disguise ?] -
well, i suppose all have chided you about your irresponsibility, and i will do likewise. it is indeed unethical for your girlfriend to abort the child, especially so when she doen't want to bring shame to her family. she should face the consequences of her actions. if say, she had health problems, then abortion is inevitable. if you can't support the child, there's always adoption agencies. who are we to play God and dispense life or death? do you think abortion simplifies things... if your girlfriend thinks so, i'd gathered that she is a pretty shallow person. there'll be grief, and also from there henceforth, you will look at each other in a different perspective.
in any ways, the decision is ultimately up to you guys, and i do sincerely hope you do what is right.
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i think sure got a bit hard to having a baby if u two total no income but if try to save n dun anyhow spend i think can lah i got a few friend they also from very young got children liao one gal 19 another guy 21.Originally posted by Rox:My girlfriend is pregnant... it is impossible to have the baby becoz we dun have income . We decided to have abortion.... can anyone tell me any abortion clinics in spore and their fees. We are both 20. -
I know its pretty hard to make this decision but dun u think tats more and more single parents nowadays. Thats because they have a shot gun marriage and in the end they found that they dun really suitable for each other and they got divorce. It will be a disadvantage for the gal most of the time as her future guy might mind..
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How old is your GF? If she's too young, she could die if she give birth. If she make it too, the baby has a too high chance of dying too.
Something for all you flamers to think about. You want 2 families to worry and 2 people to die? Or 1 baby?
Again, like I said, go to a counceler, call one of the numbers you can find here. Where they can see you and see your GF. see the actual problem to help you.
There are too many variables here for us to help you. You asked for numbers and price, you got it. Now use it. -
y pple are getting more of these problem?? this is the 3rd case i have heard tis month...... my cousin who got her gf pregnant now is preparing for marriage lucky for him cos at least he got savings..... the other one is my classmate... was kind of shock when i heard the new...... another shot-gun marriage......... jus hope they can find their real happiness....... cos marriage and kids is a life time thingy..... can't afford to child'd play now then regard later...........
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Just do it, it'll be fine.Originally posted by Rox:It's not that i dun wan the baby... i love children. My gf dun wan, she said she had bring shame to her family,and wanted this to be over... I dun wan her future to be ruin either. U guys said we should tell our parents, but u all nv think that her parents is super conservative... can't imagine wat they will do to my gf if they knw abt it... I dun wan my gf to go tru another torture. Only a few of you can understand wat I gone tru... i appreaciate your advice.
I am willing to help, where I can, if you want, please private message me.
The worst thing you can do now is to keep this to yourself. -
you compare life with cancer. is like comparing light and darkness.Originally posted by AzRaeL:a cancer is also your own flesh and blood
murder is murder. you can kill an animal but killing another human being is an entirely different issue.
you are killing a creation, of intelligence, the creation of love.
and you can compare it with something like cancer... calling you sick and demented is just complimenting you.
and don't tell me "oh, you'll sing a different tune once u are in their shoes" i will never walk into such a situation. walking a path of regret. -
but why talk so much.... the choice is in their hands... at least the soul goes back to God... but the curse of murder will fall on them.
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i mean... is the birth of the child threatening the mum's life? is she HIV positive? yea, cases like this... sometimes its, as how the old ppl say "bo bian"... but if the child is healthy.. and the mum will be ok.. would u not give the baby a chance? your gf speaks of shame... yet shame was not exactly on her mind when she gave away her purity was it...
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if can pls dun!!!!Originally posted by AzRaeL:a cancer is also your own flesh and blood -
For Azreal, one can only hope her finds some common sense... before it finds him...
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Originally posted by Moustache:
nope, i'm being perfectly logical.
Hi Are u devil in disguise
an Abortion costs $700
having the baby costs around $1000 at least for starters..and then you still have to pay for the baby....pay for this pay for that.
I could buy seriously cool things for myself instead.
I am not the devil, i'm not killing out of malice or pleaure.
It's just plain and simple logic. -
blah blah blah..rhetoric. I am focused. I can kill without regret in such a situation. My only regret would be the money wasted on the Abortion. Once i almost had to deal with it. But i think it was either a false alarm or she miscarried. So i took the money that would have been for the abortion, bought myself a new Digital Camera and took her out to dinner...and had change to spare.Originally posted by dumbdumb!:you compare life with cancer. is like comparing light and darkness.
murder is murder. you can kill an animal but killing another human being is an entirely different issue.
you are killing a creation, of intelligence, the creation of love.
and you can compare it with something like cancer... calling you sick and demented is just complimenting you.
and don't tell me "oh, you'll sing a different tune once u are in their shoes" i will never walk into such a situation. walking a path of regret.
Murder is defined as Illegal killing. Since it is Legal...heh! Kill away baby!
Both are unwanted cells growing inside of a body. Only difference, Pregnancy is much easier to cure. -
au contaire!Originally posted by SingaporeTyrannosaur:For Azreal, one can only hope her finds some common sense... before it finds him...
it is i who has an abundance of common sense.
it is you who lack it...clouded with sentimentality.
i have my career and life plan and i'm not gonna let anything derail it. -
now think of all the problems you could have avoided by opting for the simple abortion.Originally posted by celowsg:Hi all, Let me tell U guys my story.... we decided even more to keep our child and of course we've now few big obstacles to cross - (1) prepare marriage which is a race against time cos her stomach is getting bigger each day. (2) saving for marriage and later for the child's delivery (3) saving for buying flat later on and renovations (4) saving for child's expenditure after he is born like diapers and nanny, etc. All these are pressure in front of us that we're goingto face.....
No race against time, can wait till completely ready for the marriage.
No need to save like crazy.
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Informed Decision...NOTOriginally posted by cibk:Hi All
I'm new here but I hope this will help Rox in coming to a more informed decision if its not too late.
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You can also check out their website here http://www.catholic.org.sg/FLS/pcs/
There's a picture of a 6-7 week baby there.
Take care
they're just a bunch of catholics who want to interfere with your life.
Only YOU know what you truly want.