what kind of bf is this? a bastard?
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i had a friend who is mentally breakdown nw. Her bf treat her badly. well, gals tend to be jealous... whenever her bf sms or chat with his ex gf, my friend will jealous n feel unhappi. however she did nt confront her bf n kept it in her heart.
my friend been bully by her bf's ex gf and their friends when her bf bring her along for the friends gathering orgainse by her bf's ex. but my friend's bf didnt sound anything...he jus kept quiet... what a bastard! My friend endure it....
there was a time that his ex gf was injured, he was so anxious and quickly run to buy medicine for her. he jus left my friend there. there r other guys ard too but why he sld get so anxious?
i asked my friend that if u cant tk it, just let go this relationship but she refuse...
if u were me, as her friends, what sld i advice her? and why her bf will behave in such a way? is it her bf still in love with his ex?
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Isn't it obvious enough???
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i had a fren who is somewhat like her, but a bit less abused lah..
well, i tried persuading my fren to let go, but she didnt listen..as well.. -
maybe she's in love.. love is blind.. and here, it's tragic...
as you said, what kind of bf is that??
he's thinking about himself only, she's thinking about him only...
they're not even close to thinking about themselves as an entity, a couple, so how else are people going to treat them??
it's going to be tragic
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leave the bastard....
does he thinks he's God gift that he can torture the girl like that?
Your friend must wake up to face reality....He does not love her at all, why? Because he does not even consider her feelings....
You have to build confidence and self-esteem in her too.... Your friend is running low on that, else she would have have it out with the bloke... Let her know she deserves better and it is a fact there are better ones out there.... -
Originally posted by edseeker31:
i already told my friend whatever i could to leave that bastard. but she still thought that he have feelin on her n my friend aso still love him alot. i say till speechless but she dun listen. it hurt me alots to see her in such a stage. when can she wake up?
[b]leave the bastard....
does he thinks he's God gift that he can torture the girl like that?
Your friend must wake up to face reality....He does not love her at all, why? Because he does not even consider her feelings....
You have to build confidence and self-esteem in her too.... Your friend is running low on that, else she would have have it out with the bloke... Let her know she deserves better and it is a fact there are better ones out there....
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ya. love is blind. wonder if some ppl can wake from their dream world!!!
if the other party dun like u, no pt lingering on and live in suffering.
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whoof,
i'm sure u've already stated the obvious to her in any way possible, the guy is a bastard, she deserves better, her heart shouldn't be shattered like this, it's not worth it, u can find better. blah blah blah blah.
the point here is not wat to tell her. she has already heard all this from u, and countless other frens, if the care for her.
the point is being a friend, not being someone to tell her wat she probably already knows, or at worst, has already heard.
my point is, there's only so much u can do. i have seen pple in ur situation where the friend does so much to get a girl out of a dysfunctional reln, only to be hated by the girl, becos she will love the guy no matter wat, even to the extent of forsaking friends. yes, love is that blind.
so, my advice to u is that u can only do so much, and pray that she wakes up. if she doesn't there'll be a time when he will really screw her over and she'll come to u, with regret. if u are still her friend, THAT is when u'll be "valuable".
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is it not always to in love with right person....
i heard some worst situation... plus if u know the gal and she is kind hearted and pretty... u feel even angry... but luck is luck.. it is her choice... just wish her luck... as i always told my female friend.. u r not a stupid gal, u know the consequence, i just tell the true, but if u already make ur decision, i will still support u... -
I think that's the best advice anyone else has given so far. Looks like u really understand girls..Originally posted by jOhO:whoof,
i'm sure u've already stated the obvious to her in any way possible, the guy is a bastard, she deserves better, her heart shouldn't be shattered like this, it's not worth it, u can find better. blah blah blah blah.
the point here is not wat to tell her. she has already heard all this from u, and countless other frens, if the care for her.
the point is being a friend, not being someone to tell her wat she probably already knows, or at worst, has already heard.
my point is, there's only so much u can do. i have seen pple in ur situation where the friend does so much to get a girl out of a dysfunctional reln, only to be hated by the girl, becos she will love the guy no matter wat, even to the extent of forsaking friends. yes, love is that blind.
so, my advice to u is that u can only do so much, and pray that she wakes up. if she doesn't there'll be a time when he will really screw her over and she'll come to u, with regret. if u are still her friend, THAT is when u'll be "valuable".
hope u know wat i mean.
I've had this experience before.. and seriously, u dont wanna hear what u already know deep down inside. No one is that stupid enough as to not know that the guy is an a$s. What u do want to hear is that when the guy finally screws u over, ur friend will still be there. -
ya, tats wat i think too. i mean since u haf alreadi persuade her so much, jus let her know u will be willing to help her anytime she nits ur help lor. tell her no matter wat decision she decides to make, u will always support her... support her as a friend, not support her to be together wif tat BASTARD!!!
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well, i get alot of such things happen to me, girls come complaining about thier bf's but just won't budge, and then i ALSO get girl's whose fren is goung thru the sh[/i]it and now hates her for helping.Originally posted by summerain22:I think that's the best advice anyone else has given so far. Looks like u really understand girls..
I've had this experience before.. and seriously, u dont wanna hear what u already know deep down inside. No one is that stupid enough as to not know that the guy is an a$s. What u do want to hear is that when the guy finally screws u over, ur friend will still be there.
ahha i've seen it all man!
but hey, thanx for the compliment, head abit light now..
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well whoof....
here's your problem.... your friend still thinks she still loves the guy... she thinks as you can see... but anyway, people like her are always around... as they say, they're lots of sucka around....
I used to have a friend like that too... only worse becos she takes the bf beating her... the more you tell her to leave the guy, the more it disturbs you cos she'll want to stay with him more... worst still, the girl thinks that the bf is quite "poor thing" cos everyone dislikes him.... the more we try to wake her up, the more she starts to avoid us... (it might happen to you)
the only solution to this problem was that we started to bring her out and invite her to everywhere... introduce more friends to her, especially the guys.... those that we'll think eligible of cos... and one day she finally fell for someone... though we felt not that fantastic cos he's a nerd, but at least the problem is solved, he does not hit her...
so maybe you can try this too... you've gotta make sure you can afford the time though... don't wanna try and help her and creating more problem for yourself ya.... -
fck tt bastard
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well, from what i'm experiencing now.. i'm not attached, and my ex has a bf. but i'm always worried about her.. wad she's doing and is she safe and all. i can only care for her inside my heart. if i do go ask her "have u eaten" "are u back home".. she would feel.. "fan gan" or irritated. so, ya.. all these i can only just keep inside me.
everyone's telling me to just forget about her; its not my responsibility to worry about her anymore.. that sort of stuff. i can't, maybe i wasn't a good bf last time, thus the guilt or the willingness to be caring towards her now. or its because of our 3yrs of relationship, the amount of love within, that kept me constantly worrying for her.
and erm, i've learnt after this breakup that communication between the couple is very important. don't sweep problems that had happened under the carpet and forget about it. 1 fine day all these problems will add up, and the volcano will erupt.
am i off topic already? sorry if i am.. \= -
love is like pubic hair, curly, long and messy.
dun talk so much about, dun feel too much about it.
at the end of day, let your cock do the thinking. -
dun u trim?Originally posted by life_mono:love is like pubic hair, curly, long and messy.
dun talk so much about, dun feel too much about it.
at the end of day, let your cock do the thinking. -
hey totally agree..i think its tough to talk sense into her since she is so in love with that bastard......make your stand clear abt her relationship problems and i think the only think you can do is to tell her that no matter what happens you will be there for her...Originally posted by -=|nN0c3Nt=-:ya, tats wat i think too. i mean since u haf alreadi persuade her so much, jus let her know u will be willing to help her anytime she nits ur help lor. tell her no matter wat decision she decides to make, u will always support her... support her as a friend, not support her to be together wif tat BASTARD!!!
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hey totally agree..i think its tough to talk sense into her since she is so in love with that bastard......make your stand clear abt her relationship problems and i think the only think you can do is to tell her that no matter what happens you will be there for her...Originally posted by -=|nN0c3Nt=-:ya, tats wat i think too. i mean since u haf alreadi persuade her so much, jus let her know u will be willing to help her anytime she nits ur help lor. tell her no matter wat decision she decides to make, u will always support her... support her as a friend, not support her to be together wif tat BASTARD!!!
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just be there for her to comfort her and dun ask or try to talk her out of leaving her bf as wat all the others had said *love is blind*
suport her and show there u r one true fren, and if she really sit down and think, she may understand or she may not but the path taken is hers. only she can say if she want to be happy or sad all the time. it's up to her really. and if she is studying, the best to is work hard and not get to sticky in BGR problems. -
BAR is getting more n more like Aunt Agony...
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either that, or pple can't read..Originally posted by skeujin:BAR is getting more n more like Aunt Agony... 
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whoof. post in aunt agony if u want more valuable advice. bar is not the place.....
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judging from his treatment of his current gf and his ex, i feel tt he is just using his current gf as a substitute for his ex.... what wuz the reason tt he broke up wif his ex? coz she dumped him? and he can't get over her? just tell yr fren tt he is not worthy of yr love and he has done so much things to hurt her.. if he's true to her, then why is he acting in such a way? LEAVE HIM AT ONCE!!!!!Originally posted by whoofwhoof:i had a friend who is mentally breakdown nw. Her bf treat her badly. well, gals tend to be jealous... whenever her bf sms or chat with his ex gf, my friend will jealous n feel unhappi. however she did nt confront her bf n kept it in her heart.
my friend been bully by her bf's ex gf and their friends when her bf bring her along for the friends gathering orgainse by her bf's ex. but my friend's bf didnt sound anything...he jus kept quiet... what a bastard! My friend endure it....
there was a time that his ex gf was injured, he was so anxious and quickly run to buy medicine for her. he jus left my friend there. there r other guys ard too but why he sld get so anxious?
i asked my friend that if u cant tk it, just let go this relationship but she refuse...
if u were me, as her friends, what sld i advice her? and why her bf will behave in such a way? is it her bf still in love with his ex?
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all the best to you and yr fren and hope tt everything would just turn out fine.. 
good luck! 
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i agree that gers tend to get jealous more easily but ur friend defintely have the rights to be jealous... mabbe she shld tok to her bf ask him whether his ex is more impt than her.. no pt enduring in silence.... darn guy~
how come gf being bullied by someone and the guy is not doing anything? he is a turtle or wat..... crazy guy... ur friend love him alot? if not den just leave him...
i think the guy still got feelings for his ex.. if not why when she injured den he so nervous.. am i rite in saying tat?