A serious question
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I had a discussion with a close guy friend recently and we were talking abt this issue on relationship sex and marriage..
He highlighted some of his woes to me and I don't know if this will apply to the majority of couples in Singapore (those married and contemplating marriage)
Basically it goes like this, my friend being a typical guy tend to place a bit emphasis on the phycial aspect of a relationship (i.e. sex) but him and his gf intend to keep the full thing til after marriage. From what was said, I guess he is worried that his gf is not someone who actively seeks out the physical aspect of a loving relationship more than him. He is saying that the girl really don't like the idea of actually "doing it" so to him he already foresee a problem already. But the fact is that he is really in love with this one and really hope they do get married, but the nagging worry for him is this area of physical intimacy being too low for his liking and which he thinks may see him "jumping ship" and he really don't want it that way.
So I was wondering that at least he is capable of forseeing himself straying at this point.
In cases like this, is there a way out for him and the girl? They love each other a lot but sometimes as they have not really explored with this forbidden fruit. Its hard to say what will come and what will not. -
i think your fren is very lucky to find the girl he loves and will be ready to settle down for. Tell him he shouldn't worry too much about the sex issue yet cuz neither have tried it yet. Things would be totally different afterhand. However unless they are already into "it" and his gf's libido is low, then perhaps he has something to frown about.Originally posted by Ecxentrique:I had a discussion with a close guy friend recently and we were talking abt this issue on relationship sex and marriage..
He highlighted some of his woes to me and I don't know if this will apply to the majority of couples in Singapore (those married and contemplating marriage)
Basically it goes like this, my friend being a typical guy tend to place a bit emphasis on the phycial aspect of a relationship (i.e. sex) but him and his gf intend to keep the full thing til after marriage. From what was said, I guess he is worried that his gf is not someone who actively seeks out the physical aspect of a loving relationship more than him. He is saying that the girl really don't like the idea of actually "doing it" so to him he already foresee a problem already. But the fact is that he is really in love with this one and really hope they do get married, but the nagging worry for him is this area of physical intimacy being too low for his liking and which he thinks may see him "jumping ship" and he really don't want it that way.
So I was wondering that at least he is capable of forseeing himself straying at this point.
In cases like this, is there a way out for him and the girl? They love each other a lot but sometimes as they have not really explored with this forbidden fruit. Its hard to say what will come and what will not. -
wat if the gal's sex drive is realli low? any ways to solve it? any ways to increase her interest in sex?Originally posted by kurai:i think your fren is very lucky to find the girl he loves and will be ready to settle down for. Tell him he shouldn't worry too much about the sex issue yet cuz neither have tried it yet. Things would be totally different afterhand. However unless they are already into "it" and his gf's libido is low, then perhaps he has something to frown about.
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Not getting physical doesn't mean that they cannot talk about being 'physical'? He can always try discussing about such issues to his gf (though not so directly). They can always have conversations about these...Originally posted by Ecxentrique:I had a discussion with a close guy friend recently and we were talking abt this issue on relationship sex and marriage..
He highlighted some of his woes to me and I don't know if this will apply to the majority of couples in Singapore (those married and contemplating marriage)
Basically it goes like this, my friend being a typical guy tend to place a bit emphasis on the phycial aspect of a relationship (i.e. sex) but him and his gf intend to keep the full thing til after marriage. From what was said, I guess he is worried that his gf is not someone who actively seeks out the physical aspect of a loving relationship more than him. He is saying that the girl really don't like the idea of actually "doing it" so to him he already foresee a problem already. But the fact is that he is really in love with this one and really hope they do get married, but the nagging worry for him is this area of physical intimacy being too low for his liking and which he thinks may see him "jumping ship" and he really don't want it that way.
So I was wondering that at least he is capable of forseeing himself straying at this point.
In cases like this, is there a way out for him and the girl? They love each other a lot but sometimes as they have not really explored with this forbidden fruit. Its hard to say what will come and what will not.
The BIG question here I guess is whether would things really turn out to be the way he thought it would be? Asking a guy like him to have a gf with lower sex desire might be difficult for him.... But I have other questions which beg to be considered.... What if his gf has a NORMAL appetite for sex and he a 'hyperactive'? That won't meet up to his 'needs'? Would he still stray? What if his gf is not feeling well or not in the mood for sex when he needs it? Would he stray?
The question he has came up with is no doubt not totally groundless... BUT he should understand that the same kinda question would arise EVEN if he choose another girl to be his wife. And the potential 'problem'... Does it really lies solely in the hands of his gf only....?
Regards.