Will you tell?
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Statistics shown that nowadays Singaporeans never tell their partner(s) abt their sexual problems before engaging into intimate moments with each other. Problems like Sexually Transmitted Disease..
Is it bad not to tell the other partner?
If you tell ya partner you got STD, den wad will ya do? Shoo him/her away from u, treatin him/her like a pest or you will continue to love him/her liked u used to?
Recently saw the newspaper about a couple who got AIDS.. the wife got from his husband, without knowin of coz.. till later den she discovered her husband has been poppin pills...
do u think tt the husband is being too irresponsible for not telling her that he got HIV?
or is it bcoz he love her too much and doesnt wan her to leave him if she noes abt his deepest secrets?
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Originally posted by `wAwA`:Statistics shown that nowadays Singaporeans never tell their partner(s) abt their sexual problems before engaging into intimate moments with each other. Problems like Sexually Transmitted Disease..
Is it bad not to tell the other partner?
If you tell ya partner you got STD, den wad will ya do? Shoo him/her away from u, treatin him/her like a pest or you will continue to love him/her liked u used to?
Recently saw the newspaper about a couple who got AIDS.. the wife got from his husband, without knowin of coz.. till later den she discovered her husband has been poppin pills...
do u think tt the husband is being too irresponsible for not telling her that he got HIV?
or is it bcoz he love her too much and doesnt wan her to leave him if she noes abt his deepest secrets?
Any comments?
personally, i feel it may not be right that the husband kept it from her even after marriage. i'm no saint. i fear losing my girlfriend more than death itself and will probably keep it from her until i feel quite assured she won't leave me despite the fact. definitely will reveal before marriage. sex was never on my agenda. kids are a bonus but not a must. heard many infertile parents also adopt kids imported fom China or something. HIV is not easily transmitted even among household members, provided doctor's instructions are adhered to. -
I think if you truly love your partner, you'll tell her about it cos you wouldn't want her to hurt as well.....you'll know that you have to let her go and if she truly loves him, she'll be by his side, HIV or not.....Originally posted by `wAwA`:Statistics shown that nowadays Singaporeans never tell their partner(s) abt their sexual problems before engaging into intimate moments with each other. Problems like Sexually Transmitted Disease..
Is it bad not to tell the other partner?
If you tell ya partner you got STD, den wad will ya do? Shoo him/her away from u, treatin him/her like a pest or you will continue to love him/her liked u used to?
Recently saw the newspaper about a couple who got AIDS.. the wife got from his husband, without knowin of coz.. till later den she discovered her husband has been poppin pills...
do u think tt the husband is being too irresponsible for not telling her that he got HIV?
or is it bcoz he love her too much and doesnt wan her to leave him if she noes abt his deepest secrets?
Any comments?
That husband is way too irresponsible and selfish. He should know that this is a fatal illness and there's no cure yet. By not telling her and still engaging in sexual activities is as good as sentencing her to death!
He's too concerned about his own needs, did he pause to think about her needs as well? -
yah the husband is too much .... this type of this should not hide one.... instead should openly delcare to her that he got AIDS and ask her whether she wants it with or without force.!!
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shd tell............
it's respect and oso prevent the disease from spreading.... -
Originally posted by cowbell:I think if you truly love your partner, you'll tell her about it cos you wouldn't want her to hurt as well.....you'll know that you have to let her go and if she truly loves him, she'll be by his side, HIV or not.....
That husband is way too irresponsible and selfish. He should know that this is a fatal illness and there's no cure yet. By not telling her and still engaging in sexual activities is as good as sentencing her to death!
He's too concerned about his own needs, did he pause to think about her needs as well? let's just assume sex is completely taken out of the picture. but they are already deeply involved in a relationship headed for marriage. what's your take on that then? HIV is not highly contagious, even among household members and most other STD's are not as life-threatening. -
If they are so committed to each other and is ready for marriage despite him being HIV positive, then I'll say go for it.Originally posted by boy in blues: let's just assume sex is completely taken out of the picture. but they are already deeply involved in a relationship headed for marriage. what's your take then?
With everything lay down on the table and they are still willing to share their life together, don't you think it's called true love?
It'll be a different marriage from all the ordinary folks, but hey, it may be the best experience for both of them! -
Originally posted by cowbell:If they are so committed to each other and is ready for marriage despite him being HIV positive, then I'll say go for it.
With everything lay down on the table and they are still willing to share their life together, don't you think it's called true love?
It'll be a different marriage from all the ordinary folks, but hey, it may be the best experience for both of them!
but the guy is doomed to die and widow her. will it be fair to her that she is prevented from marrying somebody else who can give her long-term security? even if she's a willing party, should the guy refuse her sacrifice? -
It's definitely not fair that he'll die and leave her...harsh fact of life. But if she's marrying someone else to have long term security and not cherishing any moment of it, then she'll be even more miserable!Originally posted by boy in blues: but the guy is doomed to die and widow her. will it be fair to her that she is prevented from marrying somebody else who can give her long-term security? even if she's a willing party, should the guy refuse her sacrifice?
Getting married to a healthy person does not guarantee long term security, the spouse may meet an accident the very next day and die......it's not predictable! In many instances, the spouse may just decide one day that this marriage is not working for him and wants out....There are so many different scenarios of how things will happen.
I'll rather cherish what I have now, then to keep looking out for the unknown, hoping that it'll bring me happiness....
It's definitely difficult for the guy to allow her to go through with it, but I think even though is it heart wrenching, they should cherish whatever time they have left with each other and she'll have memories to last her a lifetime..... -
Originally posted by cowbell:It's definitely not fair that he'll die and leave her...harsh fact of life. But if she's marrying someone else to have long term security and not cherishing any moment of it, then she'll be even more miserable!
Getting married to a healthy person does not guarantee long term security, the spouse may meet an accident the very next day and die......it's not predictable! In many instances, the spouse may just decide one day that this marriage is not working for him and wants out....There are so many different scenarios of how things will happen.
I'll rather cherish what I have now, then to keep looking out for the unknown, hoping that it'll bring me happiness....
It's definitely difficult for the guy to allow her to go through with it, but I think even though is it heart wrenching, they should cherish whatever time they have left with each other and she'll have memories to last her a lifetime.....
gee .... that's really romantic. but i really wonder if such love exists in this age of the real world. -
if you search hard enough, I'm sure you'll find such love amongst real ordinary folks out here....Originally posted by boy in blues: gee .... that's really romantic. but i really wonder if such love exists in this age of the real world. -
Originally posted by cowbell:if you search hard enough, I'm sure you'll find such love amongst real ordinary folks out here.... thanks for the well wishes. same to you too. but find the ideal among the real doesn't sound easy to me at all.
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well, it's definitely not easy.....it may well creep up on you one day when you're not looking!Originally posted by boy in blues: thanks for the well wishes. same to you too. but find the ideal among the real doesn't sound easy to me at all. -
Originally posted by cowbell:well, it's definitely not easy.....it may well creep up on you one day when you're not looking! yeah ........ the kid in all of us just loves pleasant surprises.
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sorry for being too harsh,
but the guy is a bastard and the woman is an idiot...
how could anyone bear to infect his partner with HIV...it's HIV!! ... if he really loves her...
now that she's infected, of course he has to say stuff like oh he really love her and was afraid she'll leave her...wat bullshit... come on, he's just plain selfish...
if he really love her, he shd at the least use condoms and probably tell her he doesn't want any kids... (i guess a bastard like him will probably says "oh, i really hate to use condoms, i can't feel a thing with it on" haha)...
and i really can't believe the woman will forgive him and accept his bullshit story... -
definitely tell, shouldn't hide anything from the one you love so much.
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ah boy, not everyone is a saint like u... sex is an important part of marriage life... maybe u can have a sex-less life but think of ur gf...Originally posted by boy in blues: personally, i feel it may not be right that the husband kept it from her even after marriage. i'm no saint. i fear losing my girlfriend more than death itself and will probably keep it from her until i feel quite assured she won't leave me despite the fact. definitely will reveal before marriage. sex was never on my agenda. kids are a bonus but not a must. heard many infertile parents also adopt kids imported fom China or something. HIV is not easily transmitted even among household members, provided doctor's instructions are adhered to.
she might not want that kind of life but may be too soft-hearted to leave u (assuming u have HIV)...
and believe me lah, unless u're going to die very soon, if not she's going to regret being with u and will leave u one day... but think of how many years she had wasted u already... -
Originally posted by UandMe:ah boy, not everyone is a saint like u...
thanks! i'll just read the above main point and ignore the rest. 
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true love? it more likely to be compassion that is making her stay!Originally posted by cowbell:If they are so committed to each other and is ready for marriage despite him being HIV positive, then I'll say go for it.
With everything lay down on the table and they are still willing to share their life together, don't you think it's called true love?
It'll be a different marriage from all the ordinary folks, but hey, it may be the best experience for both of them!
she will agree to stay with the guy so that he'll not get another major blow before he dies... but sadly she's going to regret her decision when she finds out that the guy isn't going to die so soon... and she's going to slog her life trying to pay for his massive medical fee... -
haha sorry, i always like to burst the dreams of people who think that true love can overcome anything....
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Originally posted by UandMe:haha sorry, i always like to burst the dreams of people who think that true love can overcome anything.... nah ...... don't feel sorry about it. i can understand that realists don't dare to dream. or at least they don't believe enough.
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yeah, money rules in this world!
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Aye Aye.....they sure don't believe enough to dream......Originally posted by boy in blues: nah ...... don't feel sorry over it. i can understand that realists don't dare to dream. or at least they don't believe enough. -
okok.. maybe HIV or AIDS is too harsh coz they are life threatening..
How about some STDs that are not fatal? I heard abt Genital herpes... that can be very traumatizing physically or mentally to the infected person.
There's no known cure yet and u juz have to sit n wait for the next re-occurence to come and u go @@ de doc..
do u think de infected partner shd tell his/her partner.. since its not FATAL? -
Should still tell what
If not also can find out very soon...
btw, dun tell your ATM pin numbers etc ...