Will a friend get emotional about it?
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So I get to know this gal from a one night stand. After a while, we become friend. We made it very clear to each other there is nothing special going on. Since then I have left for study for 2 years, but I still keep in touch with her. At that time, she had been into 2 failed relationships. Well now she's single and free. So I'm coming back soon. She's eager to see me again (as friend as she made it clearly). There is some talk about doing it again with her, yes I like it, but there is part of me feelin guilty about it because I'm not even sure if she can do it without getting expecting something (like relationship). I told her about it, that I don't want to get into relationship with her (because I don't love her), but she says its fine, and we can still do it together for the sake of 'experience'.
Is it possible that a gal friend can have sex with a guy friend, without getting emotional about it (ie the girl expecting something from the guy she is doing it)?
Her offer is tempting, sure I like the idea of doing it with her for the sake of fun, but if she's trying to expect more from me, I'm not going to do it. And yes, I have made it clear to her that about that and she assures me that it won't happen. Can I really believe what she is saying? -
check she got STD or what...
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wait she pregnant liao and blame it on u...beware
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oso check whether she is pregnant...she might juz wanna make u the scapegoat
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heh..same thoughtsOriginally posted by sgboy2004:wait she pregnant liao and blame it on u...beware
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^5Originally posted by Aim@Me:heh..same thoughts
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nowadays its quite common. My guy friends have the same offer as u. (Is it the same gal) ? If u have a gf, better think twice. Otherwise, why not? Its a free fu*k afterall.
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nothing is for free...might hav hidden costOriginally posted by oh_papillon:nowadays its quite common. My guy friends have the same offer as u. (Is it the same gal) ? If u have a gf, better think twice. Otherwise, why not? Its a free fu*k afterall.
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Actually she even suggest both of us need to go check ups just in case. I guess she and me want to make it clear both of us have nothing to hide.
I don't have gf so I don't have to worry about that part. -
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hmm...it all depend on u...but well juz tink abt it carefully...all the best broOriginally posted by Mguy:Actually she even suggest both of us need to go check ups just in case. I guess she and me want to make it clear both of us have nothing to hide.
I don't have gf so I don't have to worry about that part.
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Well, who knows u might fall for her after the sessions...when u r back in spore
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budden since u made it clear to her already then i tink should be ok.. but from wa u said i can senses some emotional content.. -
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Think you should just go for it. Not asking you to fark first, worry later. Since you two have already made things clear and agreed on matters, you're not in any wrong.Originally posted by Mguy:So I get to know this gal from a one night stand. After a while, we become friend. We made it very clear to each other there is nothing special going on. Since then I have left for study for 2 years, but I still keep in touch with her. At that time, she had been into 2 failed relationships. Well now she's single and free. So I'm coming back soon. She's eager to see me again (as friend as she made it clearly). There is some talk about doing it again with her, yes I like it, but there is part of me feelin guilty about it because I'm not even sure if she can do it without getting expecting something (like relationship). I told her about it, that I don't want to get into relationship with her (because I don't love her), but she says its fine, and we can still do it together for the sake of 'experience'.
Is it possible that a gal friend can have sex with a guy friend, without getting emotional about it (ie the girl expecting something from the guy she is doing it)?
Her offer is tempting, sure I like the idea of doing it with her for the sake of fun, but if she's trying to expect more from me, I'm not going to do it. And yes, I have made it clear to her that about that and she assures me that it won't happen. Can I really believe what she is saying?
But, then if she starts dropping hints or something, then you should maybe check your relationship with her again. Afterall, who's to say that you wouldn't develop feelings for her in the future?
Still, I guess it's just another case of platonic sex. I would presume the two of you are old enough to know what you two are doing. Well, just don't do anything you two might regret. Also, don't end up regretting not doing something you didn't do.
Think right now, a lot of the other guys here are wishing that they had such a friend too. Even if they do say the girl is cheap, deep down they want it too.
Just to reaffirm, it is totally possible that a girl will not get emotional about it. Girls can get horny too, just not as easily as guys. -
why u dun want consider rship with her?
cos she is those gers tt sui sui bian bian ONS with guys one? -
Cos he does not want to be committed, at least not to her. Want to commit also must have the right kind of feeling. May be the girl is alright, just not one he sees a long-term future with.Originally posted by FireIce:why u dun want consider rship with her?
cos she is those gers tt sui sui bian bian ONS with guys one?
Not saying everyone should start having sex without feelings, just that now it's a case where two consenting adults have agreed to have sex purely for sex itself.
Not like either of them is cheating on anyone. But a relationship like that should also be between two willing parties, it shouldn't be forced.
Just adding my views, can't say I'm speaking up for him. Besides, for all you know, the girl is even less eager than him in getting into a relationship. Afterall, he is the one who seems to be bugged by it and not her. Maybe it's a possibility that he's considered but scared to face? -
Cos he does not want to be committed, at least not to her. Want to commit also must have the right kind of feeling. May be the girl is alright, just not one he sees a long-term future with.Originally posted by FireIce:why u dun want consider rship with her?
cos she is those gers tt sui sui bian bian ONS with guys one?
Not saying everyone should start having sex without feelings, just that now it's a case where two consenting adults have agreed to have sex purely for sex itself.
Not like either of them is cheating on anyone. But a relationship like that should also be between two willing parties, it shouldn't be forced.
Just adding my views, can't say I'm speaking up for him. Besides, for all you know, the girl is even less eager than him in getting into a relationship. Afterall, he is the one who seems to be bugged by it and not her. Maybe it's a possibility that he's considered but scared to face? -
Sorry I can't understand some Singapore slangs (I'm not Singaporean but love this forum anyway).Originally posted by FireIce:why u dun want consider rship with her?
cos she is those gers tt sui sui bian bian ONS with guys one?
Why not consider? I because I don't have that kind of feeling with her, we're just friends. She also made it clear we're mere friends (which i sometimes wonder if she really means it). -
my 2 cents for this case..
when love comes, there`s no stoppin to it..
r u guilty of it?? -
my 2 cents worth for this case
when love comes, it comes..
there`s no stoppin to it..
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Just a side question, it's ok if you don't want to answer. You know about her private life? As in, are you the only person she sleeps with? Out of curiousity. And why do you doubt that she's not merely in it for sex?Originally posted by Mguy:Sorry I can't understand some Singapore slangs (I'm not Singaporean but love this forum anyway).
Why not consider? I because I don't have that kind of feeling with her, we're just friends. She also made it clear we're mere friends (which i sometimes wonder if she really means it). -
I know about it, she does talk to me about stuff she wouldn't even discuss with her family. She tells me everything, even her ex.Originally posted by SumOne:Just a side question, it's ok if you don't want to answer. You know about her private life? As in, are you the only person she sleeps with? Out of curiousity. And why do you doubt that she's not merely in it for sex?
I feel guilty, because I don't want to give her the wrong impression. Didn't I read that women tend to expect something from guys, even when they say they don't? -
What you say is true, and I think she does expect out of you, but maybe not a relationship.Originally posted by Mguy:I know about it, she does talk to me about stuff she wouldn't even discuss with her family. She tells me everything, even her ex.
I feel guilty, because I don't want to give her the wrong impression. Didn't I read that women tend to expect something from guys, even when they say they don't?
She is somebody you keep in contact with and moreover, someone you have sex with. So definitely this person would be closer to you than most other people would be. So it's more likely that the two of you would know things about each other that others won't. I also have female friends who tell me everything, things they won't tell the family, things about their ex, but i don't sleep with them.
She would definitely be expecting a higher level of intimacy out of you, maybe not as a special someone but let's put it this way, the two of you have a beyond 'normal' friendship.
Lighten up and just see how the next session goes. Maybe just monitor her behaviour and be a little more sensitive to what she might be thinking. Just no point being too uptight about it.
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Just F U C K the d a m n bitch.