Tell the Truth and Face it or not...
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Currently I am in quite a tricky situation, so need advice from guys and gals. For gals, please tell me how you feel if this happen to you..
I am currently processing for my divorce.. during this down period I meet a gal.
As she was also down from a recent relationship, we click quite well and went out together and even holidays together.
We like each other alot.. But the one thing is that I did not tell her I am divorce and she trust me alot
While I am planning for tell her, I am the scene of the truth would not be too nice... and I want to savage this relationship too when the truth it out..
hi, look for some sensible advice and want to get some honest feedback from gals...
Thanks to all -
Let her know asap... The longer you drag, the more difficult to break the news... It's an open-minded society now... Divorce cases are common...
Good luck -
what are you waiting for?
just it that day when you wanna get to your wife..(now unfortunately or real fortunately en route to a divorce) quick quick go for your new flame
what are you waiting for...
trust your heart *laughs* and go for it i say
and if everything or anything eventually won't work out
divorce again lor.....
just like it when everyone read my siggnature man
DIVORCE CAN?
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Tell her asap and if she love you enough, she will accept you and your past.Originally posted by truej:Currently I am in quite a tricky situation, so need advice from guys and gals. For gals, please tell me how you feel if this happen to you..
I am currently processing for my divorce.. during this down period I meet a gal.
As she was also down from a recent relationship, we click quite well and went out together and even holidays together.
We like each other alot.. But the one thing is that I did not tell her I am divorce and she trust me alot
While I am planning for tell her, I am the scene of the truth would not be too nice... and I want to savage this relationship too when the truth it out..
hi, look for some sensible advice and want to get some honest feedback from gals...
Thanks to all
(do give her some time after telling her cos she may need time to absorb the news).
Divorce cases are very common nowadays but do let her know a little more about your past so that both of you can work things out for a better future together. -
yeh very common.....when u go look for job under the maritial statusOriginally posted by Blueskyz:Tell her asap and if she love you enough, she will accept you and your past.
(do give her some time after telling her cos she may need time to absorb the news).
Divorce cases are very common nowadays but do let her know a little more about your past so that both of you can work things out for a better future together.
finaaly you won't have to fill in.....
"divorced"....
divorce very common cannot be helped, but i will teach my children that although there is an option, do not take it for granted
read my signature man -
Thanks for all the advise... also want to know if you the gal.. what would be your reaction...
Worst of all, I met one of her family member already and she introduce me to her good friends....
If you are that gal, how would you feel when this news is exposed to you... =>damn angry... , feel cheated ... 1 tight slap .. or what..
She already treating me like her boyfriend...
(also because I mouth-itchy go and ask her I want to be with her ok ... and she really accepted it which I never expect cause I just ask to see her reactions)
OMG laio... feel damn guilty... But for once I must say "Luckily got no kids" -
I may be a little shock after hearing the news but so long as he is a nice guy and the feelings is mutual between us, I don't see any problem in accepting him cos what's past is already in the past, what really matters is the future.Originally posted by truej:Thanks for all the advise... also want to know if you the gal.. what would be your reaction...
Worst of all, I met one of her family member already and she introduce me to her good friends....
If you are that gal, how would you feel when this news is exposed to you... =>damn angry... , feel cheated ... 1 tight slap .. or what..
She already treating me like her boyfriend...
(also because I mouth-itchy go and ask her I want to be with her ok ... and she really accepted it which I never expect cause I just ask to see her reactions)
OMG laio... feel damn guilty... But for once I must say "Luckily got no kids"
Personally I will feel that he is sincere about our relationship therefore he's telling me the truth. -
If you don't tell her you face another potiental
round of hurt, hell and unhappiness.
So tell her now, if she says bye bye so be it.
It's written in the stars (or somwhere else) so
don't sweat it
play a Nine like a Nine altough you wish it were an Ace
the Left has spoken! -
If asked, wouldn't deny.
If not asked, but relationship stable, will tell.
If not asked, but relationship not stable, will wait. -
According to "Qi Tai",
My situation is ... she probe initially when I started going out with her... see movies...etc because I told her that I just broke off from a long relationship (8 - 9 years).
Then she probe.. "Why didnt you all married.. ? " so I just brush it away with some excuse cause I was still recovering and didnt want to explain so much and talk so much about it... At that time was just friends
so just wanted some "normal" companionship (gal to watch movie, eat, chat and go out with during weekends)..
Base on the current situation, the relationship just started not long ago only.. maybe about 2 weeks.. so base on that I think just started.. should be not stable yet..
But I have planned to tell her end of the year cause currently she need my help on some of her things badly...
So if I tell her now.. then she could feel quite trap....
Like if she reject me, then she would have problem handling this things because she trusted her to handle those things for her... dont want to let her feel I am holding her ransom..
anyone fall into this situation as me before... or similar.. can share share.. -
tell her the truth lor...Originally posted by truej:Currently I am in quite a tricky situation, so need advice from guys and gals. For gals, please tell me how you feel if this happen to you..
I am currently processing for my divorce.. during this down period I meet a gal.
As she was also down from a recent relationship, we click quite well and went out together and even holidays together.
We like each other alot.. But the one thing is that I did not tell her I am divorce and she trust me alot
While I am planning for tell her, I am the scene of the truth would not be too nice... and I want to savage this relationship too when the truth it out..
hi, look for some sensible advice and want to get some honest feedback from gals...
Thanks to all -
Different ppl react to diff situations differently, just tell her when you feel the time is right.
Good luck. -
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There is no other alternative but to tell the truth
If theres static when you do that, just tune into another station
It can't be that you're worried theres no other station -
hmmm, better tell....else wait misunderstanding then jialat....
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No need to say my name until like that lah!!Originally posted by truej:According to "Qi Tai",
My situation is ... she probe initially when I started going out with her... see movies...etc because I told her that I just broke off from a long relationship (8 - 9 years).
Then she probe.. "Why didnt you all married.. ? " so I just brush it away with some excuse cause I was still recovering and didnt want to explain so much and talk so much about it... At that time was just friends
so just wanted some "normal" companionship (gal to watch movie, eat, chat and go out with during weekends)..
Base on the current situation, the relationship just started not long ago only.. maybe about 2 weeks.. so base on that I think just started.. should be not stable yet..
But I have planned to tell her end of the year cause currently she need my help on some of her things badly...
So if I tell her now.. then she could feel quite trap....
Like if she reject me, then she would have problem handling this things because she trusted her to handle those things for her... dont want to let her feel I am holding her ransom..
anyone fall into this situation as me before... or similar.. can share share..
In this case, since it is 2 weeks only, I will hold back for a while. It is not like you are cheating her, but just that you did not tell her you are married before. Of course, everyone wants the truth. But how many can handle it. When you are stable (which maybe just a few months down the road) and when there is nothing else to worry her, then tell her loh. -
Ohh... just make sure one thing - She does not discover it before you tell her. You don't want to give her a permanent scar and thus not trusting you in future.
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U shd tell her since u feel that u are getting along pretty well with her. If she's the conservative type, she may not be able to accept it. Initially she may be shocked by the news, do give her some time to "digest" it.
Good luck! -
rub chiili on eye then act sad talk to her say u didn't want to hide it she sure touched untill accept u ( adapted from pearl harbour )