Why Is It Difficult for Women to Reach an Orgasm?
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Originally posted by Zone.xxx:
She doesn't know her body and doesn't want us to explore...that will be a big problem....sorry that is my problem...
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Originally posted by Zone.xxx:
She doesn't know her body and doesn't want us to explore...that will be a big problem....sorry that is my problem...
need to build more more trust.She may not know her body, but the main reason a girl wouldn't want a guy to explore is that she feels vulnerable. And if daily living already have friction or disagreement, she tends to bring all that negative emotions back into the bedroom. But once you have liberated her from feeling that it's ok to explore her body more, and assure (and assure, and assure) her that you are a considerate lover as well as a devoted and understanding partner in real life, chances are, she will be your most ardent and devoted lover. All these need accumulative understanding and time. Take note that any major conflict will upset all previous cumulative security a lady feels. Women are built to warm up gradually this way, if you want the love included that is.
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Originally posted by deluded:
need to build more more trust.She may not know her body, but the main reason a girl wouldn't want a guy to explore is that she feels vulnerable. And if daily living already have friction or disagreement, she tends to bring all that negative emotions back into the bedroom. But once you have liberated her from feeling that it's ok to explore her body more, and assure (and assure, and assure) her that you are a considerate lover as well as a devoted and understanding partner in real life, chances are, she will be your most ardent and devoted lover. All these need accumulative understanding and time. Take note that any major conflict will upset all previous cumulative security a lady feels. Women are built to warm up gradually this way, if you want the love included that is.
Agree but sometimes all a couple want is non committing sex hence it's all about physical pleasures and non emotional
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This is a hilarious topic. My former sec school classmate. Sec 4 very active with boyfriend, she not cio at all la only act cute. Still she claims that more often than not she climaxes faster than boyf. horny biatch.
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Originally posted by CuckooBird:
This is a hilarious topic. My former sec school classmate. Sec 4 very active with boyfriend, she not cio at all la only act cute. Still she claims that more often than not she climaxes faster than boyf. horny biatch.
I used to have a GF that was very orgasmic. It was very easy for her to cum. It was boring as after she cums she's not interested in pleasing me anymore.
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No leh, a girl I know comes very often when I'm in her. Few stroke will make her climax already. Think must be in contact with the correct spot for better effect on the girl, haha. Conclusion, it's ain't hard to make a girl orgasm, haha.
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Just relax & give in. SIMPLE. Where got hard to come???
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Originally posted by XxYaNxX:
Lol , always blame us girls, change topic name to "Why guys can't satisfy girls "
lol, as explained.. u girls think too much, too stressed up to enjoy =)
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Originally posted by Charles_find_fren:
According to reports, roughly 70% of women don’t reach an orgasm during intercourse. Although that figure in itself is shocking, it also makes you wonder about how many women never orgasm at all (i.e., intercourse or not)!
A lot of flack fall on men on why women don’t experience an orgasm but truth be told, women have a lot to do about this as well whether they realize it or not.
6 Reasons Why Women DON’T Climax
There are many reasons why women don’t reach sexual climax. Some of them maybe men’s faults but a lot can be because of her too…
Foreplay? What foreplay?
Foreplay is extremely important. For women, making love begins in the mind and if you don’t ‘condition’ her mind for sex, then chances are she won’t be sexually reciprocating in bed too. Furthermore, women really do need more time than men to reach an orgasm; so foreplay is actually your way of extending your own sexual stamina.
She’s thinking too much!
Women are natural multi-taskers. Unfortunately, they’re so used to thinking and doing several things at the same time that they find it hard to simply be ‘in the moment’ during sex. If most men can be very ‘in the zone’ during sex, women seem to have various thoughts running through their heads all the time (e.g., home chores that need to be done, kids’ homework, dirty laundry, etc.).
She’s full of… insecurities.
Women have many body image issues. While you may adore her, her mind is probably worried about at least three different things as you undress her: Is the light revealing any cellulite? Are my ‘love handles’ protruding? Does he think my breasts are too small/big?
If body image anxiety is not in her head, then she may be thinking about things such as “I didn’t shower yet, I hope I smell good… especially down there.”, or “I didn’t pee. I hope I don’t embarrass myself.”
ALL these thoughts are making her focus on the wrong things! It’s taking attention away from sexual pleasure and into sexual insecurities. And when a woman is in this mode, it’s almost impossible to her focus on reaching her own climax!
She really doesn’t know her own body.
There is a certain art form to making love to a woman’s body. It really does have a lot of mysterious curves, spots and turns. Sadly, many women don’t indulge in a lot of ‘self exploration’ when it comes to sex. As such, it’s hard to guide you on what makes her feel good or which techniques really turn her on. And really, if she doesn’t know her own body, how can you be expected to instinctively know what brings her pleasure, right?
The best thing is… it’s never too late to learn! Why don’t you BOTH explore her body? Don’t rush anything and try everything. See what turns her on best and use that knowledge to make her reach her orgasm. Make it your sexual quest! However, here are some clues to save you a few steps...http://www.TheFemaleOrgasmRevealed.com
You are not paying attention!
True, men are not mind-readers. Unfortunately, many women are not great communicators in bed as well so we have a little problem here. Compounding this problem is of course that favorite female bedroom habit of ‘faking orgasms’. As a result, YOU think that what you’re doing is great when in reality you may not even be close!
To solve this particular problem, try to develop a certain ‘sexual code’ between you two. For instance, a slight squeeze on your arm means “You’re doing great! Pls. keep doing it!”; while nails on your skin or arm mean “enough of that!”. You will receive more squeezes, however, if you know some important facts. Click here to learn more: http://www.TheFemaleOrgasmRevealed.com
YOU’re changing ‘techniques’ too fast.Men like to try different sexual positions and that’s great but sometimes you may be changing just a bit too fast. Women need to get accustomed to a certain ‘rhythm’ before sexual pleasure begins to climb. If you keep shifting positions, she will either (a) never find the position that brings her an orgasm, (b) lose the sexual pleasure she was experiencing in the previous position or (c) be so frustrated that even if you go back to the same position, she may not be that sexually aroused again.
So keep this in mind: when it comes to female orgasm it’s not just location, location, location… it’s also about repetition, repetition, repetition.
Hopefully this list of potential reasons why your partner is not reaching an orgasm paves the way for discussion between the two of you. Don’t focus on why she’s not reaching an orgasm. Instead, focus on what you guys are going to do, so that she does reach her climax. That’s a more positive approach and lot more fun too! Learn creative and easy ways to do it here: http://www.TheFemaleOrgasmRevealed.com
1. Foreplay is a very basic thingz even if you are in a quickie.
2. You must be able to take her mind away and ensure she is focus only on you.
3. Praise her. Do not look or pass unnecessary remarks that make her feel insecure of her negative points.
4. Do not mention the curves if she don't have instead tell her that you like the smell of her hair or body etc etc things that makes her feels good.
5. Work your way around and know the g-spot. work on it gently and slow.
6. know the progressive build-up. never never rush.
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All so pro...
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You just gotta put your thing at the right spot.
My ex would know a whole of detail than me, since she was the one told me all the crap about sex in the first place. But a good a year and 8 months of sex education does the trick :)
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ladies.. if u really put your mind to it and think about how sexy and heavenly it is to orgasm, then you'll have no problem reaching orgasm...
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Sometimes we guys bo bian leh. U work whole day damn tired look forward to watching EPL with a bottle of ice cold tiger, then miss tigress expect u to give her full time + pre match foreplay. Your mind only got Villarreal vs Man U, how?
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Originally posted by AlessandroTan:
Sex facts 78: Men experience an average of 4-5 erections when asleep.
Me--->>REALLY??? Why the hell will they erect when they are asleep??????That's because an erection is completely unconscious, no matter what the bra-burning feminazis tell you about male rape being impossible.
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Originally posted by DeadWolf:
Sometimes we guys bo bian leh. U work whole day damn tired look forward to watching EPL with a bottle of ice cold tiger, then miss tigress expect u to give her full time + pre match foreplay. Your mind only got Villarreal vs Man U, how?
If this happens I will go down on her, lick her clit, anus and make her cum fast. Then take her from behind and cum fast.
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Originally posted by natas666:
If this happens I will go down on her, lick her clit, anus and make her cum fast. Then take her from behind and cum fast.
wow, u fuck like a bunny? Everything cums fast?? lol......... -
Originally posted by bambina:
wow, u fuck like a bunny? Everything cums fast?? lol.........Not also. Sometimes u just want a fuck and not a love making session
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Originally posted by XxYaNxX:
7. You guys have no clue what you are doing in the bedroom ?
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Not exactly.Foreplay yes.The rest are BS.Why do u wana waste the time with some one who's full of insecurities/think too much/dnt know abt her body etc?
As long as you know where to touch and what to do Orgasm is guaranteed.Well if you can't it's your fault not hers.
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Originally posted by Alucard101:
Not exactly.Foreplay yes.The rest are BS.Why do u wana waste the time with some one who's full of insecurities/think too much/dnt know abt her body etc?
As long as you know where to touch and what to do Orgasm is guaranteed.Well if you can't it's your fault not hers.
Agree. I think it's more important for the guys to go down on the gals than the other way round as we will cum in the pussy anyway.
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you gotta warm up that shit before you attack it. signs of wet pussy lips and swollen lips are one of the first signals to go straight in. romantically-but-sexually fondle and converse with her and you'll give her a 1 way ticket to orgasm land.
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Originally posted by sportsman411:
you gotta warm up that shit before you attack it. signs of wet pussy lips and swollen lips are one of the first signals to go straight in. romantically-but-sexually fondle and converse with her and you'll give her a 1 way ticket to orgasm land.
Work on the clit and u will get her to cum most of the time.
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She can also get very wet while doing bj....
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Originally posted by Zone.xxx:
She can also get very wet while doing bj....
Depends if the gal is into giving head. Not all gals love doing this.
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Originally posted by natas666:
Depends if the gal is into giving head. Not all gals love doing this.
Ya true...have come across friends galfriend who doesn't do bj and also know a couple of ladies who are very decent looking but wild in bed.