Confused about KTV - serious qn; single male going to KTV
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I am feeling very confused lately.
I am 30 years old, single, unmarried, never had a girlfriend before. Only went on a few dates before.
For the past 4-5 years, my poly friends have started taking me to those lup sup KTVs.
I find it very enjoyable but at the same time, I also have a drinking problem; I tend to blackout when i take liquor too fast. It worries me about my health. I have been trying to go to AA meetings.
the ironic thing is that I am a virgin and closest group of friends i hangout with know that - the same group that bring me to KTV.
On last Sat night, celebrating a friend's birthday, i had a blackout after 1 pm - the KTV closed at 3 pm and my friends bought me to a coffeshop where I started puking halfway and I slept with my head on the table anbd lay comatose there till 8 am. I don't remember a thing after 1 pm (because of the blackout). My friends said I tipped the girls higher than the average rate: 2 of them, $70 each. Normal rate was $50. Liquor charges were another $120. There were only 4 of us, so it really hurt the wallet but I have been feeling very lonely and depressed recently.
There was a period of time during a one year period, when I kept going to KTV, then i had a blackout, so I stopped going for a period of 2 years plus, except for a single time in Jan 2015 for another friend's birthday. Last sat night was my second blackout.
Anyway, my question is, for a single, unattached guy like me, with no financial commitments like mortgages, does it make sense for me to enjoy going to KTV?
I was really worried about the black-out; i know it is a drinking problem, but it disturbs me that I cannot recall and I am worried that I may have been too rough, although I was with my friends, so they would have kept a lookout and I think those girls are more than capable of looking out for themselves; plus the mummy was there too.
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Just to add on, I feel that one reason why I keep enjoying to go to KTV was because outside of KTV, i have zero sexual intimacy with anyone. The first time I ever got sexually intimate was when i was bought to KTV.
I am afraid that I have a addiction period, but I do genuinely enjoy it.
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u happy can already
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But it is okay for a single guy to go, right? I was bought up in a strict and conservative environment, I never had sexual intimacy with anyone till my friends bought me to KTV.
People whom don't know me that well think i am a nerdy goody two-shoes.
Money-wise, it does hurt but I hardly spend my salary on anything else (no shopping, designer goods for me). I was just worried that during the time I had a blackout, I was too rough or inappropriate (although I know the word inappropriate seems strange where KTV is concerned).
I am a bit embarassed about my drinking issue, my friends say that everytime I get drunk, I turn into a utter mess.
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but, are u happy?
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Happy; yes, although I am worried about what happened during the blackout episodes. i know KTV is services-for-money , but even so, i prefer not to be a total brute.
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I somewhat remember my friend telling me to be nicer (while in the KTV). I don't remember anything after, all I know is that once I realized where I was, it was 8 am in a coffeeshop in the middle of nowhere. I remember taking a taxi after that and fell asleep.
I am very scared that I did something really bad. Also what if I did something illegal or immoral to someone else? I understand this sounds ridculous, considering that i was in a lup sup KTV, my friends were with me and the KTV bouncers were there as well I don't know how I would react to these potential actions. I could've done something bad to somebody and not even know.
My gut is telling me that I di nothing wrong (so far as wrong in the lup sup KTV context) so nothing probably happened. I was probbaly just doing what most men do in a lup sup KTV and eventually got home. However, I am terrified that something may have happened, I am thinking getting an STD test in a month to make sure I'm OK. I have been very troubled by all of this and it is all I can think about.
Is it just my imagination that is driving me crazy, or do I have reason for concern?
I haven't been able to focus on anything since the incident. I wonder if I need to to get tested for piece of mind, but I don't know how to get it off of my mind during the window period.
Any support or advice would be greatly appreciated. -
I have been trying to talk to my friends to collect or recollect my memories; but they weren't really helpful.......they did say i was rough but but it was still okay.
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is it possible to go to lup sup KTV and yet, not drink?
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Originally posted by Confused and Lonely:
is it possible to go to lup sup KTV and yet, not drink?
if u can tahan the others' taunting
or, dont go at all
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Originally posted by Confused and Lonely:
is it possible to go to lup sup KTV and yet, not drink?
Still quite worried about my blackouts.
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Originally posted by FireIce:
if u can tahan the others' taunting
or, dont go at all
I guess that to tahan is very tough; in an environment like a lup sup KTV, where there is alcohol and females, things tend to go wrong.
I guess that my problem is that because of my blackout, it feels like part of my life was lost- like it was amnesia; there is also this underlying fear that i might have hurt somebody, although
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Ok, so sorry; the moderator asked me to return to this thread, so I am doing so.
Anyway, here is it:
Those of you following my posts would know that I had a recent blackout (alcohol-induced amnesia) at a lup sup KTV.
I was rather bothered by the incideent and have been trying very hard to re-trace my steps and actions and trying very hard to re-collect my memory.
Anyway, my friend recently asked me if I wanted to go again and I say yes. But my real underlying motive is to see if I can re-collect my memory and also see if I could meet the 2 girls again, out of a fear and worry that I may have been too rough.
While it is true that I have gone to lup sup KTV before, I have never booked one before; it has always been my friend whom has booked and arranged.
So sorry to ask so many questions, but I really have no one else to ask or to turn to.
However, this time round, he asked my to make the booking and arrangement (he knows I am in a bind over my state of distress).
He gave me the hp number of the mummy and he asked me to book the room and check the price.
Just curious, why can't I book through the KTV itself? They themselves have numbers.
Is there any kind of risk in booking through the mummy instead of the KTV itself
What is the SOP or protocol for making sich a booking?
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so the mummy gets commission lah
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Originally posted by Confused and Lonely:
Just curious, why can't I book through the KTV itself? They themselves have numbers.
Standard one ma, book thru mummy can draw commission ma.
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Why don't you try other 'healthy' sport like swimming, exercise in the gym or dancing etc for example if you are so desperate to make friends with girl?
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l like this topic
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try dating site lo :p
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save your money. play a sport. maybe you'll even meet a girl there. good luck.
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Save your wallet, stop ktv awhile. Those gals are vampire.
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not relli the girls but the boss
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advice u stop going...waste money
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there's no need to sing well
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there is no need to sing
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Go there play and fun