need serious advice. jerks stay out, thank you.
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I have such a friend, she's a busy woman...I send her the occasional e-mail to give her an update, and I usually get a reply.
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If its one sided thing , I don't even think of going into a relationship with that person . A relationship takes two hands to clap , you cant clap with only one hand if you know what I mean. This is what I always believe. I hate one-sided conversations and affair .Originally posted by starblue:say you have this friend, who is rather special to you. but cos other things happened, and it got rather ambiguous between you two. but still, that person is still special to you, though now u can't be sure if you're special to that person.
and now, that person's always saying that he/she will always be there when u call for help or company or wadever. it's just that he/she will not initiate to call you. so it's like a one sided thing...
how wud you feel??
cos i'm not sure what i should be feelin.. lolz.. -
so starpuppy not allowed ?Originally posted by starblue:damn... i should have put "jerks and dogs not allowed"...
sigh... i dunno how i should be feeling, to be ke you ke wu in a person's life.
anyway i think best way is to tell him your feelings and see what he says no need to guess here guess there -
another new face.. why do i keep getting new faces recently??Originally posted by Airbus330Captain:If its one sided thing , I don't even think of going into a relationship with that person . A relationship takes two hands to clap , you cant clap with only one hand if you know what I mean. This is what I always believe. I hate one-sided conversations and affair .
no lah.. not into a r/s lah...haiz... dun wanna say no more lah...
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wrong. the problem is guys are beginning to be more like girls, pretend he is a girl, i think you will understand.. better.Originally posted by starblue:i do not understand guys... -_-" -
i told him how i feel about him making this a one sided thing. but well.. he just insists on just bein there for me though he will not initiate calls...Originally posted by hisoka:so starpuppy not allowed ?
anyway i think best way is to tell him your feelings and see what he says no need to guess here guess there -
Did he say why not?Originally posted by starblue:i told him how i feel about him making this a one sided thing. but well.. he just insists on just bein there for me though he will not initiate calls... -
oh. so you told him how you feel already?Originally posted by starblue:i told him how i feel about him making this a one sided thing. but well.. he just insists on just bein there for me though he will not initiate calls... -
he just says he just wants to lead his life like that. dun wanna initiate calls for anyone. plain lazy he says...
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Don't bother him for now....
Let him sort out his thoughts....
After some time, then see how lor....
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What the??Originally posted by starblue:he just says he just wants to lead his life like that. dun wanna initiate calls for anyone. plain lazy he says...
I think he sounds weird. -
whats teh meaning of dun want to initiate calls? thats the exact words he used? weird way of phrasing it. anyway i guess if that what he said then he means he no interested lorOriginally posted by starblue:he just says he just wants to lead his life like that. dun wanna initiate calls for anyone. plain lazy he says... -
so what exactly is your question little girl? How you should react? Or what is he thinking? etc etc..
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its anything but lazy.Originally posted by starblue:he just says he just wants to lead his life like that. dun wanna initiate calls for anyone. plain lazy he says... -
tat just means u are in luck. ^^Originally posted by starblue:lolz... i think he means it.. sigh... dunno lah... -
another new face kaypo.. if u dun mind.Originally posted by starblue:he just says he just wants to lead his life like that. dun wanna initiate calls for anyone. plain lazy he says...
situation sounds very dangerous for you worr.. cos if this goes on, soon u'll become his spare tyre, if he lonely then he'll come and find you.
according to Newton's Law of (e)Motion: where things at rest tends to remains at rest. If you dun do anything to push him, and he blames everything on laziness, then nothing will move.
I've seen quite a few r/s where they are locked in such a situation for a loooong time.. where one party ai mai ai mai, the other party just hang ard and wait til he decides. In the meantime the status quo is very blurry. Are u sure that's what you want? -
girl...Originally posted by starblue:he just says he just wants to lead his life like that. dun wanna initiate calls for anyone. plain lazy he says...
i hate to say this...
but... he's juz not tat into you...
time to move on with your life... -
Is this the friend you are really close too above all others and you depend on most of the time?
Cause only this type of ppl who act that way They want to show u that without them u can never live happily and what u to realise the importance of them in your life. -
I have a principle in life
Don't read too much into people's words Sometimes they just blurt it out without really meaning it...
Anyway just see when you are in trouble that time, will he come over and help or not...
Actions speak louder than words
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This guy seems to have issues.I mean, if I tell a girl that i'll be there for here, then it'll never cross my mind whether who should call and stuff like that.It's just immature and childish on that guy's part.Originally posted by starblue:i told him how i feel about him making this a one sided thing. but well.. he just insists on just bein there for me though he will not initiate calls...
Why is he afraid to initiate calls?Is he shy?If so, then why did he promise to take care of you?Maybe he cares for you but is afraid that you will not reciprocate so he wants to appear nonchalant but concerned, just to prepare himself for any disappointment.
I might have been blunt..so please don't take any offence yeah.
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Seemed like you're ready to advance in this friendship till he did the retreat.Originally posted by starblue:say you have this friend, who is rather special to you. but cos other things happened, and it got rather ambiguous between you two. but still, that person is still special to you, though now u can't be sure if you're special to that person.
and now, that person's always saying that he/she will always be there when u call for help or company or wadever. it's just that he/she will not initiate to call you. so it's like a one sided thing...
how wud you feel??
cos i'm not sure what i should be feelin.. lolz..
Care to eleborate what are 'cos other things happened'?
I believe it'll shed more light to this present situation.
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(I'm male) I think I understand his thinking. Tai jian dan le!He's trying to say that he wants to remain good friends with you, but also wants you to know that he treats you as a friend and not anything MORE (i.e. romance). Since you've no such intention either, I think it should be ok for you...Originally posted by starblue:say you have this friend, who is rather special to you. but cos other things happened, and it got rather ambiguous between you two. but still, that person is still special to you, though now u can't be sure if you're special to that person.
and now, that person's always saying that he/she will always be there when u call for help or company or wadever. it's just that he/she will not initiate to call you. so it's like a one sided thing...
how wud you feel??
cos i'm not sure what i should be feelin.. lolz.. -
If he's a special fren, wat harm is there to call him. Not calling u does not mean he's still upset with u wrt the watever-incident-which-u-didnt-specify. Maybe he doesnt need to confide in u or maybe he's juz not too comfortable to confide in u.
If he's THE special guy, i dun see why ladies cant take the 1st step. I know girls like guys to be the one taking the initiative, but guys do have their issues. Some are shy. Some are plain unaware of ur attention n affection. Or some guys, like me, juz couldnt give a damn.
Anyway, a one-sided r/s isnt gonna work out. Is either u try harder to catch his attention or u juz have to move onto another guy.
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It'll help if u do give us more details. It'll shed more light n allow us to give better 2-cents worth.Originally posted by M©+square:Seemed like you're ready to advance in this friendship till he did the retreat.
Care to eleborate what are 'cos other things happened'?
I believe it'll shed more light to this present situation.
Something must have triggered this.
If u mind jerks n dogs peeking, u could PM those whom u feel u r comfortable with. -
lolz.. one thing i wanna get straight is, i am not intending to go into a r/s with this guy ok??? and he neither. and we both know that very well...
see, this guy is one of the very very few guys i actually rely on when i have problems... even though certain things didn't work out last time, i still wan him as a special friend. cos, well.. i really, really dun go relying on a lot of people.. lolz...
i know that if i call him for company, or ask him out to meet me cos i am very upset, he will come. because i asked him.
but i dun get why he insists on not calling me, or even an sms... it's like, if i really dun call or sms him anymore, he wouldn't do anything about it... just let me disppear...
i dunno, but i dun like this feeling... maybe i'm just being too.... i dunno.. haha... wonder if anybody can tell me what's going on with him. and if i really should just let it go...