i need guy's views on this
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say you once loved this girl a lot, even though you dunno why. you dun really do things with her, or talk to her face to face. but somehow there is chemistry. the two of you tried to get together, but there are always problems. fate just keeps playing with you. you havent met her for 6 plus months, you stopped smsing or calling her for 1 month (and she also dun contact you).
can you still say you love her and want her back after so long of no-contact? what is your "love" founded on since the two of you never really got down to facing each other, not really in each other's lives, right from the beginning?
i do not understand how a guy can still say so adamantly that he still loves a girl he hasnt met for so long or made contact for so long. the "love" doesnt seem.... solid enough. one can not see where it came from, neither where it is going.... -
He just lost another girl, n that's y he loves you now.......Originally posted by starblue:say you once loved this girl a lot, even though you dunno why. you dun really do things with her, or talk to her face to face. but somehow there is chemistry. the two of you tried to get together, but there are always problems. fate just keeps playing with you. you havent met her for 6 plus months, you stopped smsing or calling her for 1 month (and she also dun contact you).
can you still say you love her and want her back after so long of no-contact? what is your "love" founded on since the two of you never really got down to facing each other, not really in each other's lives, right from the beginning?
i do not understand how a guy can still say so adamantly that he still loves a girl he hasnt met for so long or made contact for so long. the "love" doesnt seem.... solid enough. one can not see where it came from, neither where it is going.... -
Are you talking to me?Originally posted by starblue:say you once loved this girl a lot, even though you dunno why. you dun really do things with her, or talk to her face to face. but somehow there is chemistry. the two of you tried to get together, but there are always problems. fate just keeps playing with you. you havent met her for 6 plus months, you stopped smsing or calling her for 1 month (and she also dun contact you).
can you still say you love her and want her back after so long of no-contact? what is your "love" founded on since the two of you never really got down to facing each other, not really in each other's lives, right from the beginning?
i do not understand how a guy can still say so adamantly that he still loves a girl he hasnt met for so long or made contact for so long. the "love" doesnt seem.... solid enough. one can not see where it came from, neither where it is going....
Seriously, everyone's definition of "love" is different. What's to say that a guy's "love" is different from a gal's?
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i dun understand you, cool...
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dcx's right. but it also depends on whether the ger likes the guy?Originally posted by starblue:say you once loved this girl a lot, even though you dunno why. you dun really do things with her, or talk to her face to face. but somehow there is chemistry. the two of you tried to get together, but there are always problems. fate just keeps playing with you. you havent met her for 6 plus months, you stopped smsing or calling her for 1 month (and she also dun contact you).
can you still say you love her and want her back after so long of no-contact? what is your "love" founded on since the two of you never really got down to facing each other, not really in each other's lives, right from the beginning?
i do not understand how a guy can still say so adamantly that he still loves a girl he hasnt met for so long or made contact for so long. the "love" doesnt seem.... solid enough. one can not see where it came from, neither where it is going.... -
u juz registered to make ur 1st post here??Originally posted by bluewinged:dcx's right. but it also depends on whether the ger likes the guy? -
which girl u toking abt??Originally posted by bluewinged:dcx's right. but it also depends on whether the ger likes the guy? -
prob is, he doesnt know if the girl still loves him.. cos so long never contact le, anythig can happen wad.. she could have gotten another guy in her heart... but he still go and tell her he wants another chance.. why?? how can he be sure what he feels for her is true love?
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Sorry, maybe I haven wake up yet....Originally posted by starblue:i dun understand you, cool... -
The reason i could think of is, he doesn't need to know whether you still love him or not...needless to say, true love??Originally posted by starblue:prob is, he doesnt know if the girl still loves him.. cos so long never contact le, anythig can happen wad.. she could have gotten another guy in her heart... but he still go and tell her he wants another chance.. why?? how can he be sure what he feels for her is true love?
What i view is that, he could have broke off with another girl not long ago, n maybe knowing that you're still single, so he came back to look for you...at least the chances of you going back to him is higher.... -
lets take food for example...
if i cldnt tell u how a food, which has a taste beyond any words to describe, taste like, how are you gona know how i exactly feel? Only I know how it feels...likewise...if u were to taste it yourself ; note that everyone has different tastes and likings..
But sometimes, i cld be deceiving myself cos my favourite brand of food might nt be as good as it used to be.... -
what if he doesnt have a girl?? what if he says he has loved the gal right from the beginning, even during the time they smsed each other as friends??Originally posted by dcx:The reason i could think of is, he doesn't need to know whether you still love him or not...needless to say, true love??
What i view is that, he could have broke off with another girl not long ago, n maybe knowing that you're still single, so he came back to look for you...at least the chances of you going back to him is higher.... -
Eh...I am not a guy...but can I still answer?
Well, maybe now he is feeling lonely and he thinks you might be right for him? Or maybe he thought abt what you have done for him before and is now touched, and decided to be with you after all? -
I dunno....everyone has different cases...i'm just stating the worst case...Originally posted by starblue:what if he doesnt have a girl?? what if he says he has loved the gal right from the beginning, even during the time they smsed each other as friends??
Ok..to reply your above post,
How do you know if he has or not a girl????
sms????
ooi..starblue, I love you~!
Well...you tell me~
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In red, I'm with you.Originally posted by rainee:Eh...I am not a guy...but can I still answer?
Well, maybe now he is feeling lonely and he thinks you might be right for him? Or maybe he thought abt what you have done for him before and is now touched, and decided to be with you after all?
In blue, i'm not.
Frankly speaking, personal views abt this, i juz feel that she's the spare tyre...ya.....spare tyre.... -
Sigh...Originally posted by dcx:In red, I'm with you.
In blue, i'm not.
Frankly speaking, personal views abt this, i juz feel that she's the spare tyre...ya.....spare tyre....
A bit like my ex-crush...I think now he dun have that many frens here in my dorm, so keep finding me to talk...last time when i was still crushed on him, call him to talk also bo hiu
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Well...what can i say? U already know yoourself better than anyone else....in fact, you've encountered it b4...Originally posted by rainee:Sigh...
A bit like my ex-crush...I think now he dun have that many frens here in my dorm, so keep finding me to talk...last time when i was still crushed on him, call him to talk also bo hiu -
starblue ah...I think for now, just treat him as frens first k? See how he is as time goes by...cos later become like me, very cham one...Originally posted by dcx:Well...what can i say? U already know yoourself better than anyone else....in fact, you've encountered it b4... -
humans.. u tend to neglect things tt come as granted.. but when it's gone.. u'll wanna chase it back..
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ya...agreed with you...Originally posted by rainee:starblue ah...I think for now, just treat him as frens first k? See how he is as time goes by...cos later become like me, very cham one...
Treat him as a fren 1st n see if he'll work harder to win u back or fade away n give up....
You've to see if this time round whether if he's sincere abt getting back with you or not....
You see, during the period of 6mths, y didn't he come back to you?? Why after 6mths then he's so "serious" abt wanting you back??
I've stated my point of views in my above posts...well...they might not be true for your case, or they might be....but i'm just speaking from experience... -
sadly this is true...Originally posted by ^HaRu^: humans.. u tend to neglect things tt come as granted.. but when it's gone.. u'll wanna chase it back..
sometimes, when we already have something, we will lose interest and take it for granted.
Human beings always want something that they can't have or haven't had
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Human nature?Originally posted by rainee:sadly this is true...
sometimes, when we already have something, we will lose interest and take it for granted.
Human beings always want something that they can't have or haven't had -
lets just say that when we have something we tend to forget their importanceOriginally posted by dcx:Human nature?
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forget??? hMz...i would say, Neglect bah...Originally posted by StarPuppy:lets just say that when we have something we tend to forget their importance -
its also pretty common in life and relationship between parents and friendsOriginally posted by dcx:forget??? hMz...i would say, Neglect bah...