Nightmare from parents again
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It is sad that I have learned how to look forward to my parent's call with a thought of disdain. Because it would always be full of arguments and shouting. It would always reminds me of how little they trust me. I know they love me a lot, but the trust and understanding element is just now there.
Like for how many times I have told them not to call early in the morning at my place, because I would prolly be sleeping. Still they always chose to call at 7am. Never mind, I will forgive them on this one since they might have forgotten how to do the time conversion and everything. But it is fact that I have told them a lot of times about how to do it but they will still forget and call me at 7am anyway. So I have since learnt how to deal with that and shut up about this issue.
The conversation will usually start slow and smooth. My mom would be dishing out all sorts of advices, asking me how I am doing, bla bla bla. That is just the calm before the storm. Before long, they would start to ask about how I am doing in school and when I told them my results, they would not believe me. This morning, what they asked of me is just simply ridiculous. They asked me to give them all the passwords that I am using so that they can log into my school account and check my grades for me. No matter what I told them, they insisted and a big verbal fight ensues.
I am really tired of all this lack of trust and understanding.
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hmm how come they don't trust your grades? you tell them the grades too good isit?Originally posted by rainee:It is sad that I have learned how to look forward to my parent's call with a thought of disdain. Because it would always be full of arguments and shouting. It would always reminds me of how little they trust me. I know they love me a lot, but the trust and understanding element is just now there.
Like for how many times I have told them not to call early in the morning at my place, because I would prolly be sleeping. Still they always chose to call at 7am. Never mind, I will forgive them on this one since they might have forgotten how to do the time conversion and everything. But it is fact that I have told them a lot of times about how to do it but they will still forget and call me at 7am anyway. So I have since learnt how to deal with that and shut up about this issue.
The conversation will usually start slow and smooth. My mom would be dishing out all sorts of advices, asking me how I am doing, bla bla bla. That is just the calm before the storm. Before long, they would start to ask about how I am doing in school and when I told them my results, they would not believe me. This morning, what they asked of me is just simply ridiculous. They asked me to give them all the passwords that I am using so that they can log into my school account and check my grades for me. No matter what I told them, they insisted and a big verbal fight ensues.
I am really tired of all this lack of trust and understanding. 
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too bad la...Originally posted by hisoka:hmm how come they don't trust your grades? you tell them the grades too good isit? 
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she is missing you lah. just take it as she showing concern for u.
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Yes I know...but she is demanding me to give her ridiculuos stuff leh...if I dun give they will get angry at me, if I give I might get into trouble....very hard leh...Originally posted by 798:she is missing you lah. just take it as she showing concern for u.
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hmm fax or email them the transcript lor ig uess must be you used to do much better then.Originally posted by rainee:too bad la...
anyway they your parents no choice lah put up with it lor -
Already sent leh...then they dun believe me, they want to log into my account and see the grades on the comp themselves...Originally posted by hisoka:hmm fax or email them the transcript lor ig uess must be you used to do much better then.
anyway they your parents no choice lah put up with it lor
They have too high expectations of me...my studies not easy one lor...sum more it is something I dun like to do... -
Haiz.. kinda know how u feel. Same sentiments. Poor mei.. n poor me..
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give wrong passwords lor..then if they ask, say school computer problemOriginally posted by rainee:Yes I know...but she is demanding me to give her ridiculuos stuff leh...if I dun give they will get angry at me, if I give I might get into trouble....very hard leh... -
haiz... i also cannot stand this kinda thing.. it's not just mistrust.. it's also infringing on privacy, which is a terrible crime in my eyes... rainee jie... you have my deepest sympathies... i will be here to listen to your woes ok??? but i really dunno wad to say liao... if i say "dun worry too much, they do that cos they care about you", then i also wun believe it myself.. cos i know i will get very upset if it happens to me... but if i say, "wah kao, your parents ah... super *&^#^$&*@(^" then also not nice lah...
haiz... god be with you... -
y if u give will get into trouble leh? Did u lie about ur results?
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Yea.. infringing into my privacy has always been a touchy issue. The conflicts could get very bad.Originally posted by starblue:haiz... i also cannot stand this kinda thing.. it's not just mistrust.. it's also infringing on privacy, which is a terrible crime in my eyes... rainee jie... you have my deepest sympathies... i will be here to listen to your woes ok??? but i really dunno wad to say liao... if i say "dun worry too much, they do that cos they care about you", then i also wun believe it myself.. cos i know i will get very upset if it happens to me... but if i say, "wah kao, your parents ah... super *&^#^$&*@(^" then also not nice lah...
haiz... god be with you...
But hey, there is this saying, "If they are not annoying n meddlesome, then they are not ur parents." -
u noe la... some parents.. limited com knowledge ma... then maybe they will write down the ID and pwd somewhere... then ask someone help them log in to see.. which could lead to disaster...Originally posted by browniebaobao:y if u give will get into trouble leh? Did u lie about ur results?
to rainee : i 2nd oxford mushroom's suggestion.. but it would prolly oni work if they were com idiots.. -
no lah must be got some secrets of hers that may be mentioned in the emails and she scared her parents know. maybe like she got pregnant b4 or something?Originally posted by nOrmalbOi:u noe la... some parents.. limited com knowledge ma... then maybe they will write down the ID and pwd somewhere... then ask someone help them log in to see.. which could lead to disaster...
to rainee : i 2nd oxford mushroom's suggestion.. but it would prolly oni work if they were com idiots.. -
no hor...Originally posted by hisoka:no lah must be got some secrets of hers that may be mentioned in the emails and she scared her parents know. maybe like she got pregnant b4 or something?
They are just paranoid...they have this concept of me going out to party every day and night and not studying...which is just so not me... -
Eh, they dun have a computer at home, they always go cyber cafe to use de...then you know those place might have keylogger or dunno what, then others might get hold of my p/w...and I use almost the same password for all my other stuff...if ppl get hold of that, very jia lat leh...Originally posted by browniebaobao:y if u give will get into trouble leh? Did u lie about ur results? -
haha.. my case is not with my parents.. but my aunt, screw parent connect. this advancement in technology is such a pain. every single homework or quiz/test/grade is shown on this stupid gay programme called parent connect.. OMFG. although im not that bad of a student, i just don't like this system because of people like my aunt.. who likes perfection and all that Stupid Shit.Originally posted by rainee:It is sad that I have learned how to look forward to my parent's call with a thought of disdain. Because it would always be full of arguments and shouting. It would always reminds me of how little they trust me. I know they love me a lot, but the trust and understanding element is just now there.
Like for how many times I have told them not to call early in the morning at my place, because I would prolly be sleeping. Still they always chose to call at 7am. Never mind, I will forgive them on this one since they might have forgotten how to do the time conversion and everything. But it is fact that I have told them a lot of times about how to do it but they will still forget and call me at 7am anyway. So I have since learnt how to deal with that and shut up about this issue.
The conversation will usually start slow and smooth. My mom would be dishing out all sorts of advices, asking me how I am doing, bla bla bla. That is just the calm before the storm. Before long, they would start to ask about how I am doing in school and when I told them my results, they would not believe me. This morning, what they asked of me is just simply ridiculous. They asked me to give them all the passwords that I am using so that they can log into my school account and check my grades for me. No matter what I told them, they insisted and a big verbal fight ensues.
I am really tired of all this lack of trust and understanding.
what the Fuck, i failed a quiz once because i had to transfer classes as my counsellor put me in the wrong class to begin with, when i joined the new class, it was on a friday, and my teacher told me there was a test on monday. oh joy, i missed 5 days of lessons and im supposed to take a test on monday. i asked if she could at least postpone it to tuesday but she wouldnt, in the end, i had to take the damn test on monday, and fail it.
overall, my grade for that class is still an A, as i got a 100 for my next test, which accounts for about 70 % of the grade, quizes are 15 %, homework is 10% and participation is 5%. considering my homework and participation is full marks, my average is currently 96, and my aunt has to Bitch about my failure for the quiz. -
If I had such aunt, I will probably be better off deadOriginally posted by coffeeortea:haha.. my case is not with my parents.. but my aunt, screw parent connect. this advancement in technology is such a pain. every single homework or quiz/test/grade is shown on this stupid gay programme called parent connect.. OMFG. although im not that bad of a student, i just don't like this system because of people like my aunt.. who likes perfection and all that Stupid Shit.
what the Fuck, i failed a quiz once because i had to transfer classes as my counsellor put me in the wrong class to begin with, when i joined the new class, it was on a friday, and my teacher told me there was a test on monday. oh joy, i missed 5 days of lessons and im supposed to take a test on monday. i asked if she could at least postpone it to tuesday but she wouldnt, in the end, i had to take the damn test on monday, and fail it.
overall, my grade for that class is still an A, as i got a 100 for my next test, which accounts for about 70 % of the grade, quizes are 15 %, homework is 10% and participation is 5%. considering my homework and participation is full marks, my average is currently 96, and my aunt has to Bitch about my failure for the quiz.
Or she will kill me anyway -
hmm maybe if you want to let them to see but scared complications can ask them to find some one you trust(a relative/brother etc?) and use their comp. that or just change your pass temporarily then give to themOriginally posted by rainee:Eh, they dun have a computer at home, they always go cyber cafe to use de...then you know those place might have keylogger or dunno what, then others might get hold of my p/w...and I use almost the same password for all my other stuff...if ppl get hold of that, very jia lat leh... -
woah.. yeah, why not print out and mail them your results or something? since they are that concerned.Originally posted by rainee:Eh, they dun have a computer at home, they always go cyber cafe to use de...then you know those place might have keylogger or dunno what, then others might get hold of my p/w...and I use almost the same password for all my other stuff...if ppl get hold of that, very jia lat leh... -
kids nowadays... i cant blame em parents. Its not about not trusting you.. its more like so many shiet happening around them that it will affect thier judgement and they get paranoid. U gotta put urself in thier shoes. But it can get furstrating when they intrude on your privacy.. especially stuffs like this. Its pretty much the same as your mum opening your bank statement even though u are self sufficient and a working person..now THAT sucks!
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she said she sent to them already but it seems her parents got trust problems, that or she appears untrustworthyOriginally posted by coffeeortea:woah.. yeah, why not print out and mail them your results or something? since they are that concerned.
oh yeah your aunt hor jsut ignore her lah she want to say let her say lor does it matter? -
i think ur parents could be receiving some lousy advice from neighbours or relatives or friends...
cuz normally how would they know about passwords and school accounts and grades online etc...must be some people "tiao po li chian"....dun "san pah" aunties, etc...
all the more you should communicate more with your parents. AND TRY not to FLARE up when chatting with your parents.
Next time, observe who is the person who flare up first, if its your parents, then you tell them they should not, if its you, then you should tone down and control yourself.
my 20cents worth.
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hmm... it seems like to marry rainee is gonna be something like meeting Hera in her parlour while Zeus is away...
Oh God... make me a Hercules... -
Ic.. then maybe try to print out ur results and mail to them lor.Originally posted by rainee:Eh, they dun have a computer at home, they always go cyber cafe to use de...then you know those place might have keylogger or dunno what, then others might get hold of my p/w...and I use almost the same password for all my other stuff...if ppl get hold of that, very jia lat leh...
And it's not advisable to use same passwords for ur accounts. I have different userid and password for everything.