i am exasperated.
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hmmm... is it?? maybe through phone calls only lah... i mean hor.. online anything also can fake one mah...Originally posted by alexkusu:everyone comes clean with time.
still... i think there will be a difference one... at least i know i am liddat de lah... lolz.. it's already very difficult to know the real me in real life, much less through msn and phone chats.. ah well... who ask him to come and re wo.. his problem. loh... hahaha...
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*starts singing are you gonna be my girl*..Originally posted by starblue:aiya.. now still too early to say anything lah...
*ps.. actually is because ah, if i say yes i will join the trend, i scared later i get all sorts of pms to ask me to be their gal... muahahahaha.....
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some people find it easier to see thru others really..only need abit of time...Originally posted by starblue:hmmm... is it?? maybe through phone calls only lah... i mean hor.. online anything also can fake one mah...
still... i think there will be a difference one... at least i know i am liddat de lah... lolz.. it's already very difficult to know the real me in real life, much less through msn and phone chats.. ah well... who ask him to come and re wo.. his problem. loh... hahaha... -
A person cannot enter if the door is not opened
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Originally posted by stellazio:*starts singing are you gonna be my girl*..
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wad you mean??Originally posted by alexkusu:A person cannot enter if the door is not opened -
One can only fake his/her identity or behaviour if he/she isn't heard or seen.Originally posted by starblue:hmmm.. you say liddat also correct lah. but what if you are not the real you online and in real life??? i mean, certain things you can say online but not in real life de mah.. if when you realy meet up, and you find that the real him/her is quite different from the one you know online. then how???
I would recommend that both parties own a web cam. With web cam, it is almost 99.99% impossible for the other party to fake his/her identity, since the camera captures every single move he/she makes. That includes eye contacts.
Plus, I would recommend also, that both parties should get Skype so as to make the communication smoother and easier. It's like what my darling said, communication, effort and time commitment are very important factors when it comes to this sort of relationship. -
everything is possible as someone has said earlier
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Hmm, less easy to fake when there is real time talking involved...cos even if there is just a slight pause in his response, then you will know that he is lying...Originally posted by starblue:hmmm... is it?? maybe through phone calls only lah... i mean hor.. online anything also can fake one mah...
still... i think there will be a difference one... at least i know i am liddat de lah... lolz.. it's already very difficult to know the real me in real life, much less through msn and phone chats.. ah well... who ask him to come and re wo.. his problem. loh... hahaha...
of cos when just chatting online, it is easier to disguise your response, cos no real time reply is needed -
he probably meant that if you dont give the guy a chance, the guy can never get to youOriginally posted by starblue:wad you mean?? -
This is true...it takes two hands to clapOriginally posted by coffeeortea:he probably meant that if you dont give the guy a chance, the guy can never get to you
What I think is, be it online or real life, it is still a r/s once you go into it. There are people who belittle online r/s, thinking that it wun involve real feelings, so it can be started and terminated anytime they want. But I can say that real emotions are involved... -
great..no need 4 me 2 explain wat i said
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err actually i was thinkin more along the lines of starblue's nature..Originally posted by coffeeortea:he probably meant that if you dont give the guy a chance, the guy can never get to you
nvm, its open to interpretations.
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You can give your own interpretation osoOriginally posted by alexkusu:err actually i was thinkin more along the lines of starblue's nature..
nvm, its open to interpretations.
Ambiguity is my friend. -
everything must have a start. why can't online dating start a real relationship? it is a wonderful thing to have someone you care about. even if he is just a screen name on a monitor. just follow your heart starblue.
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this thread is now a Featured Topic...
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who featured this thread??
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must be people voted for it to be featuredOriginally posted by starblue: who featured this thread??
There is a yes no button after the first post. -
i wonder if the same person can vote for it again and again or there is sth that will let people vote only once
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Hahaha... I tried that before but then each person can only vote once.Originally posted by rainee:i wonder if the same person can vote for it again and again or there is sth that will let people vote only once -
as for the pausing before speaking/typing...
it doesn't necessary always mean or indicate the other party is lying. sometimes i need to pause to think of the hidden messages, read the emotions involved, think of what's to be said, avoid conflict.
on the other side of coin, prompt replies might be more truthful, but could be less tactful, not as well worded - leading to misunderstandings. and i'm an easy victim to myself
have 2 learn to think more b4 i speak. 
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back to e original topic.Originally posted by Cinderella.:... it is a wonderful thing to have someone you care about. even if he is just a screen name on a monitor. just follow your heart starblue.
even it's just a screen name, it's quite a wonderful thing to have someone who cares abt u - hidden agendas and motives aside. assess the situation, take your time, decide for yourself.
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Yea, so you have more time to consider, therefore more time to create white lies as to avoid conflict.Originally posted by wa|th3r:as for the pausing before speaking/typing...
it doesn't necessary always mean or indicate the other party is lying. sometimes i need to pause to think of the hidden messages, read the emotions involved, think of what's to be said, avoid conflict.
on the other side of coin, prompt replies might be more truthful, but could be less tactful, not as well worded - leading to misunderstandings. and i'm an easy victim to myself have 2 learn to think more b4 i speak.
Maybe I am weird, but I would rather my huney to be honest with me than to create something that would sound pleasing to my ears but aint true...cos I would find out about it sooner or later. By then, it wud hurt me even more. -
lol not here la...she already happily attached ma to someone in real lifeOriginally posted by wa|th3r:back to e original topic.
even it's just a screen name, it's quite a wonderful thing to have someone who cares abt u - hidden agendas and motives aside. assess the situation, take your time, decide for yourself.
take care not to run into a pervert. 
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i think he is taking to me... not the one who wrote the post.Originally posted by rainee:lol not here la...she already happily attached ma to someone in real life
anyway, everything is seriously too early to tell. but man... he is starting to say mushy things and i dun really know how to handle it...