i am exasperated.
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first of all, how long have u been talking to him?Originally posted by starblue:i think he is taking to me... not the one who wrote the post.
anyway, everything is seriously too early to tell. but man... he is starting to say mushy things and i dun really know how to handle it...
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since june i think... on msn lah... but he first pmed me two weeks before that.Originally posted by rainee:first of all, how long have u been talking to him? -
wa PM...meaning...it is sumone over here?Originally posted by starblue:since june i think... on msn lah... but he first pmed me two weeks before that. -
not someone over here cannot pm meh. i just used a word you all familiar here mah.Originally posted by rainee:wa PM...meaning...it is sumone over here? -
ok, is that person in spore? Or from sum other places?Originally posted by starblue:not someone over here cannot pm meh. i just used a word you all familiar here mah. -
yah. in singapore.Originally posted by rainee:ok, is that person in spore? Or from sum other places? -
ok...got talk on the phone liao or not?Originally posted by starblue:yah. in singapore. -
erm.. a few times.. like... 3, 4 times lah...Originally posted by rainee:ok...got talk on the phone liao or not?
and dun ask me to meet him and that will solved everything. cos i dun plan to do that in another year or two. i have a thing about meeting guys i know from online. he knows it also. but he kept saying he willl wait.....
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how old is he? studying now or working?Originally posted by starblue:erm.. a few times.. like... 3, 4 times lah...
and dun ask me to meet him and that will solved everything. cos i dun plan to do that in another year or two. i have a thing about meeting guys i know from online. he knows it also. but he kept saying he willl wait.....
then keep talking to him on the phone or get a mic and talk to him using skype...can save money on phone bills oso
Dun meet him when you are not ready...and do you have a feeling like sth is wrong, like u can't trust him? -
same age as me, you can say he is working now... but then he will be studying soon.Originally posted by rainee:how old is he? studying now or working?
then keep talking to him on the phone or get a mic and talk to him using skype...can save money on phone bills oso
Dun meet him when you are not ready...and do you have a feeling like sth is wrong, like u can't trust him?
trust him? i dare say i trust him as a friend. but my mum made me promise never to meet guys online unless i know them for more than one and a half years. and i am a woman of my words. and besides, it's not him i dun trust. i just dun trust guys in general. you know wad i'm saying?? -
yea I know...then wait and see how lor...after a year and a half u shud be able to see most of his personality traits oledi ba...Originally posted by starblue:same age as me, you can say he is working now... but then he will be studying soon.
trust him? i dare say i trust him as a friend. but my mum made me promise never to meet guys online unless i know them for more than one and a half years. and i am a woman of my words. and besides, it's not him i dun trust. i just dun trust guys in general. you know wad i'm saying?? -
lolz.. maybe loh.. and maybe he will be gone by then also....Originally posted by rainee:yea I know...then wait and see how lor...after a year and a half u shud be able to see most of his personality traits oledi ba... that's why i say it's too early lah... but i just dun like the way he is saying things now... everything was fine before he said all those things... but now he's just being mushy and stuff... why guys liddat one??? never meet a gal before and they start to tian yan mi yu... *shivers* -
haha...my ai ai was not like that wor...in fact it was me who began it first...Originally posted by starblue:lolz.. maybe loh.. and maybe he will be gone by then also.... that's why i say it's too early lah... but i just dun like the way he is saying things now... everything was fine before he said all those things... but now he's just being mushy and stuff... why guys liddat one??? never meet a gal before and they start to tian yan mi yu... *shivers*
but it was only after he confessed tat he likes me that all the mushy stuff came out...before that, we talked like frens nia...
I just found him very nice to talk to, even when it is on the phone and skype and our record was talk for around 6 hours strait...and before him, I could not talk vocally for even an hour strait... -
haha... but to me its wierd loh, all those talk... maybe i'm just allergic to sweet talk. i know my dad was one, that's how he tricked mum into marrying him.Originally posted by rainee:haha...my ai ai was not like that wor...in fact it was me who began it first... but it was only after he confessed tat he likes me that all the mushy stuff came out...before that, we talked like frens nia... I just found him very nice to talk to, even when it is on the phone and skype and our record was talk for around 6 hours strait...and before him, I could not talk vocally for even an hour strait... i dun want to be like that. sometimes i just hope he will keep back on those stuff and just chat normally, so that i can have a better judge on who he is, and not get my view obscured by all those sweet but dun mean anything words...
words are just cheap, to me... and indeed, i am more weary of guys who sweet talk. -
can i join in the discussion and give a guy perspective of the situation ?
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of cos of cos...Originally posted by I_am_PeTe_Parker:can i join in the discussion and give a guy perspective of the situation ?
but i really have to go le.. going to be lacte for lec.. will come back and check again tonight.. do give your insights. i need them. -
ok, see you later..enjoy your lec....Originally posted by starblue:of cos of cos...
but i really have to go le.. going to be lacte for lec.. will come back and check again tonight.. do give your insights. i need them. -
aiyo.. you can post your comments first mah..Originally posted by I_am_PeTe_Parker:ok, see you later..enjoy your lec.... -
I long winded one...small comments also will take several paraOriginally posted by starblue:aiyo.. you can post your comments first mah..
Skali you miss your lec.... -
wow, i can hardly maintain a conversation for 15mins!Originally posted by rainee:haha...my ai ai was not like that wor...in fact it was me who began it first... but it was only after he confessed tat he likes me that all the mushy stuff came out...before that, we talked like frens nia... I just found him very nice to talk to, even when it is on the phone and skype and our record was talk for around 6 hours strait...and before him, I could not talk vocally for even an hour strait...
starblue, if u find it uncomfortable meeting him, then don't. just don't judge too quick though, time tells many things. -
LoL.. well, shit like this can happen. N hell it happens a lot.
There are a few reasons why u may feel breathless and all, can be because ther person is on the phone, u cant seem to see him or feel him. But the messages and things said on the phone may just happen to be the thingsu wanna hear. There is this hint of mysteriousness about the guy so u can inject ur little own hopes or fantasy to be played out. Sometimes words n messages leaves an imprint of emotions lo..
If u are a sucker for sweet talk..he he.. messages are the best ways of sweet talk that i can think of. Coz..messages are fun to wrte because we take time to think what to say..what to reply n how. Some are just as nice as the way they sound lo.. but some can be the scum of the earth..he he and thier speciality.. is to sweet talk thier way...n BAM! he he he.....
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orh....Originally posted by wa|th3r:wow, i can hardly maintain a conversation for 15mins!
starblue, if u find it uncomfortable meeting him, then don't. just don't judge too quick though, time tells many things. -
-_-""""Originally posted by BadzMaro:LoL.. well, shit like this can happen. N hell it happens a lot.
There are a few reasons why u may feel breathless and all, can be because ther person is on the phone, u cant seem to see him or feel him. But the messages and things said on the phone may just happen to be the thingsu wanna hear. There is this hint of mysteriousness about the guy so u can inject ur little own hopes or fantasy to be played out. Sometimes words n messages leaves an imprint of emotions lo..
If u are a sucker for sweet talk..he he.. messages are the best ways of sweet talk that i can think of. Coz..messages are fun to wrte because we take time to think what to say..what to reply n how. Some are just as nice as the way they sound lo.. but some can be the scum of the earth..he he and thier speciality.. is to sweet talk thier way...n BAM! he he he.....
anyway, i got tell him also lah... if he keeps doing it then i might ignore him for a while... to re-assess the situation. lolz... but seriously.. when someone keeps sweet-talking, you will never know if he's really meaning it, or what he is really thinking of. and it irritates me alot.... haiz... -
RE-assessing the situation is a good thing. Makes u focused, think.. and wonder. But i would maybe suggest that take more time to evaluate him. All your life experiences can be put to test lo.. see what U personally think deep inside ah. I mean there are instances of real nice guys out there, u can enver know unwil u actually meet the person n look him in the eye and go ' hmmm..... hey..he is just as nice as he is in messages!' he heOriginally posted by starblue:-_-""""
anyway, i got tell him also lah... if he keeps doing it then i might ignore him for a while... to re-assess the situation. lolz... but seriously.. when someone keeps sweet-talking, you will never know if he's really meaning it, or what he is really thinking of. and it irritates me alot.... haiz...
But there are also those that maybe sweet talking u on the phone while stroking another chick beside him.. he he.. i know.. yes.. he he.. in fact , i know a close friend of mine that sweet talks to girls.. n the girl sms me telling me is he really as nice as he is n not knowing that i am beside the dude n his gf.. ha ha ha!! anyways.. =X but dun let my personaly experience affect r judgement la ya.. i am sure u are pretty experienced .. or u can always just start praying for WISDOM! LOL!! -
Starblue, actually I do not know what is right and wrong about an online relationship. But I somehow always got the feeling it was possible. I read this thread and about rainee and emperorÂ’s inspirational r/s and started believing it more.
Online chatting is a powerful tool indeed. It is a good way to converse. And throughout history, letter writing had been a normal way to converseÂ…so why not chatting online. It is basically an interactive letter pad. And people throughout the ages have met, fell in love and live happily ever after starting by just writing letters to each other. They were what people call it pen-pals back then. So actually I guess, it this really possible after all having an online r/s. So you donÂ’t have to feel uncomfortable about being in an online r/s.
You meet on the netÂ…you slowly gather about all the things he likes and dislikes and you realize he is the kind of person for you. You feel a kind of affinity for him. Behind your mind you think to yourselfÂ…could he be the one. Everybody wants someone to loveÂ…so you start feeling glad that you have someone pouring his feelings for you. And I suppose something in you starts to stir (the hormone and blah blah blah stuff) and presto you are infatuated.
But the frightening thing isÂ…IS he telling the truth!!! This is when online chatting can work in favor of the guy. I must say it is very very easy to hide the truth online. Heck, it is even easy for a guy to hide the truth face to face. It all boils down to the honesty of the guy. Is he an honest guy? Does he have the integrity. Is he only trying to play with you? DonÂ’t know exactly what constitutes sweet talk and mushy talk to youÂ…but then again it all boils down to the guys intentions. He is probably trying to win you overÂ…which is in that case normal for a guy to do. But what does he want to gain from thatÂ…To get to know youÂ…to try and ask you out on a dateÂ…again that is normal for a guy to do. BUT what does he want from a date with you??? That you better be careful lor.
My conclusionÂ…geezÂ…I donÂ’t have a conclusion.