What if...
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One day you found out your unborn child has some kinda defects that will cause him/her to be handicapped in some way after he/she is born? Would you abort or keep the baby?
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wah tough question... but it depends if at that time am i using my brain to think or my heart. sensibily, i should abort before he is fully developed and suffer for his whole life.. but from watching him grow inch by inch over the months, it would be tough to give up on him.Originally posted by rainee:One day you found out your unborn child has some kinda defects that will cause him/her to be handicapped in some way after he/she is born? Would you abort or keep the baby? -
Yea...some ladies choose not to go for those check-up...so that they would not be forced to make the decision of whether to abort the baby or not if it is found out that he/she is really with defect...Is this wise? Is ignorance really bliss in this case?
Anyway, if you are a man, you can still answer this question, just pretend that what if one day your wife who is carrying your baby is diagnosed with this...(touch wood!) -
I will abort. But if my wife decides to keep it...I will not object.Originally posted by rainee:One day you found out your unborn child has some kinda defects that will cause him/her to be handicapped in some way after he/she is born? Would you abort or keep the baby? -
I will choose to give birth...not trying to sound gung ho
But I will try to let her live well...
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abort
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I would like to say sth like.. i would love the baby for who it is, with the imperfections...
most likely i go for designer babies. Defects can cause more headaches.. especially that disease cyber fibrotosis or sth. -
If it is just deformity, like for example being born without arm/arms or leg/legs then I would not abort.
Deformity which affects the face....I might not abort but gosh I would be so heart broken.
But if my child was diagnose with some condition which affects his/her capacity to think normally....this I am sure I would abort.
Making these decisions sounds so god like but decisions has to be made...sound cruel but i fear i might reject my child if I don't do it. -
sigh...so if there are deformities then most ppl cant accept it?
I think if it is a disease...then I might abort it...but have to see what my ai ai said...cos he is really against abortion... -
I understand your feeling and mindset of bringing the child to the world and giving him/her the best of what she/he can get....Originally posted by Xiao Jun:I will choose to give birth...not trying to sound gung ho
But I will try to let her live well...
To me,i'll say that you're selfish,but you're not wrong...
But if i'll to place myself in the shoes of the kid, when i grow up, say to the age of 15~20+++yrs old, i'll be hurt and sad to see my parent/mum trying hard to bring me up and yet i can't do much to offload their stress & burden as i'm their burden..., but will however, feel proud to have such a mother or parent...
To face up to an even further time, one day, the parent will eventually go 1st before the kid (provided that nothing happens to the kid), and hence leaving the kid alone in this world to face the challenges in the society...
All in all, i'll rather the parent not to bring me to this world...but then, as a baby, there's no choice for him/her to choose...well.....Life~ -
hmm... to live or not to live?
sumtime kids cant handle their deformities n commit suicide. -
IMO, physical deformities can accept.Originally posted by rainee:sigh...so if there are deformities then most ppl cant accept it?
I think if it is a disease...then I might abort it...but have to see what my ai ai said...cos he is really against abortion...
Mental deformities...difficult to accept. -
I can accept deformities of my kids...but i cannot accept the life he/she's going to face n live with in the future...I'll rather have him/her aborted so as to reduce his/her sufferings...rather than letting him/her to face and suffer their life...It'll be more painful in the long term.....Originally posted by rainee:sigh...so if there are deformities then most ppl cant accept it?
I think if it is a disease...then I might abort it...but have to see what my ai ai said...cos he is really against abortion...
Thoughts to it, if the kid/s will to be brought into this world, and say, 20yrs or so later, what if he/she can't accept or take it the way he/she's living,.i.e. sufferings, and choose to commit suicide?? Wouldn't it be much mroe worse and painful???
Neither do i like the idea of abortion, but then, sometimes in life, it's not a matter of whether you're going to like or not...you've to make a long term decision...a decision that will create and bring a significant impact to your life... -
true...have to consider the child's future oso...haiz...
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Abortion is definitely a big NO for me. I believe everything has its purpose here on earth. Just like a child. He/she has a purpose to fulfill here on earth, that's why God send him/her here.
If my child's deformed or handicapped, I'll just have to still take it as it's a blessing from God, because God is using my child to mould me into a loving father. When it's a disabled child, more love & attention must be showered upon him. Therefore, it will eventually train me into a loving father and a better person. -
But even if you shower lots of love and attention on him/her, he/she will still have to face society? And some might not be able to handle that...Originally posted by The Emperor:Abortion is definitely a big NO for me. I believe everything has its purpose here on earth. Just like a child. He/she has a purpose to fulfill here on earth, that's why God send him/her here.
If my child's deformed or handicapped, I'll just have to still take it as it's a blessing from God, because God is using my child to mould me into a loving father. When it's a disabled child, more love & attention must be showered upon him. Therefore, it will eventually train me into a loving father and a better person. -
God will be with him. This is for sure and he too will enjoy blessings of God and draw strength and courage from the Lord in order to face society. It's going to be hard but being a disabled and imperfect peron, I believe he will also have the desire to make a difference in this society. He will perform better than any other normal child.Originally posted by rainee:But even if you shower lots of love and attention on him/her, he/she will still have to face society? And some might not be able to handle that... -
wah kao... can i not answer this question??? i will think about it when it happens to me lah...
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too hard to answer? Or too scary to think abt the possibilities?Originally posted by starblue:wah kao... can i not answer this question??? i will think about it when it happens to me lah... -
Even the simplest mental defect of Down's Syndrome can bring in inevitable complications as the child grows up - heart defects, intestinal defects, eyes and ears defects, leukemia (blood malignancy) and if they live long enough, Alzheimer's Disease...
As for physical defects such as cleft lip, cleft palate, amelia, phocomelia which is compatible with life, they would develop depression much more easily and towards the end, complications set in. These are chromosomal defects, hence they may make one thing of defects externally if present. Consider the defects internally, you would find that they have not much long to live...
Conditions that are incompatible with life and you have to abort without a choice includes anencephaly, spina bifida, hydrops fetalis and sometimes hydrocephalus.
There are some other mental defects which includes cerebral palsy, fetal alcohol syndrome and congenital hypothyroidism...
It all depends from case to case basis... as for me, I will choose to abort all if detected early (since antenatal care nowadays are so advance, you have so many compulsory check-ups and scans that it is nearly impossible to miss it, if you do, they'd visit you in your home)... -
I choose to abort because if we decide to keep the baby, the mother whom is already prone to postpartum depression or psychosis or postpartum blues after pregnancy would develop these disorders eagerly and the mother may develop intentions to kill the baby for the psychotic fear of not being able to bring up the child. They would be so depressed to an extent that they might even consider to take their own lives...
In other words, I put my mind on both the baby and the mother. -
Selfishess is not living e life that u want...Originally posted by dcx:I can accept deformities of my kids...but i cannot accept the life he/she's going to face n live with in the future...I'll rather have him/her aborted so as to reduce his/her sufferings...rather than letting him/her to face and suffer their life...It'll be more painful in the long term.....
Thoughts to it, if the kid/s will to be brought into this world, and say, 20yrs or so later, what if he/she can't accept or take it the way he/she's living,.i.e. sufferings, and choose to commit suicide?? Wouldn't it be much mroe worse and painful???
Neither do i like the idea of abortion, but then, sometimes in life, it's not a matter of whether you're going to like or not...you've to make a long term decision...a decision that will create and bring a significant impact to your life...
Selfishness is making others live e life that u want them to...
I would die trying to convince her that life is worth living...if she decides to end it in e end...at least it will be her choice~
Really grim topic though...
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i will raise it all my life
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I'll go check. If the deformity is really big like no nose, no limbs, half a head, then I will abort.
If it's just mild deformities I think it's ok.
But STILL. I would want my child to be fully developed and healthy. -
If it's physical, can go for plastic surgery.
If it's mental, then..see how bad it is.