>>I Dieci Perfetti<<
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LOTROriginally posted by renorenal:some are meant to be single... -
i prefer the city for that.Originally posted by starblue:i only go to the beach alone for such purposes... and i dun scream or anything. just sit on a breakwater for hours on end.
can't help it. i'm a city kid.
i should do that sometime. before i lose the chance to. -
I'm sure you heard of the famous quote that says...Originally posted by starblue:nope. in fact, i dun think i will cry in front of my guy also, unless something bad really happens. or he can really help me do it.
...if the eyes do not weep, the body will...
your threshold may be high, but keeping everything to yourself, and not wanting to share out for the fear of ppl not trusting you will definitely make it worse...
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dun get me wrong. i used to have many close guy friends... cos i grew up in a family of boys, i relate and open up more easily to them. that is why i always have more close guy friends than gals. but like i said last time, they.... dropped by the way side one by one. cos they started acting all weird and everything. so now, i dunno how to react towards them le.. i am always afraid i will give the wrong signals lah. or develop a friendship with them only to ruin it in the end. i dun ever want to let myself rely on someone, and then lose his support. the feeling of losing direction and support just sucks big time.Originally posted by rainee:wat do u mean he is allergic to guys? as in u cant tolerate them? -
wat has lord of the rings gotta do with this?Originally posted by hisoka:LOTR -
nvmOriginally posted by renorenal:wat has lord of the rings gotta do with this?
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dun get me wrong. i share my problems, like what i am doing now. but not to close friends. i mean i do go to them for some problems. but some problems i rather mull over it myself.Originally posted by renorenal:I'm sure you heard of the famous quote that says...
...if the eyes do not weep, the body will...
your threshold may be high, but keeping everything to yourself, and not wanting to share out for the fear of ppl not trusting you will definitely make it worse... -
i find that you think too much and rely too much on othersOriginally posted by starblue:dun get me wrong. i used to have many close guy friends... cos i grew up in a family of boys, i relate and open up more easily to them. that is why i always have more close guy friends than gals. but like i said last time, they.... dropped by the way side one by one. cos they started acting all weird and everything. so now, i dunno how to react towards them le.. i am always afraid i will give the wrong signals lah. or develop a friendship with them only to ruin it in the end. i dun ever want to let myself rely on someone, and then lose his support. the feeling of losing direction and support just sucks big time. -
i agree..Originally posted by renorenal:I have to be blunt in this... I hope you don't mind
You've set your own criteria now... and whatever that results from it, you must be able to accept it, instead of saying it the other way round...
...you mention the word allergic, meaning that you have totally shut the world of guys who want to propose to you, am I rite?
just felt tat u are abit on e perfectionist side already la..
another thing is ur communication is not enough or ineffective..yes u are telling pple things, but they might not know how u are feeling inside?
y are u afraid of asking for help? it doesnt mean tat u are weak..
like wat bear has said, u keep too much to urself... -
yup...i know what you mean.Originally posted by starblue:dun get me wrong. i share my problems, like what i am doing now. but not to close friends. i mean i do go to them for some problems. but some problems i rather mull over it myself.
everyone needs to have some secrets. -
hmm...Originally posted by starblue:dun get me wrong. i used to have many close guy friends... cos i grew up in a family of boys, i relate and open up more easily to them. that is why i always have more close guy friends than gals. but like i said last time, they.... dropped by the way side one by one. cos they started acting all weird and everything. so now, i dunno how to react towards them le.. i am always afraid i will give the wrong signals lah. or develop a friendship with them only to ruin it in the end. i dun ever want to let myself rely on someone, and then lose his support. the feeling of losing direction and support just sucks big time.
canot just because you fear losing them, you start to block guys out from ur life altogether...
and nothing lasts forever actually, we make the best out of the time we will have together...no one knows if their loved one will be gone the next day...so just cherish all the moments u have together...
learn to trust others, and just live today for today, dun worry so much abt wat will happen in the future... -
yeah....live for today. let tomorrow worry about itself.Originally posted by rainee:hmm...
canot just because you fear losing them, you start to block guys out from ur life altogether...
and nothing lasts forever actually, we make the best out of the time we will have together...no one knows if their loved one will be gone the next day...so just cherish all the moments u have together...
learn to trust others, and just live today for today, dun worry so much abt wat will happen in the future... -
see, thats my problem. i have no trouble sharing my joys. but when it comes to the problems that really depress me, i tend to retreat to my own cave.somehow, i can get very dark when i am depressed. and it tends to rub off. i dun wanna pass on this dark side... seriously... whenever i try to share something that really depresses me, the person will start to get depressed also.. then i will just say, "lolz, nvm lah... i'll be fine by morning."Originally posted by rainee:hmm, when u r already in a r/s, cannot just keep everything to urself. must learn to give and take...and I am not referring to just the happy moments. have to share the sad moments as well...and then maybe he will help u to get thru it...and in the process both of u will become closer
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Originally posted by starblue:
desperate guys will interpret any signals from you as you wanting them to get into your pants no matter what you do... but there are certain sincere ones out there...
dun get me wrong. i used to have many close guy friends... cos i grew up in a family of boys, i relate and open up more easily to them. that is why i always have more close guy friends than gals. but like i said last time, they.... dropped by the way side one by one. cos they started acting all weird and everything. so now, i dunno how to react towards them le.. i am always afraid i will give the wrong signals lah. or develop a friendship with them only to ruin it in the end. i dun ever want to let myself rely on someone, and then lose his support. the feeling of losing direction and support just sucks big time.
if u are continuously afraid because of your past, then what are you going to do in the future?
you can't shut them out totally, and I know you know that for a fact, neither could you avoid them... you've just gotta face them, and it is that trial and error you will get to learn who is meant to be your friends...
there are a majority and a minority group of friends for every character and personality... certain characters have a lot of friends even though they do nothing, but certain characters can't have a lot of friends...
having said these... if the first character have few friends, and the last character have a lot of friends, they cannot adapt to their environment, hence leading to distress... -
then what would you prefer that person to do?Originally posted by starblue:see, thats my problem. i have no trouble sharing my joys. but when it comes to the problems that really depress me, i tend to retreat to my own cave.somehow, i can get very dark when i am depressed. and it tends to rub off. i dun wanna pass on this dark side... seriously... whenever i try to share something that really depresses me, the person will start to get depressed also.. then i will just say, "lolz, nvm lah... i'll be fine by morning."
reflex. -
+1Originally posted by renorenal:desperate guys will interpret any signals from you as you wanting them to get into your pants no matter what you do... but there are certain sincere ones out there...
if u are continuously afraid because of your past, then what are you going to do in the future?
you can't shut them out totally, and I know you know that for a fact, neither could you avoid them... you've just gotta face them, and it is that trial and error you will get to learn who is meant to be your friends...
there are a majority and a minority group of friends for every character and personality... certain characters have a lot of friends even though they do nothing, but certain characters can't have a lot of friends...
having said these... if the first character have few friends, and the last character have a lot of friends, they cannot adapt to their environment, hence leading to distress... -
Bye all.
To sb, hope your troubles will soon go away. -
i know i tend to keep things to myself. but i cant help it. maybe cos i am always left to fend for myself in my family. no matter what age i am, i'm always told, "you're the big sis. you should know better and handle your own prob. if u dunno then ur brothers how?" and my bros arent helping either, they squirm when i start to show my depression. so in the end, i'll just go take a bath and come out as if nothing happened. and wait till midnight.Originally posted by alfagal:i agree..
just felt tat u are abit on e perfectionist side already la..
another thing is ur communication is not enough or ineffective..yes u are telling pple things, but they might not know how u are feeling inside?
y are u afraid of asking for help? it doesnt mean tat u are weak..
like wat bear has said, u keep too much to urself... -
ah blue ah...
see..many cats now
hope it may cheer u up a little. Get some rest ya? A new day, a new beginning! -
Let me tell you a true story of my friend who is anti-guys... she can stand there and NOT talk to a guy in a group of friends even though the guys tried to talk to her and wanna go after her... she would look down and PUI! to the guys... her problem is she was shunned by guys earlier in her life and through the trauma she took it to teenage life and again to adulthood. From then on, she would hate guys, talk bad about them, and would even go up to an extent to say harsh words in front of their faces in public to make them feel low and down... yes up to an extent that all are afraid of her... and leave her alone...Originally posted by starblue:see, thats my problem. i have no trouble sharing my joys. but when it comes to the problems that really depress me, i tend to retreat to my own cave.somehow, i can get very dark when i am depressed. and it tends to rub off. i dun wanna pass on this dark side... seriously... whenever i try to share something that really depresses me, the person will start to get depressed also.. then i will just say, "lolz, nvm lah... i'll be fine by morning."
reflex.
But surprisingly that during her 4th year in medical studies, she found her one true soul... -
they are not desperate guys ok. they are really decent guys, if not i wouldnt have befriended them in the first place. i dunno lah... dunno wads wrong with me. maybe i really do send out the wrong signals...Originally posted by renorenal:desperate guys will interpret any signals from you as you wanting them to get into your pants no matter what you do... but there are certain sincere ones out there...
if u are continuously afraid because of your past, then what are you going to do in the future?
you can't shut them out totally, and I know you know that for a fact, neither could you avoid them... you've just gotta face them, and it is that trial and error you will get to learn who is meant to be your friends...
there are a majority and a minority group of friends for every character and personality... certain characters have a lot of friends even though they do nothing, but certain characters can't have a lot of friends...
having said these... if the first character have few friends, and the last character have a lot of friends, they cannot adapt to their environment, hence leading to distress... -
cos u tink dat u dun wan to trouble them?Originally posted by starblue:see, thats my problem. i have no trouble sharing my joys. but when it comes to the problems that really depress me, i tend to retreat to my own cave.somehow, i can get very dark when i am depressed. and it tends to rub off. i dun wanna pass on this dark side... seriously... whenever i try to share something that really depresses me, the person will start to get depressed also.. then i will just say, "lolz, nvm lah... i'll be fine by morning."
reflex.
must learn to share yea, be it sorrow or happiness.
and if he really loves u, he wun think that you are troubling him, he will feel happy that he is able to help u get over it -
y u taking things so hard gal...learn to love urself more manz..Originally posted by starblue:i know i tend to keep things to myself. but i cant help it. maybe cos i am always left to fend for myself in my family. no matter what age i am, i'm always told, "you're the big sis. you should know better and handle your own prob. if u dunno then ur brothers how?" and my bros arent helping either, they squirm when i start to show my depression. so in the end, i'll just go take a bath and come out as if nothing happened. and wait till midnight. -
again... i do not hate guys ok...i just... dunno how to face them anymore after all that happened...Originally posted by renorenal:Let me tell you a true story of my friend who is anti-guys... she can stand there and NOT talk to a guy in a group of friends even though the guys tried to talk to her and wanna go after her... she would look down and PUI! to the guys... her problem is she was shunned by guys earlier in her life and through the trauma she took it to teenage life and again to adulthood. From then on, she would hate guys, talk bad about them, and would even go up to an extent to say harsh words in front of their faces in public to make them feel low and down... yes up to an extent that all are afraid of her... and leave her alone...
But surprisingly that during her 4th year in medical studies, she found her one true soul... -
maybe there really are people willing to overlook your flaws and accept you for who you are.Originally posted by starblue:they are not desperate guys ok. they are really decent guys, if not i wouldnt have befriended them in the first place. i dunno lah... dunno wads wrong with me. maybe i really do send out the wrong signals...