what, to you, is.....

• Gackt247

  30 Nov 05, 01:20

  Originally posted by The Emperor:

  Trust is risking your chances in the expense of one's apparent honesty.

  Precisely.. wouldnt u rather go in foolheartedly or take some neccessary safeguards?
• NeverSayGoodBye

  30 Nov 05, 18:46

  .... Trust is when you can take down of all your defenses and to be vulnerabled to this person, without worrying that he/she will take advantage of you. Trust is cultivated and nurtured in the test of times, not earned in a matter of days.
  
  ..... When trust is gone , it's gone forever. Unlike a broken heart, it still can be heal and mended.
  
  
• oxford mushroom

  1 Dec 05, 07:27

  Originally posted by starblue:

  when i trust a person, even if someone tells me he/she has betrayed me, i will not believe it. only if he/she tells me him/herself or i see it with my own eyes will i believe it.
  
  that is my idea of trust.

  Quite touching....I have been taught to trust, but verify....not much of a trust, is it?
  
  
• starblue

  1 Dec 05, 11:45

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  .... Trust is when you can take down of all your defenses and to be vulnerabled to this person, without worrying that he/she will take advantage of you. Trust is cultivated and nurtured in the test of times, not earned in a matter of days.
  
  ..... When trust is gone , it's gone forever. Unlike a broken heart, it still can be heal and mended.
  
  

  i agree with the first paragraph. but to me, once trust has been betrayed, it will never be the same again. maybe it's just me...
• NeverSayGoodBye

  1 Dec 05, 12:55

  Originally posted by starblue:

  i agree with the first paragraph. but to me, once trust has been betrayed, it will never be the same again. maybe it's just me...

  ..... I believe it's your own principles of not trusting someone who had betrayed you. If the friendship is a long term one e.g childhood friends, once you got played out by them the hurt and sense of betrayal will be felt much greater. Unlike those who you had just known only for a while, can just forget and let go easily. But the most important thing is to know how to trust yourself first.
• BadzMaro

  1 Dec 05, 19:43

  oops.. i did not TRUST that one click will be o.k.
• BadzMaro

  1 Dec 05, 19:46

  Trust is when me n my heng tai are in deep shiet n i can trust them to watch my back n we all get out of there. The mutual feeling that we are taken care of no matter the odds. Trust to me is when the world is against u n the one u trust.. u will no be moved.. n go down in a blaze of glory because of ur belief.
  
  But seriously la... to me.. in any thning Any basic relationship be it girls , guys , family , friends , business.. that ranks No:1 in my idieals. TRUST.
• alexkusu

  1 Dec 05, 20:20

  
• starblue

  1 Dec 05, 20:26

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  ..... I believe it's your own principles of not trusting someone who had betrayed you. If the friendship is a long term one e.g childhood friends, once you got played out by them the hurt and sense of betrayal will be felt much greater. Unlike those who you had just known only for a while, can just forget and let go easily. But the most important thing is to know how to trust yourself first.

  erm... to me, if the guy's a stranger, then i dun trust him. there is not betrayal of trust to talk about.
  
  so when i say betrayal of trust means that person must have already gained my trust. means that person is someone i care about (to varying degree lah).
  
  who cares about strangers anyway... they can call me a btch for all i care.
• Kuali Baba

  1 Dec 05, 22:36

  When you can tell somebody your deepest feelings and what you did in the past, knowing that that person will be patient with you, and he/she doesn't disappoint.
  
  That is trust.
• NeverSayGoodBye

  2 Dec 05, 12:18

  Originally posted by starblue:

  erm... to me, if the guy's a stranger, then i dun trust him. there is not betrayal of trust to talk about.
  
  so when i say betrayal of trust means that person must have already gained my trust. means that person is someone i care about (to varying degree lah).
  
  who cares about strangers anyway... they can call me a btch for all i care.

  ..... ic ic...let said.. this person who you care alot and trust alot had betrayed you, will you hold a grudge against him/her or forgive the person and salvaged the friendship? Liked you mentioned earlier, it won't be the same again... So this trusted friend is well as good as a stranger to you.
• alexkusu

  2 Dec 05, 12:20

  Friendships are like porcelain. Can be mended but the cracks are still there
• starblue

  2 Dec 05, 12:34

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  ..... ic ic...let said.. this person who you care alot and trust alot had betrayed you, will you hold a grudge against him/her or forgive the person and salvaged the friendship? Liked you mentioned earlier, it won't be the same again... So this trusted friend is well as good as a stranger to you.

  we wun go separate ways, but stick as friends. but that kinda absolute trust i have in her will never be the same. it may come close (time mends certain hurts), but never the same.