How to be a better couple
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10 steps to enjoying each other better...
1. Be realistic about each other.
Don't try to turn ur partner into something he or she is not. Let's face it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give ur gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnite with the help of a few facials ! or treat ments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so u're gonna have to do with what ur guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what u are. There is more to ur partner than what meets the eye.
2. Always talk things out.
Now guys, I know this is not ur fave pastime or mode of resolving issues, but u know what? This works with the gals. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to xpress urself better so that ur partner undrstands what u're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When u stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.
3. Do stuff together.
Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve urselves in some shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or jus strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccor with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts u to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if ur gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. If u're spending more time with ur friends rather than with ur partner, it's a warning sign that u're drifting apart!!!
4. Meet each other halfway.
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock" print, u shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep ur room tidy. There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.
5.Show ur love
Buy her flowers or candy or perfume everynow and then, even if u have been together for 5years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that u care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decoration purposes => ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so he knows u can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while. -
6. Respect each other.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to laugh at. Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.
7. Bury the past.
Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about u and ur ex to ur guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times that u had with ur ex or mention about her in ur every other sentence as it would make ur gal feel un-happy and she might think that u saying all this b'cos u are gonna get back with ur ex or not interested in her anymore.
8. Sit on ur jealousy.
All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If u're gonna go through ur partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, u know something is wrong - with u!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally killing it. Trust ur partner; love has to have trust in it.
9. Keep ur commitments to each other.
If ur partner is standing u up all the time and cancelling dates and breaking promises, u need to talk! If u're in a relationship, make ur partner ur priority and don't disappoint them if u can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to take u to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises u can't keep. If ur partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to u, u may jus lose him/her.
10. Be honest.
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say "be honest", we mean expressing ur feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When u're hurt, say so, and when u're angry, tell him/her, w/o getting hysterical. If u can't be honest with ur partner, who can u be honest with? æ Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it! -
feel free to add on to the list!.....
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be sensitive. your girlfriend may or may not be able to take your army jokes about women, so try to refrain and not to go overboard.
never let a disagreement fester, try to solve it by the end of the day. -
Respect ur partner's decisions... free to give ur opinion but dun force it on he/she...
dun go throw ur temper/mood swings on ur partner... instead find them to do activities tat can release ur bad blood... -
Never had gf before so can't contribute.
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Do not ever lie.
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wow.. very good points here...
let me try to add one.
Give each other space and time.
He knows you like to watch tv, you know he loves to play computer games. So why not, give each other some time for each of you to do the activities that each individual enjoys once in a while
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do not control..
sometimes,some people just needa the freedom..
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Don't stick to each other like glue...have to realize that he does have his own life and own work to do as well...
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So means can bring up the unhappy things and bitch about my ex-es?Originally posted by alfagal:7. Bury the past.
Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about u and ur ex to ur guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times that u had with ur ex or mention about her in ur every other sentence as it would make ur gal feel un-happy and she might think that u saying all this b'cos u are gonna get back with ur ex or not interested in her anymore.
But seriously sometimes it is kinda hard to keep ex-es out of conversations leh, but mentioning them doesn't mean I am going to get back with them or whatever...but often I will use the story to detail the lesson I have learnt from my previous r/s... -
trust me is not easy.Originally posted by rainee:So means can bring up the unhappy things and bitch about my ex-es?
But seriously sometimes it is kinda hard to keep ex-es out of conversations leh, but mentioning them doesn't mean I am going to get back with them or whatever...but often I will use the story to detail the lesson I have learnt from my previous r/s... -
*edit*
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sayang.Originally posted by alfagal:a new c.b.....
shld have asked rainee if i could open one before i left for my paper
Give and take. Its always 2 way in a relationship. Being over dominating will cause your partner to feel suppressed. -
y edit???Originally posted by alfagal:*edit* -
care enough to want to make her happy...
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join sgforums together
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bad ideaOriginally posted by InnoHippo:join sgforums together
the girl may just fall for some clone -
Seems like very hard work, especially for one with such low EQ as me. But what do I know, having never had a girlfriend before.
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not easy for?Originally posted by zeny:trust me is not easy.
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its a wrong post to e wrong thread mahz..Originally posted by Pitot:y edit???
then kenna caught by you -
You love me, I love you.
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I always show me love alrite...heh...heh...
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love his/her good points, accept his/her bad points
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learn to be blind, deaf and ignorant about the bad points