Sexual Myths, Sexual Reality
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Everyone knows that God created us as sexual beings. We also know that young people face tremendous pressures regarding sex. But who explains how and when a young person can best awaken his or her sexuality?
by David Treybig
Imagine that you and some of your friends have been invited to tour a nuclear power plant. Shortly after you gather outside the plant's entrance for your scheduled tour, an employee greets you and explains that even though the official guide isn't available, all of you are welcome to wander through the plant on your own. "Go ahead and push any buttons you wish," says the employee. "After all, experiential learning is fun and you'll be able to see firsthand what happens as a result."
Without any protective gear or instruction, you and your friends begin wandering around, pushing buttons and looking for fireworks. Whoa! Stop this nightmare! No one in his or her right mind would recommend this course of action. It's a recipe for disaster!
Ironically, this is the approach many have taken to sexual education. Some mistakenly assume that young people should be free to experiment with their sexuality whenever and however they would like so they can develop their own ideas and perspective. Sadly, it's like the imaginary nuclear power plant tour. Start pushing buttons in a random fashion and it won't be long before you have a nuclear disaster. Start experimenting with sex in a random fashion without any instruction and you'll soon experience tragic consequences that could include emotional pain, unwanted pregnancy and even sterility or death from a sexually transmitted disease (STD).
As young people, how we respond to our developing sexuality is one of the most important decisions we will make. Choices made at this time of life directly affect our future success, our health, our marital happiness and even our relationships with God. Sex is thus a critically important subject. And as we might expect, the Bible is filled with instruction regarding this aspect of life.
As the Creator of sexuality in human beings, God is the One who has all the answers. He knows how we were designed and how we can best experience happiness in all areas of life—including sex. Human beings, by themselves and apart from God, don't have all these facts.
God begins His instructions about sex in Genesis, the first book of the Bible, and continues adding information all the way through the concluding book of Revelation. Good and bad decisions in this area are recorded in many of the other books, too.
So what are some of the important truths regarding sexuality? What information do young people need to know so they can avoid disasters and experience the happiness God intends for us to enjoy? -
Respect your sexuality
One of the biggest problems in our modern, secular society is disrespect for sex. When God made Adam and Eve male and female, He said this was "very good" (Genesis 1:27, 31, emphasis added throughout). Sexuality in human beings was not designed to just be okay; it was designed to be extremely good! And it is great and wonderful when we use this special gift of God in the way He intended.
God's beautiful picture of sexuality is for us to refrain from having sex until we are married and then to only enjoy sex with the person to whom we are married (1 Corinthians 6:18; Exodus 20:14). Sex was designed by God to be a special pleasure bond to be shared between a husband and wife. By following God's instruction, this act would help husbands and wives grow closer together in an intimate bond, allowing them to have the greatest sex possible and helping them avoid potential dissolution of their marriages in divorce.
It is a beautiful act of love for two people to grow up as virgins (not having engaged in any kind of sexual gratification) and then on their wedding night present their bodies to each other saying, "I loved you so much, I saved myself for you and you alone." This is true love! This is the most beautiful love story of all! And it is the kind of start that can help a couple live happily ever after in a joyous marriage instead of ending in a heartbreaking divorce as so many do today.
But how often do modern songs and movies tell us this story of sexuality? Not often, if at all. Instead, sex today is cheapened and degraded into a casual act for people to experience prior to marriage and even during marriage with whomever they wish. It's commonly assumed that to fully enjoy life, people should have sex with anyone they happen to like at the moment.
The modern "love story" of unrestrained sexual activity has two people on their wedding night saying, "I have loved so many different people before I met you that I think we can have sex without any problem at all. Tonight isn't really that special. And did I remember to tell you? I have a few STDs I'll be sharing with you. They are painful and impossible to cure. They'll be with us for life. But Baby, I really love you. At least right now I think I do and I'm willing to stay with you until someone better comes along."
Which love story would you rather experience? You aren't helpless. You do get to choose. The modern approach of so many is disrespectful of others, disrespectful of self, disrespectful of sex and disrespectful of God. With all this disrespect surrounding sex, it's no surprise that people are getting sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), unplanned pregnancies and marriages that soon dissolve in failure. -
Sexual myths
Given all the confusion that exists today regarding sex, it is important for us to understand some of the most common but mistaken ideas regarding sex. Here are a few of today's myths:
• "People can't help falling in love." We may be attracted to someone at first sight but true biblical love is something that grows. It isn't selfish and is based on respect and admiration for another person's character and godly attributes (1 Corinthians 13:4-
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• "People have to engage in sex." No one yet ever died from not having sex. Awakening sexual activity at the right time (after marriage) is important (Song of Solomon 3:5).
• "If you've already had sex, your life is ruined." God always offers us the opportunity to repent (admit we sinned and live properly). The advice we are given under these circumstances is the same Jesus gave the woman caught in the act of adultery: "Go and sin no more" (John 8:11 ).
• "Everybody is doing it." According to songs and movies one would think this is true. But it isn't. More young people graduate from high school today not having had sex than those who have. And the number of those abstaining is increasing. -
A plan for sexual happiness
As individuals, we choose whether we will live sexually pure lives or whether we will ignore the instructions that lead to happiness and satisfaction. Making a commitment to parents, friends and God to be sexually pure in word, thought and deed is an important first step in living a full, complete, sexually happy life.
We can determine that we will not use filthy language of any kind—including the type that degrades sex. We can also determine that we will not watch movies with inappropriate sexual content or listen to songs with sexually explicit lyrics. We can determine that we won't bow to peer pressure to go along with those who disrespect sex. We can determine that we are willing to be mocked for our beliefs and that we won't succumb. We can choose to associate primarily with friends who share our convictions. And we can make it our daily practice to pray to God for strength to honor Him in the way we live our lives.
God intends for dating and marriage to be high-class, honorable experiences (1 Thessalonians 4:3-7). Treat sex as God's honorable gift to be awakened only in marriage, and you can reap the sweet reward of a happy, godly life. No explosions. No diseases. No heartache. Just a great love story that can last your whole life. -
How about a plan for love? That's a even bigger problem than sex. Some people just can't love.Originally posted by breytonhartge:A plan for sexual happiness
As individuals, we choose whether we will live sexually pure lives or whether we will ignore the instructions that lead to happiness and satisfaction. Making a commitment to parents, friends and God to be sexually pure in word, thought and deed is an important first step in living a full, complete, sexually happy life.
We can determine that we will not use filthy language of any kind—including the type that degrades sex. We can also determine that we will not watch movies with inappropriate sexual content or listen to songs with sexually explicit lyrics. We can determine that we won't bow to peer pressure to go along with those who disrespect sex. We can determine that we are willing to be mocked for our beliefs and that we won't succumb. We can choose to associate primarily with friends who share our convictions. And we can make it our daily practice to pray to God for strength to honor Him in the way we live our lives.
God intends for dating and marriage to be high-class, honorable experiences (1 Thessalonians 4:3-7). Treat sex as God's honorable gift to be awakened only in marriage, and you can reap the sweet reward of a happy, godly life. No explosions. No diseases. No heartache. Just a great love story that can last your whole life. -
care to elaborate...Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:How about a plan for love? That's a even bigger problem than sex. Some people just can't love. -
Couldn't love, couldn't hate, just an extreme lack of feelings...Originally posted by breytonhartge:care to elaborate... -
are you talking about yourself??Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:Couldn't love, couldn't hate, just an extreme lack of feelings... -
this sounds like a person who has complete apathy for the things around them. something in this persons past must have conditioned them to be like that now. is it because this person was once passionate before and had a really bad experience, or that they cared too much and now do not dare risk getting hurt again?Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:Couldn't love, couldn't hate, just an extreme lack of feelings... -
I'm all in for the sex education, however I'm not so sure about the morality/ religious approach to this matter.
Instead, kids should be taught on power of choice and taking responsibility for their life and lives of others. They should be educated on the bare facts that there is no such thing as safe sex except for abstinence. Consequences of STDs and abortions should be shown, not in hope of shock-and-awe, but as an educational tool to broaden their perspectives. -
Not really, just a personality disorder.... The infamous schizoid personality disorder... Never was passionate about something... Unless you want to count me trying to talk to a robot or a computer.Originally posted by breytonhartge:this sounds like a person who has complete apathy for the things around them. something in this persons past must have conditioned them to be like that now. is it because this person was once passionate before and had a really bad experience, or that they cared too much and now do not dare risk getting hurt again? -
read this book called: KAMA SUTRA
lots of text informaiton would be based
on there. -
So then what makes you so passionate about robots or computers?Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:Not really, just a personality disorder.... The infamous schizoid personality disorder... Never was passionate about something... Unless you want to count me trying to talk to a robot or a computer. -
i am imagining the 'simply press the buttons' scenario... mmmm....
its like Homer Simpson.. just more of em.. -
from a believers stand point in knowing Yahweh and accepting Him as sovereign, then one must understand sexuality and sex in the light of its true intent and purpose. Once we can understand that, we then are more fully aware of naunces and implications of our actions. Sex outside of marriage is sin, and in the context of a believer, it will carry grave consequences, beyone the physical. It can cast a great divide between our maker and us. Just my $0.02 worth.Originally posted by kaister:I'm all in for the sex education, however I'm not so sure about the morality/ religious approach to this matter.
Instead, kids should be taught on power of choice and taking responsibility for their life and lives of others. They should be educated on the bare facts that there is no such thing as safe sex except for abstinence. Consequences of STDs and abortions should be shown, not in hope of shock-and-awe, but as an educational tool to broaden their perspectives. -
My job...Originally posted by breytonhartge:So then what makes you so passionate about robots or computers? -
So if you are passionate about your job, then think what about it makes you passionate about it and what can I apply from this to other parts of my life to become more passionate...Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:My job... -
Nah, I just tend to relate to computers and robots better than human beings...I like my job because I need to survive...Originally posted by breytonhartge:So if you are passionate about your job, then think what about it makes you passionate about it and what can I apply from this to other parts of my life to become more passionate...
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there must be a reason why you relate to computers and robots better than you do humans?Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:Nah, I just tend to relate to computers and robots better than human beings...I like my job because I need to survive... -
Comps and robots are working with pure logic while humans are statistical logic creatures and they tend to feel and emotionalize more.Originally posted by breytonhartge:there must be a reason why you relate to computers and robots better than you do humans? -
rational does not mean no emotion... and pure logic is not always the best way... sometimes.Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:Comps and robots are working with pure logic while humans are statistical logic creatures and they tend to feel and emotionalize more. -
Just stating who am I...Originally posted by breytonhartge:rational does not mean no emotion... and pure logic is not always the best way... sometimes.
You don't like it, you can get lost. 
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errr... this is my forum, very hard to get lost....Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:Just stating who am I... You don't like it, you can get lost. 
and did I say I did not like it? you presume too much....
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Cut off all human emotions, then you get rid of plenty of problems...Originally posted by breytonhartge:errr... this is my forum, very hard to get lost....
and did I say I did not like it? you presume too much.... -
and you create just as many... humans were not meant to live without emotions...Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:Cut off all human emotions, then you get rid of plenty of problems...