Friends Don't Let Friends...
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Unfortunately not many can go past beyond the contempt they have for us accumulated over the years... Is it friendship in the first place if they hold little errors we make and accumulated day by day that when we all grow older, any small error we make, those small errors in the past are brought back to add up to the current one?Originally posted by vince69:still can be friends, in my humble opinion,
a true friend is one who can look at all your mistakes and still accept you without condemnation, can see all the differences and still accept you as who you really are.
If there is contempt towards a friend abt it, is added up with new ones and unwilllingness to let it go, what friendship is this to start with? Superficial? -
i oly hve a theory... if u r my frenz, u need to share my sorrow and happiness... when i am rly dwn on my mood... juz accompany me will be great enough to be a frenz of mine liaoz....
True frenz shld be understanding and nt easily taken in by words and turn against u when u r nt in a favourable situation. These ppl r hypocrites and jerks... -
Will you share their sorrow and happiness in return? Accompany them when they are down and be for them when they needed someone?Originally posted by BlUe G@rF|eLd:i oly hve a theory... if u r my frenz, u need to share my sorrow and happiness... when i am rly dwn on my mood... juz accompany me will be great enough to be a frenz of mine liaoz....
True frenz shld be understanding and nt easily taken in by words and turn against u when u r nt in a favourable situation. These ppl r hypocrites and jerks... -
If they kan take me as frenz and share my sorrows.... WHY kant i do it for them! Friendship works both way... if they kan be there for me when i'm dwn! FOr sure i will be there for them if they needs me!Originally posted by Bontakun:Will you share their sorrow and happiness in return? Accompany them when they are down and be for them when they needed someone? -
Then that is good enough. No matter what happens, even if they do not appreciate it, we will do our aprt as friends and more without expecting much from them.Originally posted by BlUe G@rF|eLd:If they kan take me as frenz and share my sorrows.... WHY kant i do it for them! Friendship works both way... if they kan be there for me when i'm dwn! FOr sure i will be there for them if they needs me! -
end of the day, friendship is a transient relationship.... if over the years, circumstances and ideals change, a friendship can turn into a mere acquaintanceship.... and in the mean time.... new friendship(s) are formed.Originally posted by breytonhartge:actually not really an extreme situation, you can be friends with a person when you are younger and have the same ideals and outlooks, but as you grow up, your friend and you change because of life circumstances etc... then the two who were once friends and still are come to have different outlooks and opinions which are in TOTAL conflict, then what? -
If its a true friendship... It will neber neber die off... if a friendship kan die off, then tat person is nt a frenz liaoz.. juz another simple passer-by A.Originally posted by Chin Eng:end of the day, friendship is a transient relationship.... if over the years, circumstances and ideals change, a friendship can turn into a mere acquaintanceship.... and in the mean time.... new friendship(s) are formed. -
don't mean to be rude..... are you quite young?Originally posted by BlUe G@rF|eLd:If its a true friendship... It will neber neber die off... if a friendship kan die off, then tat person is nt a frenz liaoz.. juz another simple passer-by A. -
not easy? I agree with you, but its not impossible, depends on how much values one placed on the relationship (friendship is a relationship).Originally posted by Bontakun:Unfortunately not many can go past beyond the contempt they have for us accumulated over the years... Is it friendship in the first place if they hold little errors we make and accumulated day by day that when we all grow older, any small error we make, those small errors in the past are brought back to add up to the current one?
If there is contempt towards a friend abt it, is added up with new ones and unwilllingness to let it go, what friendship is this to start with? Superficial?
someone once told me, write all the offense in sand, so the wind of time can erase them, cast all the good deeds in stone, where nothing can remove.
how a relationship can last? remember the good things, forget the bad ones.
btw, holding onto an anger/guilt too long, is bad for health.
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Haha, the "Sand" story eh? Nice one. I have learnt that holding onto anger/guilt for so long is no good and I learnt to let it go. Unfortunately this does not applies to many of my friends.Originally posted by vince69:not easy? I agree with you, but its not impossible, depends on how much values one placed on the relationship (friendship is a relationship).
someone once told me, write all the offense in sand, so the wind of time can erase them, cast all the good deeds in stone, where nothing can remove.
how a relationship can last? remember the good things, forget the bad ones.
btw, holding onto an anger/guilt too long, is bad for health. 
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Originally posted by Chin Eng:don't mean to be rude..... are you quite young? I'm nt rly consider young.... Out in the society working...
For me, I hve rly gt friends who we neber see each other for juz so long... 6-7 yrs+.... yet, we still kan remember our bdae... and shld anyting goes wrong... still catch up for a kopi and share some tots here and there...
Some ppl u 1 yr no go find them, occasionally u sms them out for a kopi, their reply is "U r??"...
These r frenz? ... -
Ah... the "bo sim" friends. Makes you wonder should you keep their contact or what. Its your choice.Originally posted by BlUe G@rF|eLd: I'm nt rly consider young.... Out in the society working...
For me, I hve rly gt friends who we neber see each other for juz so long... 6-7 yrs+.... yet, we still kan remember our bdae... and shld anyting goes wrong... still catch up for a kopi and share some tots here and there...
Some ppl u 1 yr no go find them, occasionally u sms them out for a kopi, their reply is "U r??"... These r frenz? ...
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err... again don't mean to be rude..... reading a passage with minimal vowels can be quite painful.Originally posted by BlUe G@rF|eLd: I'm nt rly consider young.... Out in the society working...
For me, I hve rly gt friends who we neber see each other for juz so long... 6-7 yrs+.... yet, we still kan remember our bdae... and shld anyting goes wrong... still catch up for a kopi and share some tots here and there...
Some ppl u 1 yr no go find them, occasionally u sms them out for a kopi, their reply is "U r??"... These r frenz? ...
also some meanings can be changed: "share some tots here and there". My first impression is that you and your friends are a bunch of paedophiles because you share some tots (toddlers)....
back to topic.... as I'd said, what friendship is, is defined by ourselves. We can be linked to one person stronger than another person. Therefore it is possible that, over the years, some people still keep in contact. Unfortunately as we grow older, older links can be severed and newer ones forged. Also unfortunately, one's responsibility in life sometimes help to severe these links.
.... if you still have good friends that you keep in contact... good for you -
we wonder.. where your mind is...Originally posted by Chin Eng:err... again don't mean to be rude..... reading a passage with minimal vowels can be quite painful.
also some meanings can be changed: "share some tots here and there". My first impression is that you and your friends are a bunch of paedophiles because you share some tots (toddlers)....
back to topic.... as I'd said, what friendship is, is defined by ourselves. We can be linked to one person stronger than another person. Therefore it is possible that, over the years, some people still keep in contact. Unfortunately as we grow older, older links can be severed and newer ones forged. Also unfortunately, one's responsibility in life sometimes help to severe these links.
.... if you still have good friends that you keep in contact... good for you 
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and this I would agree, if I am someones friend, I am that friend for life, but if a friendship can die, then maybe we were just good acquaintences?Originally posted by BlUe G@rF|eLd:If its a true friendship... It will neber neber die off... if a friendship kan die off, then tat person is nt a frenz liaoz.. juz another simple passer-by A.
I have some friends who go back all the way from when I was in primary one. -
I am unaccustomed to reading weirdly abbreviated text. Imagine these kind of style appears in your morning paper...Originally posted by breytonhartge:we wonder.. where your mind is... 
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... maybe the harsh reality is that we DON'T have that many friends to start with.Originally posted by breytonhartge:and this I would agree, if I am someones friend, I am that friend for life, but if a friendship can die, then maybe we were just good acquaintences?
I have some friends who go back all the way from when I was in primary one.
... I am glad that I have a circle of friends that knew each other before we all got married, and then got married within the group, now our kids are friends. -
Originally posted by Chin Eng:I am unaccustomed to reading weirdly abbreviated text. Imagine these kind of style appears in your morning paper... but the thought did cross your mind... kekeke ... just teasing.
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and this is probably true. It was something that I had to come to grips with, that I do not have that many friends, I have many good acquaintences... you have a blessed situation. Enjoy it!Originally posted by Chin Eng:... maybe the harsh reality is that we DON'T have that many friends to start with.
... I am glad that I have a circle of friends that knew each other before we all got married, and then got married within the group, now our kids are friends.
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rest assured that nothing evil crossed my mind with the word "tots"..... I prefer older ones, between 12 to 16 yrs.... muaaaah!Originally posted by breytonhartge: but the thought did cross your mind... kekeke ... just teasing. -
you evil evil man....Originally posted by Chin Eng:rest assured that nothing evil crossed my mind with the word "tots"..... I prefer older ones, between 12 to 16 yrs.... muaaaah!