my thoughts/opinions
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Let's say you are in school. You meet this cute girl and you talk to her. At first, she seems so friendly and she's laughing at almost every single thing you say, whether it's funny or not. You are just being yourself.
Then you think to yourself: oh is this girl attracted to me ? Then you ask her out for a date. She says ok. This happens for a few times. Then one day, you notice her interest dropped. She became very cold all of a sudden. She no longer finds you funny. You notice that the chemistry between the two of you is dropping. She begins to turn down your invitations.
So: what the freak happened ?
My thoughts: The first time you talked to her, you created a deep impression on her because you are being your relaxed self. You hold no attachment to her. You don't feel pressured to impress her. Ironically, because you have no pressure to impress, you actually attract her.
Then during the course of the interaction of next few meetings, maybe you realised that she is attracted to you. Because you know she's attracted to you, you are also attracted to her. Suddenly for some reason, she pulls back, you realise you are losing something. You start to do all sorts of funny things like keep calling her, keep msgin her as if you have no other things to do. You find you are not being yourself most of the time.
THEN, she avoids you at all cost.
so, any comments ? girls especially ?
doko -
Humans are the most mysterious creatures in the world
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Perhaps laughing at everything you say is just to entertain you.
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Originally posted by MooKu:Perhaps laughing at everything you say is just to entertain you.
MEAN!
depending on the age group. . . .
im assuming sec school gal are immature. . . .
mentally immature to get in a R/S -
BGR is like a game of poker.
U dont noe her cards
And she dont noe yr cards
Girls always try to guess his cards thru yr emotions
while guys always try to guess her cards thru probablity
y dont u just quit the game n admit tat u lost???
n both of u can view each other's cards -
it only shows one thing..
interests fade..
first week, everything is good..
2nd week, phone call and some msgs..
then 3 week, 5 msgs a week..
then no contact..
then she will come up with excuses?
even though you know you are playing with fire, you just go ahead and play..
till you get burned..
maybe you ain't that handsome,
not rich, not interesting..
but if she doesnt reply your calls and msgs, don't keep msging or calling..
last thing you want is for her to ignore.. -
move on
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I think you're on the right track if you focus on a girl's interest level because that is all that counts in the dating phase. Since she is starting to pull back, hammering/pressuring her with phone calls will just make it worse.Originally posted by dokono:Let's say you are in school. You meet this cute girl and you talk to her. At first, she seems so friendly and she's laughing at almost every single thing you say, whether it's funny or not. You are just being yourself.
Then you think to yourself: oh is this girl attracted to me ? Then you ask her out for a date. She says ok. This happens for a few times. Then one day, you notice her interest dropped. She became very cold all of a sudden. She no longer finds you funny. You notice that the chemistry between the two of you is dropping. She begins to turn down your invitations.
So: what the freak happened ?
My thoughts: The first time you talked to her, you created a deep impression on her because you are being your relaxed self. You hold no attachment to her. You don't feel pressured to impress her. Ironically, because you have no pressure to impress, you actually attract her.
Then during the course of the interaction of next few meetings, maybe you realised that she is attracted to you. Because you know she's attracted to you, you are also attracted to her. Suddenly for some reason, she pulls back, you realise you are losing something. You start to do all sorts of funny things like keep calling her, keep msgin her as if you have no other things to do. You find you are not being yourself most of the time.
THEN, she avoids you at all cost.
so, any comments ? girls especially ?
doko
A date who avoids you and pulls a disappearing act can only mean low interest level (be it male or female). Why try to keep somebody who doesn't want your company? If she is avoiding you, then back off. Delete her number since you have poor self control.
*pats*
You'll be fine. Just part and parcel of life.
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my girl love my swag n just ride me wild at 2nd time i talked to her
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Wow my heart stopped for a moment in shock.Originally posted by maskedangel: MEAN!
depending on the age group. . . .
im assuming sec school gal are immature. . . .
mentally immature to get in a R/S
Such a strong response!
I don't think I'm mean.
I could be wrong in interpreting the situation, but laughing along even when you don't find the other party's jokes funny, I do that sometimes to be polite. 
Surely you don't want to let your newfound friend feel like he is such a turn-off at the start right? -
yeah! imagine the guy tells a joke and the girl goes ...Originally posted by MooKu:Wow my heart stopped for a moment in shock.
Such a strong response!
I don't think I'm mean. I could be wrong in interpreting the situation, but laughing along even when you don't find the other party's jokes funny, I do that sometimes to be polite. Surely you don't want to let your newfound friend feel like he is such a turn-off at the start right?
awkward..
but something is for certain, if you think the girl is pretty/cute..
there would be many other guys who think so too..
so it's not only you after her.. -
I've seen cases of guys/girls turning 180 degrees suddenly one day on that girl/guy who is trying to date or woo him/her.
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Look at MooKu signature and u will know the answer.Originally posted by redstone:I've seen cases of guys/girls turning 180 degrees suddenly one day on that girl/guy who is trying to date or woo him/her.